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Long long history, but I have 3 adult children who run extremely hot and ice cold toward me. They were all raised by their dad and we were finally able to establish a relationship in their late teens and twenties. I have tolerated the abusive and disrespectful treatment always being made to feel i am a horrible mom and i should be grateful they even speak to me. I am a good person, a loving mom who bends over backwards and i walk on eggshells for fear of making someone angry at me (and someone always is). Most recently, my husband and i allowed my pregnant daughter to stay with us while on maternity leave. She was abusive, disrespectful, and inconsiderate. She is 26yo, single, and at the time, homeless. My first granddaughter was born exactly 12 days before my daughter woke me up screaming and angry she had not slept, the baby was crying and wouldn't stop. I offered to help and she went berserk on me. She called me names, said i wasnt her mom and I am not her babies grandma. She left that day and said i would never see my grandchild. Her sister and brother think im horrible and now they want nothing to do with me either. I am heartbroken. I tried, too hard, to make them happy. I have never been so sick with grief. In my heart i know this cycle of toxic love has to stop, but how do i let it go and move forward?