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Thoughts from Elizabeth Gilbert (author of Eat, Pray, Love) re: families

Started by Pen, November 22, 2014, 07:13:30 am

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Pen

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/11/21/elizabeth-gilbert-advice-life-you-want_n_6201002.html

In the video clip she reminds us to practice "mini quests" (such as finding something beautiful, or some other challenge) every day. The article below it discusses family button-pushing. I especially like the quote at the end about "loving some people from a great distance."

Happy holidays :)
Respect ... is appreciation of the separateness of the other person, of the ways in which he or she is unique.
-- Annie Gottlieb

Pooh

We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

PatiencePlease

Hmmmm.....  Well, I do "love" these family members -- how could I not?  I shared my childhood with them.... But I also recognize for 30+ years I have been subject to being treated like a doormat or I was ignored all together.  For years and years I tried to fix it, but finally I woke up & grew wiser and let it go.  No longer do I have expectations.  Makes all the difference.  And living far away from them helps a lot too.  :) :) :)

luise.volta

Me, too, P. I love the Magic Land of No Expectations. When I find myself reconstructing them... ???...I let them go...again!
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama