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Daughter in Laws and/or Son in Laws / Getting Back
August 27, 2016, 05:11:14 pm
Hey, sweet ladies.  I have been off this site for a while because we switched to Windows 10 and I lost all my pinned boards, etc.  But I'm back with a bang.  Gotta start catching up!
Not literally, but I'd like to.  A couple of weeks ago I asked my 2 adult sons to give me their Christmas lists as I do every year.  I also sent a msg on FB to my DIL and asked her to have 10 year old grand son mail me his list.  So, I get the letter (very sweet) and immediately went on line and ordered the 3 things he had asked for.  Sent another msg to DIL that I had ordered everything on the list.  Then, the next day I get a email from son who said he read the msg on FB and that he hoped I had not ordered so and so because of so and so.  I then sent him a email that I had ordered EXACTLY what was on the list and I certainly hoped that he did not think I was that stupid to order stuff out of the sky instead of what was on the list.  Then he gave me a couple of ideas about what they wanted (which was great) but the manner he wrote was very condescending, etc.  They will get the items, but next year it will be what I chose to give them.  Needless to say, his father is taking care of the items on the list. 

This is just a rant - the joys of motherhood.  On the other hand all my 3 year old GD wants is a lollipop!   That should be easy peasy to purchase.
Grab Bag / My MIL
July 05, 2013, 06:48:10 am
passed away last night around 8:30.  She was a sweet gentle woman who had struggled for the past year without her sweetie.  She joined him in Heaven last night and I'm sure there was a great fireworks show going on there.  They were married almost 72 years and they were both very proud of that! 
Grandchildren / Trick or Treat
October 31, 2012, 11:52:29 am
Spent a couple of hours this morning with DH and 2 year old granddaughter trick or treating in our small downtown area.  Most of the merchants give out candy, etc..  We had the best time just watching how much she enjoyed everything.  She looked like one of the chick filet cows and everyone thought she was cute as a button.  Of course, we thought she was the cutest one there!  She got to pet a couple of dogs and see lots of other kids dressed up and having a good time.  We took her back to her day care so she could be involved in the Halloween party there.
Grandchildren / Today
June 11, 2012, 04:59:06 pm
I flew up to Chicago and picked my GS up and flew back to Atlanta with him.  He will be staying until Sunday and we will drive him back home on Monday.  On Thursday this week I will have him and my GD all day long!  Could not ask for anything any better. 
Grab Bag / My sister
January 22, 2012, 06:55:38 am
I know that I posted a few weeks ago about my sister who was diagnosed with early onset dementia.  She passed away on Wed, Jan 18th of a massive heart attack.  Our family has been broken apart as we have been dealing with her illness.  Hopefully, things will get on the right path soon.  She is in a much better place and we would have never wanted her to live the way she was.  God answered our prayers that her suffering would not linger for years and now she's bouncing around heaven trying to help anyone she can! 

No responses required, just keep us in your prayers. 
DD & SIL have a dd who is 15 months old.  SIL's DB & SIL have a 6 month old.  SIL's dad want's to babysit both GD's at one time.  MIL is so - so with the kids and really does not have much to do with either of them.  DD is hesitant to let FIL keep both kids at one time.  I suggested that next time the 4 young people got together for dinner (at BIL's) that they let FIL keep the GD's while they are eating - 45 minutes to an hour.  That way, they can all see how he copes.  At least FIL can put the 6 month old in pack n' play while he runs after the oldest one. 
Grandchildren / I'm thinking my Grandma name is gonna be:
December 12, 2011, 06:17:30 am
Fa la la instead of Fafe.  GD will say FLL over and over.  Carry on, just wanted to share. 
Grab Bag / Bon Voyage (sp) to me
November 10, 2011, 06:13:32 pm
Told y'all I was only leaving my kids a paid for house and two paid for (old) cars.  Going on an Eastern Carribean cruise on Sat.  Leaving in the morning for Ft Lauderdale.  See y'all in a week or so.

Grab Bag / Changing /Washing Sheets Post
October 26, 2011, 06:14:39 am
I do not remember which post it was in about whether the MIL had washed the sheets before her DS & DIL went to visit.  But here, we have a standing joke - generally with my siblings.  I have told them all that there is a 2 night limit and if I knew that they did not get the sheets dirty, then I just sprayed them with Linen Spray until they had been used at least one more time.  Cuts down on company!  Seriously, I do not do that, but have spent many holidays changing sheets about 4 times for 2 bedrooms having had company coming and going for a couple of weeks!  Otherwise, I don't have that much spend the night company, so I don't have to change them a lot. There's at least one set of linens that I even iron when I change them out. 

You just have to cut yourself a little slack every now and then.  So, what is your favorite housekeeping tip to minimize chores?
Grandchildren / Don't want to sound like I'm gloating.....
September 30, 2011, 02:07:04 pm
My DD invited me to go with her to a judicial council meeting for a week in October.  The judges all want to see her baby (will be 1 Oct 14) and I'm going to be the nanny.  Of course, I'll be the worn out nanny when we get back.  She wears me out in just a couple of hours.  I am so looking forward to spending that much time with her.  I usually see her a couple of hours on the weekends.  Hope the weather is good enough to get her feet wet in the ocean. 
I think that some of us get put in those categories by our adult children.  When they need us, we should be on the front lines, but when we're not needed - for whatever purpose - we become non essential to them.  Therefore, when we become essential to them again, all is well in their world.  Just thinking out loud.
We arrived home Sunday night around 8:00 PM.  Had been up since 4:30 AM England time.  Had a 9 hour flight and me and half of the other people on the plane were all hacking and coughing all the way home.

