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Topics - Rose799

Grab Bag / FYI re: Luise
January 12, 2014, 07:40:16 pm
Luise asked that I relay that she's been contending with something akin to sciatica for the past week.  She saw her Dr. yesterday & was prescribed Prednisolone.  Thankfully, an x-ray showed it to be soft tissue injury; no disc or nerve involvement.  The pain had been intense, but since beginning the Prednisolone, there's been approx. 50% improvement.  She's got 5 more days to go on the Prednisolone.  Hope you feel 110% better by morning, Luise...  ((hugs))
Helpful Resources / Free Mother to Good Home
October 02, 2013, 08:02:57 am
...A Handbook & Survival Guide for Good Parents, Stepparents & Grandparents Who Find Themselves Underappreciated, Under-Loved, and Overwhelmed


If you're looking for answers, this book is an excellent place to find them, I highly recommend it!
Grab Bag / A Mother's Love...
June 15, 2012, 01:25:27 pm
Hopefully this makes the rounds, to give our dc something to ponder.  :)


Grab Bag / Merry Christmas~
December 25, 2011, 12:01:24 am
This is a very special gift
That you can never see
The reason it's so special is
It's just for you from ME!

Whenever you are lonely
Or even feeling blue
You only have to hold this gift
And know that I think of you.

You never need unwrap it.
Please leave the ribbon tied.
Just hold the box next to your heart,
It's filled with love inside.

Merry Christmas everyone...  I'll be hoping that each of you find a Christmas miracle today.  Love, Rose
Grab Bag / Luise
September 29, 2011, 03:33:26 am
Some of you have noted that Luise hasn't been on board for a few days.  Pen posted a few days ago that she was feeling under the weather.  Well, she still isn't feeling quite up to par.  She's been to the dr. & Kirk & Sandy are with her at home, taking good care of her.  It may well just be just a little bug, but I don't think it will hurt anything to ask of those of you who pray, to send up a few prayers with Luise's name on them.  Wishing you a speedy recovery, Luise, & sending oodles & gobs of love your way~ 
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* The 5 Most Common Mistakes of Estranged Parents
* Grandparents & Estrangement
* Keep Your Friends Close & Your Enemies Closer
* What Could They Possibly be Thinking?
* Money Matters
* How Your Past Affects Your Present
* High Risk Days

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Daughter in Laws and/or Son in Laws / Hi, Muffin
July 06, 2011, 09:40:19 pm
Quote from: themuffin on June 03, 2011, 05:30:12 pm
Read my post as well, and you will see that I too tried to make FDIL feel like a beloved member of the family.  It didn't work.  I am no longer attempting to mend my relationship with her.  I will continue to be myself and if she comes around I will welcome her again.  My intent is to be good to me. 

Hi Muffin, you've been in my thoughts lately.  Just wanted to say I hope the situation with your ds/fdil is improving.   
Helpful Resources / Depression's Advantages
June 18, 2011, 06:03:07 pm
Interesting article; never thought there was an up side to having depression~

Grab Bag / Dear Luise...
April 15, 2011, 01:26:23 pm
You've done nothing but support those of us who've needed supporting.  I hope you don't shut the site down, now that I've just gotten back up on my feet.  It's not about who's right or wrong; it's about wanting to improve ourselves so that our families come out the winners.  Can we all agree that Luise deserves better?   
Grab Bag / Help with moody dm...
March 23, 2011, 10:07:45 am
I'm at dm's home, helping out after total knee replacement.  While her knee has been improving quite well, she is the worst patient I have ever seen.  She's 83, extremely moody & rants over every little thing.  She has started refusing to do the exercises & icing it as the therapist recommended.  I don't mind arguing with her, nor prodding if need be, except that my 85 year old sf stops me & humors her.  The poor man sits & takes her daily rantings. She says things that no man should have to take.  I have honestly though she was angry enough to hit me over things as simple as asking her to sit down so I could put the ice pack on her knee.  I have threatened to tell her doctor how she's acting, that calmed her down for all of 5 minutes.  I'll be here two weeks & was ready to leave on day 1.  Nothing I do pleases her.  I called the doctor yesterday to ask that she be prescribed something different than the 10 mg of Vicodin she was prescribed.  Any advice you can offer would be greatly appreciated.  I can't use her computer unless given permission, am told when to get up & when to go to bed.  Thus far, I still have restroom privileges.  : )  I will check back when possible.  Thanks in advance...


"Ellie Slott Fisher tackles the trickiest of all family relationships with wisdom, wit, and laughter.  It's Either Her or Me: A Guide to Help a Mom and Her Daughter-in-Law Get Along offers the practical step-by-step advice both women need to tackle the challenges each must face to forge respectful and affectionate family ties.  This book is a must read for mothers with sons of any age, wives/girlfriends, sisters, and the men themselves. --Leah Klungness, Ph.D., psychologist, co-author of The Complete Single Mother and co-founder of Singlemommyhood.com
Adult Sons and/or Adult Daughters / Sons
November 23, 2010, 01:23:58 am
I read an article written by a therapist earlier who said she had a client who cut ties over his mother rearranging the food in his refrigerator.  The therapist suggested treating your boys as though they're your next door neighbor's son.  You wouldn't rearrange their food.  Maybe it's the testosterone? 

...other than writing here on WWU? 
Helpful Resources / The Human Experience
November 17, 2010, 05:54:36 pm
Just watched this documentary from Cox On Demand. 

Here's a video of the trailer:

Adult Sons and/or Adult Daughters / Question
November 14, 2010, 03:58:56 pm
Have you all had an opportunity to pour out heart-felt thoughts to your estranged ds & dd's?  DH & I wrote a letter to dd.  Dh had been reluctant, but is squarely standing beside me rather than behind me now.  It was cathartic to be able to speak from the heart.   I hope & pray for a brighter future, that we will be allowed to share in dd's life & enjoy watching gs grow up.  But the choice is hers.  I feel I'm a mother once again and I can live with her decision, whatever that may be. 

Adult Sons and/or Adult Daughters / Newbie
November 08, 2010, 03:28:07 pm
It occurred to me that dd may some day be a future mil spoken of here.   I read with interest the post about fight or flight syndrome.  Over the years, I've repeated the stages of grief.  The final stage supposedly is acceptance.  I can't be sure, but I think just maybe I've reached it.  I want to thank you for this site, Luise.  I've been a lurker, and have learned a lot from you all.  I'm sorry I didn't post sooner, I was too hurt and ashamed.