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SunnyDays09

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I AM A MIL
« on: September 09, 2009, 04:34:26 PM »
 AND I DESERVE TO BE HERE.
   
  I AM NOT LEAVING. 

   

AnnieB

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Re: I AM A MIL
« Reply #1 on: September 09, 2009, 05:00:51 PM »
 ;D  I enjoy this forum, too!    ::)

chickiebaby

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Re: I AM A MIL
« Reply #2 on: September 09, 2009, 05:00:58 PM »
I hope all MILs will feel free to post. 

AnnieB

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Re: I AM A MIL
« Reply #3 on: September 09, 2009, 05:07:55 PM »
I think all are welcome here, according to the admins - luise and her son.

Maybe we should remind visitors to look at the admin rules and refresh it for ourselves, so we don't say unkind things to sister MIL's simply because we don't like the way they respond to our posts or how they interact with DIL's who post here  :):     

"Simply put, members are to act and post respectfully. There may be situations where you feel a member is being abusive or hostile to you or has addressed a particular topic of discussion inappropriately. This does not give you permission to respond in a similarly inappropriate way. If you stand up for yourself in a calm, respectful manner, you'll find yourself quickly earning kudos from the membership and management. The Moderators are given sole discretion in determining whether a comment is baiting and will respond accordingly."

More of the guidelines or rules can be found here http://www.wisewomenunite.com/index.php/topic,29.0.html

Peace out.

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Re: I AM A MIL
« Reply #4 on: September 09, 2009, 08:09:20 PM »
I just posted this on another thread and I think it bears repeating here. Luise

Well, we are doing our best.

This is a newish site and your moderator, (me), is on a learn-as-you go path. DILs haven't been banned in spite of our name, because they often bring wisdom, a different take on things and some seem to really want to know how to connect. Some have been delighted to find a site that wasn't a MIL bashing entity. Conversely, our intent was never to go for the throat and bash DILs across the board.

I don't know the first thing about how or why someone would create multiple identities. I'm not going to ask my webmaster to police that, his plate is already too full. How can the person keep their postings straight? (I couldn't.)

It's not easy to feel strongly and still respect an apposing point of view. Flaming and baiting are hard to identify...it's pretty subjective. Case in point, I apparently saw dignity where there either was none, or it was a matter of interpretation. And generalizations can be deadly. All DILs are not horrific. Neither are all MILs.

Why not just post on threads where you feel comfortable and pass on the ones where you don't? Or why not start a new thread if you don't like the existing ones?

Why choose sides and take up arms? I would suggest that anyone (MIL or DIL) seriously interested in war move on and create their own forum-battlefield if it's blood they're after. I wonder if www.axetogrind.com is taken. If not, you're welcome to it.

This site is about support and resolution. That's what I wrote about at the top of the Home Page and we have already had a great deal of that. At the same time, to disagree is human and it's the stuff forums are made of. To attack and counter attack, however, seems childish to me and counter productive. Childish being the operative word.

This is, in essence, your forum. It wouldn't amount to much if I sat at my computer all day talking to myself. If you use it to tear each other to shreds, that's how it will end up.

If anyone sees clearly that our agreement isn't being kept and can give me the name of the person who has decided to be a troublemaker, message me and I will look into it and after a warning, remove that person if need be...(whether MIL or DIL.)

Peace, Luise
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SunnyDays09

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Re: I AM A MIL
« Reply #5 on: September 10, 2009, 05:38:54 AM »
 I will. shall.  gonna? 

  I always pick and choose.  If I feel a little "heat" I stay away. 
   It's a very classy group.  Some people may come here to cause drama.  If they are ignored, they will go away.  Just don't keep them fed!! 

chickiebaby

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Re: I AM A MIL
« Reply #6 on: September 10, 2009, 05:42:26 AM »
Great idea!  Just ignore those who attack you.  We can do that.  The MILs who have left?  PLEASE COME BACK!!  We are here to support everyone. 

yodeling aye eee hooo yodel aye eee hoo!!

SunnyDays09

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Re: I AM A MIL
« Reply #7 on: September 10, 2009, 06:13:51 AM »
we can take it.  we iz tuff.  here, have a cookie.  :)

chickiebaby

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Re: I AM A MIL
« Reply #8 on: September 10, 2009, 06:36:24 AM »
HDs, you are so funny.  Here, have a cookie.  Cookies always make me feel better.  No matter the problem, you can fix it with chocolate!  Well, most things. 

SunnyDays09

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Re: I AM A MIL
« Reply #9 on: September 10, 2009, 07:02:44 AM »
Cookies are fun.  And probably the reason my triglycerides are high.  But oh well.   

   

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Re: I AM A MIL
« Reply #10 on: September 10, 2009, 08:47:55 AM »
I even have cookies on my computer!  :D :D
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« Reply #11 on: September 10, 2009, 09:06:01 AM »
I even have cookies on my computer!  :D :D

* AnnieB snickers, even though she never has quite understood those computer cookies and prefers chocolate chips ones you can actually eat.

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Re: I AM A MIL
« Reply #12 on: September 10, 2009, 09:10:05 AM »
Well, come to think about it..I like Snickers, too! ;D ;D
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AnnieB

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Re: I AM A MIL
« Reply #13 on: September 10, 2009, 09:15:42 AM »
Unwrapping Snickers, handing them around

SunnyDays09

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Re: I AM A MIL
« Reply #14 on: September 10, 2009, 09:42:33 AM »
just taking a small bite and oh what the heck.  Snickers for breakfast.  Yummmmmm