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That Happened To Me, As Well

Started by luise.volta, February 14, 2018, 11:33:40 am

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From Jools: I too have the same DIL situation. My son goes along with whatever she does & his family are alienated because he will not stand his ground. Its all about her family. She is a Narcissist & she has over the past 10 years driven a wedge through our once tight knit family. My daughter has suffered abuse from my DIL at the tender age of 14 when we went on holiday with my Son & DIL.[/size]My daughter never speaks to my son & she has been isolated from him by DIL.I have 2 Grandchildren from her & was told before the first was born that if I didn't apologise for telling her off about the abuse she did to my daughter I would never see my Grandchild. Both my husband & myself spoke to my son & told him that if that was what he wanted then so be it. We have been allowed into our Grandys lives but there are constant abusive things that DIL does to us. They come home to visit her family & stay with them & we get a few rushed hours to see the kids. We are always treated as the low life side of the family & get dished up left overs. It will not change. We will not however tolerate abuse so we only communicate thru our son to see, skype or call our Grandys. Its a very sad situation & I have no answers.I find myself wishing that one day my son will see what she is & will leave with the kids.She is truly the most spiteful nasty person I have ever encountered. Jools
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luise.volta

Welcome, Jools, I moved your post, so you can have your own thread.


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For me, accepting my eldest son's choice of a partner and the lessons he brought into his life as a result, was full of lessons for me, as well. He was an adult and no matter how inexperienced, they were his lessons. My years had brought me more wisdom but it was mine, not his. My expectations were for an expanded family not a broken one. That was long ago and I now have a grown grandson I am close to. Hang in there!
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama