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QuoteFriends... I need encouragement. I am not going to write a book.. I'm going to give you a few sentences.. It will suffice.
As some of you know, I have an adult son, age 45 that has lived with my husband and I since he got out of the military 10 years ago. He is an alcoholic. He can barely keep himself clean or keep up his room, or continue to hold a part time job. Which he does.. but to buy booze. I had to have him physically removed from my home last Sunday as he was out of control. He currently is in a VA facility. This is his 2nd stay at rehab this year. I have told him he cannot return to my home.. I am petrified what will happen to him... I am sad.... I am sick to my stomach and to my heart. Did I do the right thing? How do I stay strong.. ?? He is begging to come home.. I just cannot have him here... but I cannot let him die in the streets.. He is a wonderful person.. sober.. but not when he is drunk.. I cannot chance it. but I need strength.
Quote from: confusedbyinlaws on August 24, 2015, 03:05:32 pm
I do understand that it hurts. I didn't mean to give the impression that I didn't understand that. I was just trying to suggest that it might not hurt as much if you don't take it personally. It's my opinion that childbirth is mostly about the mother and what she needs. It is about her. But it's not fair to cut the MIL out of the children's lives just because you don't like her or don't feel comfortable, unless of course there is a concern for the child's wellbeing. It doesn't sound like any of the MILs here have been cut out because of concern of the child's wellbeing and I understand that is not fair.
Quote from: love3 on July 10, 2015, 07:05:58 pm
Still learning, the anger problems came from traumatic times and events in his/our childhood, and it escalated into him being a selfish and uncaring person. My parents have done their mistakes to contribute definitely! BUT they were always good people, always. As for the person he became, that was not my parents fault he choose his path.
I'm sure you all get the picture alittle more, now, hopefully! Thank you all oh so much for listening I love hearing all your opinions and thoughts !