I don't get it either . My DS was never allowed to come alone , with or without GC .
I was told we come as a unit .....well most of the time this is not at all .
My DIL blows hot and cold , this used to bother me greatly , however I now refuse to be upset .
If it wasn't for the GC it wouldn't bother me at all not seeing my DS or DIL at all .
Why waste time onn people who never give you a second thought .
As years go by you begin to look after yourself , why beg ? If people want to see you they will make time . It's hard to accept but easier on your heart .