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Offline Mel

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My eldest now has my teenagers
« on: December 15, 2015, 01:33:11 PM »
I feel shut out and my eldest seems to enjoy making me suffer such a long story but I can't help resenting her for siding with them against me

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Re: My eldest now has my teenagers
« Reply #1 on: December 15, 2015, 01:41:22 PM »
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Also I will move your post to the category it represents. Be back soon!
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Re: My eldest now has my teenagers
« Reply #2 on: December 15, 2015, 01:52:16 PM »
OK...I'm back.

I don't know your story but I want you to know that this is the place we share and find that others care. There are often many different points of view. Take what you want and leave the rest.

The one thing I have learned, that may only apply to me and not to anyone else,
is that no one can any longer 'make me feel' a certain way. I choose that. Since
I don't like suffering, I don't go there. I may not like what they do but I move on with my life and refuse to let their abuse control me. To me, what matters most
is my own well being. If that sounds selfish...I am willing to be called that.

Sending hugs...
« Last Edit: December 15, 2015, 04:23:42 PM by luise.volta »
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Re: My eldest now has my teenagers
« Reply #3 on: December 15, 2015, 03:41:33 PM »
Brilliant, Luise! You inspire me!

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Re: My eldest now has my teenagers
« Reply #4 on: December 16, 2015, 02:35:57 PM »
I am not sure what the problem is, but know that others are sympathetic and maybe in the same boat as you. I highly suggest the books and articles listed on this forum. A good counselor is worth the money and can help you decide if these are such highly toxic relationships that you are better off not in contact with them. Dr Joshua Coleman also has a good website for parents of alienated adult children.

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Re: My eldest now has my teenagers
« Reply #5 on: December 16, 2015, 03:11:09 PM »
Yes, go to our HomePage and scroll down to Helpful Resources...there's some great recommendations there.
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