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"Welcome to WiseWomenUnite.com -- When adult children marry and leave home, life can sometimes get more complex instead of simpler.  Being a mother-in-law or daughter-in-law can be tough.  How do we extend love and support to our mothers-in-law, adult children, daughters-in-law, sons-in-law, and grandchildren without interfering?  What do we do when there are communication problems?  How can we ask for help when we need it without being a burden?  And how do our family members feel about these issues?  We invite you to join our free forum, read some posts... and when you're ready...share your challenges and wisdom."

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Topics - luise.volta

Helpful Resources / From Monroe - Thank you!
June 06, 2015, 12:02:16 pm
I think that many of the women in their 20's and 30's are very self-absorbed.  There's a book by Ron Alsop, called The Trophy Kids Grow Up.  It is about how millennials are presenting challenges to employers, because, he says, they are the  "most demanding and most coddled generation in history".
Welcome, J. We ask all new members to go to our HomePage and under Open Me First, to read the 5 posts placed there for you. Please pay special attention to the 'Forum Agreement' to be sure WWU is a fit for you. We are a monitored Website.

I removed your post because there were personal details not needed here for us to be able to get what you are up against and respond to you. If you read other posts in our archives, you will see that having adult children who attempt to use there moms as scapegoats...blaming them for everything they don't want to take the blame for themselves, is something many of us have had to try to work our way through. The circumstances are different, of course...but the pain and suffering is all too familiar. If you would like to post again more discreetly after reading the 5 posts I mentioned in my first paragraph, please do so. Often a caring community can be of great help. Many of us here felt pretty alone with what we were left to deal with.
Adult Sons and/or Adult Daughters / 'Lost Post'
April 20, 2015, 07:24:32 pm
Will the woman who posted 'Extremely Frustrated with DD' please respond here. I accidentally removed your post but have a copy. I can't put it back up because I don't recall your User Name. If you give me that...I will restore it for you. I'm so sorry.
Grab Bag / My New Signature Quote
April 10, 2015, 11:41:08 am
Webmaster, Kirk, (DS), just sent me this:

"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes it's a quiet voice at the end of the day saying, I'll try again tomorrow." -- Mary Ann Radmacher
Grab Bag / My New Signature Quote
April 10, 2015, 11:40:28 am
Webmaster, Kirk, (DS), just sent me this:

"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes it's a quiet voice at the end of the day saying, I'll try again tomorrow." -- Mary Ann Radmacher
Grab Bag / I'm 88 Years Old Today
March 09, 2015, 11:24:01 am
  ;D I'm writing to each and every one of you, thanking you for enriching my life. I started this WebForum so long ago, I will have to ask our Webmaster, my son Kirk, when it all began and how many posts we have logged in. A friend of mine who is married to a guy from Japan, wrote that 88 is the luckiest number there is. May you all reach it as I have: healthy, happy and with a life full of love and adventure! ;D
Grab Bag / Spell Check
September 26, 2014, 06:59:11 am
Is anyone here having trouble with Spell Check?
Adult Sons and/or Adult Daughters / The WHY Question.
September 01, 2014, 12:16:58 pm
I was truly happy to find this web site because I feel it will be very helpful. My story begins with the reaction I have received from my adult sons concerning the breakup of a marriage from their father.  We have been divorced now for 17 years but were living together again due to financial reasons.  The relationship was completely over two years before I moved out of the house.  My two younger sons have not spoken to me now for just about 3 years.  I do not get to see my grandchildren.  I am in a new relationship and that person is my ex-husbands ex-brother-in-law.  His wife expired over 5 years ago.  I have been excused of having affairs, being a liar, a crazy person and much more.  I have tried everything I can think of to try to get  them to talk to me about why they have reacted this way and neither one will answer a question I ask.  They will not even here what I have to say.  If I have hurt them in anyway I am open for discussion but nothing comes from that either.  I know there have been many lies told to them by their father but what hurts me the most is they have never even tried to ask me anything.  They just went with what their father said and it was law.  What has made 2 boys who I love very dearly completely close the door on their own mother. This situation is taking the joy from my very happy new relationship of 3 years.  I miss my sons and my grandchildren very much.  I have one granddaughter born almost 2 years ago whom I have never laid eyes on.  I have to move on but the WHY question in always on my mind.  Help if you can!

