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Each phase or stage of parenthood/family/child development seems to have a name of some sort and typical behavior or expectations.  Pregnancy, prenatal, post natal, new parents, terrible twos, f...ing fours, school age, tweens, teens, empty nest. I'm looking for the name of the stage/phase before empty nest where the children are now independent adults who don't need their parents (from their point of view living in the moment) yet beginner adults still living at home with a lot to still learn from the parents perspective of the long term.  Is there a name for this phase? Is there a website that discusses this phase, how to communicate, how to maintain ties, etiquette with their girl/boy friends sleeping over.  How to recognize the beginning middle or end of it.  I would like to learn as much as possible so I can be a productive member of my family keeping it healthy and happy both now and in the future. 
Adult Sons and/or Adult Daughters / No family
July 06, 2018, 04:55:26 pm
By the time I was 10, my whole entire family was my mom.  No siblings, grandparents, a once a week dad that I wasn't close to, I don't even have step siblings.  On special occasions I see uncle/aunts/cousins, but don't know them.  I grew up planning to have 10 kids, adopting if necessary, as I want a family, I want to experience relationships.   I got married and had two boys, who are now young adults.  My family is us and my mom.   In-laws never got to know us.  I thought at least my family has grown.  While our the two DS's still live with us, I've lost them.  If I can't connect with them now when I live with them... what hope is there to stay connected once they leave.  Future grand kids, if that is in the cards, could be 15 years away, and I may not get to know them.  I feel like the family isn't 'there' anymore.  I thought families grew, mine shrinks.  I'm not at Empty Nest Syndrome yet, but when they leave at least I could use there rooms and foster kids.  This phase, and lets hope its a phase, is hard on me.  I live in a big city, haven't moved in 20 years yet I have no community, no older role model families, no past family experiences to draw on. Every phase is a shock to me.  I feel so alone.