Someone here once told me to look this up sometime. It's been 5 years now since the DIL cut me out.
It's been a long road for me, I did well with he help of some of the beautiful people here. Thank you.
I do believe she is a narcissist now and finally found this the other day. There isn't much help for us out there. This site was a godsend for me.
So. Here is something I SO wish I had learned 10 years ago.