Grab Bag / Our Webmaster's Birthday
July 13, 2014, 09:53:25 am
Kirk, my youngest, turned 59 yesterday and Sandy created this silly video of the three of us plus Rosa, my pup. I'm the one wearing glasses... ;)

Grab Bag / 87th Birthday
March 09, 2014, 08:26:15 pm
I celebrated my 87th today. Kirk and gang took me out to eat. I got tons of cards and flowers and gifts and calls from New Mexico, Texas and Nevada. Wonderful! :-) I can't believe I'm starting my 88th year!
Grab Bag / Second Annual WWU Imaginary Holiday Cruise
December 09, 2013, 10:00:58 am
LC - Thank you for reminding us on another thread that it's time to get out our suitcases and start packing for our Second Annual WWU Cruise!

OK...I'm getting a suite with a private deck again because that worked out so well last year. I am definitely a 'social-recluse' for lack of a better term. The diet I went on yesterday has me back to a perfect size six overnight and so I'm off to the Web to shop for cute clothes. I've asked the Captain to be sure he remembers to bring back some of those guys who danced like a dream and to put together that high-calorie-no-problem menu for us that worked so well last year.

Who's going to join me?
Daughter in Laws and/or Son in Laws / New Picture
November 29, 2013, 07:46:44 pm
This picture of me with my "ex"-DIL was taken yesterday. I've mentioned her before. We decided not to get divorced in the 1980s when she and my son didn't make it. On Thanksgiving Day she drove over an icy, mountain pass to be with me at my retirement home because I find that large gatherings, even my own family really tire me. I just love her to pieces!
Grab Bag / New 'Picture'
November 04, 2013, 04:06:53 pm
I just love to eat...so switched to this self-portrait.  :D
Grab Bag / Hi Nik!
September 30, 2013, 07:47:34 pm
How are you doing? Just saw your post on another thread! Have missed you! Sending love... :)
Adult Sons and/or Adult Daughters / New Here
September 25, 2013, 03:33:34 pm
I am mandogirl55. I am new to this site and so thankful to have found it today-all the posts have helped me to know I am not the only mom out there whose adult children disrespect her.
Grab Bag / It's Our Webmaster's Birthday!
July 12, 2013, 01:43:47 pm
Today is my youngest son's, 58th birthday!! Thank you, Kirk, for Webmastering us! Love you hugely, Mom ! :D :D :D
Three years ago today our Webmaster, DS Kirk, launched www.WiseWomenUnite.com My deep thanks to each and every one of you for your contributions here. Without you, it would be an empty page. And I especially want to thank you for letting me be your cyber-mom!  :D

In honor of this occasion Kirk has restored the "edit post" feature, as requested! And he is working on LC's idea for a new category under Resources: "Needing To Vent And Be Heard. There are times for most of us when we don't need advice or simply aren't ready for it. We want to share what we are holding in and have that be OK. Just knowing that someone is listening, has "been there' and understands can sometimes make all the difference."

Sending love...
Grab Bag / Having A Bad Day
May 09, 2013, 07:03:23 pm
If I had thought of it...I would have created a "Bad Day" category on this Forum because we all have them and we need each other when that happens. So, I hope this thread will be a kind of Welcome Mat that's out for us at those times. Thanks, LC, for the idea.  :)

My bad day is being sick and having to go on antibiotics after my 5 day vacation with DS in California last week. I have COPD and my guess is that it's from the recirculated air on the plane. There was also air pollution north of L.A. (Ventura) where we stayed plus a 6,000 acre wild fire close by and smoke.  :(