May 21, 2019, 02:52:41 pm


"Welcome to -- When adult children marry and leave home, life can sometimes get more complex instead of simpler.  Being a mother-in-law or daughter-in-law can be tough.  How do we extend love and support to our mothers-in-law, adult children, daughters-in-law, sons-in-law, and grandchildren without interfering?  What do we do when there are communication problems?  How can we ask for help when we need it without being a burden?  And how do our family members feel about these issues?  We invite you to join our free forum, read some posts... and when you're ready...share your challenges and wisdom."

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The loss of my any time and communication with my adult daughters and son has been agonizing. It has been four years and I thought I was getting better after such a long time. However, not so, as it is th first thing I think about when I wake up and many times during the day....I just can't seem to get past it...
A friend said I am grieving...maybe so...
I did read the preview posts.
I apparently posted in the wrong blog, it should be in daughters and sons..not daughter in laws and son in laws. Please move my post to the correct location if possible or remove it.
So sorry. My mind was elsewhere.
My adult children hate us. My youngest daughter talked me into fronting the money for a large investment of her and her husband. After all the papers were signed and her monthly payments started, she found I was charging her a low interest rate. She did not feel it was fare to charge her for the use of our extensive loan to purchase properties. We have title to the properties however we only received the rent/repayment to cover the interest and a small portion of the notes. She said she hates us, that we had no right and dumped the properties in our laps. She says we are dead to her. It has been 4 years. We eventually sold the homes at a great loss to our retirement. This is not the first time she has cut us off, but by far the longest.
My oldest daughter got mad at me over something stupid and she said if I do not do what she wants she is not going to talk to me just like her younger sister. 
My son is busy w his wife and work and we do not hear from him. Our anniversary passed, Fathers Day, Mothers Day, Christmas and so on.
At first I continued to send gifts and cards but after 3 years and no response or even a thank you, I quit.
We were not invited to my oldest granddaughters graduations. I send to the grand kids but only get a response from the older grandsons.   
We have been there for all of them through their issues, illnesses, accidents, money issues, etc. Do we really deserve to be treated this way. We have moved ahead and made another life for us, however, the pain of loss is still there for me. I can not get past this loss...