January 16, 2021, 09:56:24 pm


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Messages - whyme

As jdtm put it, I don't have the skills to come down to that level.   

I am sad because there is no recovery for me, except in my forgiveness of her evil.  Hopefully I can forget it quickly everytime.
Thanks for answering.

I felt better after getting it off my chest. 

The sad thing is that my oldest bio daughter is starting to act similar in some ways.  It has to do with a person trying to insult me constantly to get her own self worth.

I confronted my child about this, but not my adult stepdaughter. The stepdaughter literally found a man with the same name as her father,  had a baby a year after we had ours, is insulting/competing with my baby, put in fake hair to make hers seem longer, but lied and said it's hers (I saw her a month ago.)  Note her man had a similar house to ours but a little more upscale.  She doesn't live there, but then she had the nerve to say our house looks abandoned,  which it doesn't.   

Every word out of her mouth is either a lie or an insult...

Anyway I was just venting.  Leaving the visit I have to remind myself of reality.   That "child" lives in a different reality.
I know my MIL and stepdaughter are narcissist.  My spouse will never agree they said something rude to me no matter how often they purposely and continuously do it.

I can't talk to my dad about it because he is married to one of the family members too and he dare not say anything.

My question here is what is more normal,  being agressive, mean, and forward but wearing the pants in the house as the breadwinners or being quiet if there is nothing good to talk about and being a SAHM?

The women run the family.  I see and hear a lot of things that don't seem right and I know I'm not crazy.   I just feel sad because my spouse seems very attached to his mom's family.   I don't like going around them because I know I will be ambushed in some way and mad when I leave.

I don't know how to love a person who can't love me enough to even acknowledge my feelings.   My spouse is kind of like them, so I don't know why I am caring.  I am the one who will lose all around.   

Even if no one responds I am just glad to kick these thoughts out of my mind.
Sorry I didn't see that it posted the first time.  I don't know how to delete posts yet.
My step mom is not gentle as my mom.  Lucky for me I am a loner.

I married into their family.  My fault.

Their family is full of personality disorders!!!!!

My dad married her while I was an adult, so I didn't know them growing up.