Both my son and daughter (ages 20 and 17) refuse to be in the house with my relatively new partner. About 6 weeks ago, i found that my partner was still seeing an ex girlfriend - this has now finished and there are many reasons and surrounding issues as to why i want to re unite with him and make the relationship work. The ex girlfriend was a predator and although that is no excuse, she promised to make life difficult for him if he didnt agree to see her. I know this woman and also know that she has psycho issues!
My partner and I have come to terms with what has happened and want to move forward. He is a kind and caring person and we get along very well together. But my children see the hurt he caused me and refuse to see him.
My son has been living with his girlfriend for some months now, but hasnt been to my house to see me for two weeks. My daughter goes to stay with her boyfriend if my partner is coming to dinner.
Its almost as if I am denied any kind of happiness. They can do what they like, have friends over, see who they want, be pig headed about everything etc etc. Its like they are emotionally blackmailing me into doing what they want me to do!
I am going into this with my eyes open. If i stuff up, I am a big enough girl to take the blame if the relationship fails. But i want to see my children!
Thoughts???