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My MIL
« on: November 08, 2010, 11:21:28 PM »
 She's always so gracious, kind and caring. I've honestly never heard her speak a harsh word about anyone. I am so lucky to have her in my life. Her gentle smile and huggy-touch have soothed so many boo-boos and aching hearts.

We learned today that she has stage 4 cancer. No warning. She felt fine until last week.   :'(

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« Reply #1 on: November 08, 2010, 11:35:34 PM »
I am so very , very sorry about your dear MIL........ I so loved both of mine and could not understand all the jokes about them.  It sounds like yours is a special good person..............I wish for the best......

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« Reply #2 on: November 09, 2010, 03:58:17 AM »
J,

Your comments about your MIL are like a breath of fresh air.  How wonderful that you have her, and that she has you.  I am so very sorry about her cancer.  I pray there will be hope for her.  If you get a chance, please write more about her.  I am sure she is a wonderful person, but she is also so lucky to have you as a DIL, because you obviously appreciate and care for her rather than going on the hunt for faults.  I wonder what makes you different?  I wonder what gift the higher power gave you, to see your MIL as a person?  And to love her?

She is very seriously ill, but now in her hour of need she has a loving DIL and family.  That at least will be a rock to lean on in the worst times.

Baskets of flowers to you both, know that thoughts of healing and prayers for that are with you as you travel the treacherous new path,

Kathleen

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« Reply #3 on: November 09, 2010, 05:50:31 AM »
What sad news. I'm very sorry to hear that your MIL and all of you are going through this, but how comforting it must be to know you have each other during this time. Thank you for letting us know so we can be here for you, too.

A dear friend of mine is on a similar path, healthy one day and Stage 4 the next. She was fortunate enough to be able to access City of Hope and has had amazing results. I'll put positive energy towards such an outcome for your MIL, J. Please take care.
Respect ... is appreciation of the separateness of the other person, of the ways in which he or she is unique.
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« Reply #4 on: November 09, 2010, 07:15:33 AM »
So sorry jomama to hear that.  What devastating news.  I am so glad she has you.  Thoughts and hugs to you both.
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
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« Reply #5 on: November 09, 2010, 09:23:37 AM »
so sorry to hear of such news J.   i so hate the "C" word!!! its the most unforgiving disease! prayers are being sent to you and yours!  during this difficult time J, please remember to take care of your health as well.  your dh will need you now.
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« Reply #6 on: November 09, 2010, 10:18:24 AM »
Thank you all for being here. It means so much to me.

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« Reply #7 on: November 09, 2010, 11:25:35 AM »
Sending love...
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

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« Reply #8 on: November 13, 2010, 07:05:01 PM »
A little update-
 We've moved MIL to hospice;all we can do is manage the pain, keep her comfortable, and pray- and wait.

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« Reply #9 on: November 13, 2010, 07:06:52 PM »
We are all with you. I mean that.
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

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« Reply #10 on: November 14, 2010, 07:01:01 AM »
Sorry about your MIL Jomama. My (EX) MIL was one of my best friends and died of lung cancer 2 and a half yrs ago. I work nights, and so went to her home to take care of her so my SIL could work. I spent nights on days off. After 7 months we lost her. My prayers are with you. Isn't is great to have a good relationship with MIL!!! My MIL (I remarried 21 yrs ago), has been challenging! UNDERSTATEMENT. She's almost 85,dementia, in denial. POA, one BIL, lives out of town, lets her drive though she hit car in parking lot 5 yrs ago, ripped front off and dragged it behind her car, was not aware until cops told her! BIL got mad as we suggested she not drive so contact cut almost 4 yrs ago. He doesn't want to upset her, even though it's a danger. She has fallen and broken arm requiring surgery, just had quad bypass 4 yrs ago, writes letters to police chief saying homeless people are sleeping in her car (locked),thinks she works for drug strike force, says we are stealing her Bible bookmark or lotion, one winter refused heat as she "smelled" carbon monoxide, she is scammed financially...a mess. POA buries head in sand. Sorry to ramble on, it's so sad we lose loved ones to"C" and other nasty issues. Wishing you peace in this difficult time. You are a good DIL, and you are both lucky you've had a great relationship. Blessings.

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« Reply #11 on: November 14, 2010, 08:10:20 AM »
I'm sorry, wishing you the best.
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« Reply #12 on: November 14, 2010, 08:30:37 AM »
I'm very sorry

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« Reply #13 on: November 14, 2010, 08:36:51 AM »
Thinking of you, Jo. I hope she's comfortable and at peace, and that you and your family take care of yourselves during this time.
Respect ... is appreciation of the separateness of the other person, of the ways in which he or she is unique.
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