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Grandchildren / Raising Grandkids
September 20, 2018, 10:00:24 am
Since two of my grandsons were born, I raised them from diapers to teens.  After having the kids in their first four years, I adopted them because my daughter and the father were willing to relinquish their parental rights.  My husband and I nurtured, sent them to school, paid their hospital and dental bills, got involved in their sports activities -- you name it we did it. The reward -- the biological father undermines us and tells the boys we took them away from him, wouldn't let him raise them -- although he chose not to come visit them.  To date, my grandsons have alientated my husband and I.  Family and friends who were an outstanding support system for the boys cannot understand why -- nor can we.

I am hurt, but I have no regrets. Though their last words to us were mean, spiteful, hateful, and sometimes even threatening, we know we did all we could do as parents. Even when those boys eventually got into trouble with the police -- we were there.  Some days I cry more than others.  I love them and I always will.