Other than that I agree with Luise. I can only change myself and by and large every time I have tried to suggest that my DS do something differently I have run into a brick wall. So I learned to focus my life around things that make me happy and ignore the parts I cannot change that make me upset. My parenting time is over, my DS's parenting time is here. He will learn his lessons just like I did.
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