"Welcome to WiseWomenUnite.com -- When adult children marry and leave home, life can sometimes get more complex instead of simpler. Being a mother-in-law or daughter-in-law can be tough. How do we extend love and support to our mothers-in-law, adult children, daughters-in-law, sons-in-law, and grandchildren without interfering? What do we do when there are communication problems? How can we ask for help when we need it without being a burden? And how do our family members feel about these issues? We invite you to join our free forum, read some posts... and when you're ready...share your challenges and wisdom."
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Quote from: lancaster lady on August 06, 2012, 01:26:55 pm
''Sending Love .....''
Would always make me think of you and WWU , Luise .
Quote from: luise.volta on April 24, 2012, 08:31:49 am
Pen - My take is that being your own advocate is the strongest position you can take. Your dignity and your integrity are not in the hands of others. Once you get that, there may still be no way to change the present circumstances to fulfill your totally reasonable expectations...but you can get that others have the right to make their own choices and yes, concessions. We give our children training and freedom. What they do with that may break our hearts but if we just gave them training, they would be puppets. Some learn from faulty choices and some rationalize them away. It's their path...we just open the gate and let them go. They can hurt us because we care...but/and we can mitigate that hurt by caring for ourselves. We too were given training and freedom. Some of us question the training and have had to start over to some degree to restore or even establish values we can stand by, that will stand by us...that's where our freedom lies. We can extend it out to the end of our lives...choosing instead of groveling. Growing instead of giving up. Expanding instead of contracting. Our lives are our business...we aren't puppets, either. Sending love...
Quote from: Pen on April 24, 2012, 12:06:23 am
I feel for you, Rose. So sorry you're having a rough time. What could be a time of joyous anticipation becomes something different in these circumstances. You are a good mom & GM through it all. As brave as I sound now with my newfound backbone, I know it'll be a whole other thing when/if GC come along.