Hi ladies. I do hope all are doing better and moving forward. DD has become more isolated , controlled and distant. She now is at home with a 2 year old and a 6 month old trying to work part time . All of her best friends from childhood thru present are worried about her as they feel she has dropped off the face of the earth. They have tried to reach out to her but she is short with them, defensive and makes excuses why she has not kept in touch. I can totally understand. The strange part is she is suppose to go into work one day a week they have not seen her since Sept 2013. That is not like her at all, she has always had a strong work ethic, I didn't know until her best friend told me her dh wanted her to quit work when they got married before babies. The real issue is her dad ( step dad only one she has ever known ) has bladder cancer, two surgeries and we start on the treatment this tue. So far no visit just a brief call right before surgery. A very different daughter from the time he had open heart surgery a month before her wedding . She was on top of it all. I['m over so much of it but this cancer situation has brought some of those hurts back to the surface . I still try to go visit during the week but have not been since right after xmas and not sure when I will be able to go back. It is hard to go as the beautiful person she was is gone and I dont'[ recognize the daughter she is now . It is like she has died and I can'[t love this one as I did the other one . I do believe she is in a very bad situation, I do think there is emotional abuse as well as financial. I just pray no physical . I know she won't come to me about it and now she has a few new friends through her exercise class , which is safe for her as they are not a threat to him evidently. I dont'[ think she would confide in them and they didnt'[ know her before to know the person she was . Ok got to get my self going today . Love Kisses and Hugs to you all