Finally today, I am more back to "me" - whatever that is!

Saw some amazing places, the next one more beautiful than the last and always looking forward to a new day and a new place to explore.  The ship and crew could not have been better.  Met lots of new people from all the world over.  Hopefully, will post some pictures before too much longer. 

May not be home long as I am going to make myself "available" to work with FEMA as they are having all the disasters, etc. 

GD had learned some new tricks and turned a month older and seemed to remember us.  She loves her GD's voice.  Follows it around wherever he goes. 

Haven't caught up on too much of the happenings on here, but wish everyone lots of happiness and hugs all around. 
Grab Bag / Starting my trip tomorrow
May 03, 2011, 03:16:47 pm
Will be leaving Atlanta at 6:05 PM for our flight to Barcelona.  Will be back on May 23rd.  Y'all have fun and be good if that is possible!!!  Seriously, I'm gonna miss all you wise women.
DH and I will be leaving on Wed for a 17 day cruise and will not be home for our DD's first mothers day with her baby.  She invited us over for dinner last night.  We got there around 4, played with the baby, took baby for a long walk in her stroller (first time for us) and just had a great time playing and visiting.  SIL cooked a fabulous meal and we just had a great visit.  I opened my MD's gift and it was a good one.  Gave my DD a nice picture frame and the baby a new outfit.  Her big present from us will be flowers that will be delivered on Saturday.  I'm happy about the trip, but sad that I will miss her big day. 

My DH is always fussing at me about spending so much money on the baby - not really, just grousing like they do.  Anyway, we were talking about swing sets for baby and DD was talking about the kind she wanted at their house.  DH and I discussed it on the way home and this morning he called me to the computer.  Lo and behold he's found the perfect old timey swing set that he wants to get after our trip!  She's not but 6 1/2 months old - but by golley she will have a swing set when she needs it.  We're totally fools over her. 
Adult Sons and/or Adult Daughters / My baby boy...
April 26, 2011, 05:45:46 pm
turned 39 today!  How amazing as I am much too young to have a child that old (although I do have another one that will be 44 this year). 
Grab Bag / My Easter surprise
April 24, 2011, 10:32:34 am
When DH went out to get the morning papers he noticed a card on the table on the front porch.  He brought it in and we both assumed it was a thank you card from the kids next door that I had made Easter baskets for.  So, I opened it and it was a card that said, Happy Easter, Love N.  N is my middle child who lives in MO.  I asked my husband then if there was something else with the card - he said no, so I looked myself.  On the same table with the card was a beautiful peace plant.  Not from a florist, so I assumed it was from the Easter Bunny.

So, I called N and asked him where he was.  In MO, so how did the note and flower get here?  He said an old girlfriend was home to see her parents and had gotten the plant and card and sneaked it on the porch! 

He generally sends me flowers for Mother's Day, but I think he remembered that we would be on our cruise then.  Anyway, I do believe in the Easter Bunny after all. 
Grandchildren / "Easter Basket for GD"
April 21, 2011, 05:34:18 pm
is a minature Radio Flyer wagon.  I filled it with what they call grass now and put a pink and green bunny, some little rubber ducks and a bunny ear headband in it.  I will throw in some fake easter eggs before Sunday!  Forgot the bottle of bubbles.  DD bought some the other day but they were plastic bubbles and leave a real sticky mess on everything.  So, today I got the real thing.  GD was fascinated with them though. 
Grab Bag / 71st Wedding Anniversary
March 30, 2011, 06:08:12 am
Today is my MIL & FIL's 71st wedding anniversary.  They have been wonderful in-laws for the most part.  We've had a couple of conflicts over the years, but have overcome them without either party cutting the other off.  They were/are both successful in their own rights and now are in an Assisted Living Facility, where the quality of life is not the best, but they are loved and cared for by the staff at the ALF as well as their two sons and DILs. 

They don't drink, but I'll toast to them as this is quite an accomplishment.  Clink, clink, anyone?
I found this in the Dear Abby column in our local paper:

O,  Lord, help me to be glad when my son (or daughter) picks a mate.  If he brings home a girl with two heads, let me love both of them equally.  And when my son says, "Mom, I want to get married," forbid that I should blurt out, "How far along is she.?"  And please, Lord help me get through the wedding preparations without a squabble with the "other side." And drive from my mind the belief that had my child waited a while, he or she could have done better.

Dear Lord, remind me daily that when I become a grandmother, my children don't want advice on how to raise their children any more than I did when I was raising mine.

If you will help me to do these things, perhaps my children will find me a joy to be around, and maybe I won't have to write a "Dear Abby" letter complaining about my children neglecting me.


Thought it was interesting.  Wise Women could probably write our very own version of this.