Now as to your problem you really haven't given us much to comment on so I will be shooting in the dark but I will give it a whirl. My DS was completely unaware that he was "playing games" with me. I was well aware of it but I still kept playing because, after all, he is my son and I didn't want to loose him forever and since games were the only way of keeping in touch, well, what else could I do? I was so incredibly upset and I could not see any way out. I forgot that there is always a way out. I stopped playing. I stopped calling him to stay in touch. I stopped texting him to see what was happening. I stopped running after him begging to be included in his life. I just quit. It wasn't easy. I had to force myself to stop. I had to rehearse and repeat my mantras:
1) No news is good news
2) Not my circus, not my monkeys
3) What I focus on expands
Using these sayings to recenter myself many times a day I eventually broke the "I've gotta fix this" habit and I have grown to accept that his life is his to live, including if he messes it up. It has taken years but he has come around. I think that I was stuck in the habit of treating him like my son instead of treating him as the adult he is. I still object to some of the things he does but I keep to my own counsel unless he asks for advice (which he almost never does). With practice I have managed to start focusing my thoughts on the things that bring me joy and my life in general has improved beyond belief. Thinking about my DS's situation still causes me grief so I still try to avoid dwelling on it. As a matter of fact when my siblings or friends ask about him I always repeat my circus mantra and they hush. I hope this helps.