It happened to me when I married twenty years ago. My step son and step DIL did that. I was, (because I was 16 years younger), obviously a gold digger. I have no idea how they got that going since my husband had very little....but they started right out rude, cold and rejecting. My sons and their wives, in comparison, took the time to get acquainted and treated my husband with the warmth and respect he deserved. A huge contrast.