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Quote from: luise.volta on January 23, 2021, 07:10:00 pmDear M., I have read your post several times and I have no suggestion except to let it go, move on with your life, and hope your grandchildren seek you out when they become adults. You did your best raising your son and get to have a life now that your biological role is complete and he is an adult. Many hugs.Thank you Luise. I am becoming resigned to this reality. I really don't see this situation getting better so I probably just needed to hear that. Although I know my post was long, there is so much more and most of it is pretty horrible. When I read it back to myself (and other posts I've written) I realize just how much I have allowed. I do know that we raised our sons in a fun, caring and loving home, so my job in that regard is done. I have always accepted they would move on in their lives and choose partners that might not be perfect, but this really is beyond anything I ever imagined. Every decision I've made regarding this relationship has been based on fear, rather than love. Time for acceptance and some self-love.