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Saw my mom again today, and she's doing well. Wound is healing without infection, energy is beginning to return, easier for her to breathe, kinks in her back and neck are easing, she's sleeping, and the discomfort is manageable. I'm grateful.

Thanks, everyone, for all of your support.
Grab Bag / Luise's Pacemaker Surgery Was A Success
June 08, 2015, 02:41:14 pm
Thought everyone would be relieved to know my mom's pacemaker surgery went perfectly today. Her heart rhythms were immediately better. Even while in the recovery room, her voice sounded much stronger.
Grab Bag / Re: It's Our Webmaster's Birthday!
July 15, 2013, 11:17:55 am
Grab Bag / Re: It's Our Webmaster's Birthday!
July 13, 2013, 09:20:55 pm
Wow, thank you all for your kind birthday wishes!

It's my pleasure to take care of the tech side of I appreciate you moderators, along with everyone who participates and contributes.
Grab Bag / Re: Luise
October 02, 2011, 08:29:30 pm
Thank you, everyone. Sandy and I just enjoyed a nice visit with her. She's definitely on the mend. Warm wishes,  ~~ Kirk
Grab Bag / Re: Luise
October 01, 2011, 03:04:31 pm
Hi, all. Thanks for your caring. My mom is still in nursing at Warm Beach. Yesterday, she went to a local hospital, ran through a number of tests, and checked out fine. The doctor's advice for now is to wait and see how she does over the coming days. The expectation is that she'll get a little better each day.
Grab Bag / Re: Luise
September 30, 2011, 04:32:18 pm
Kirk VandenBerghe here, Luise Volta's son. She asked me to post an update. Over the week, she's been slowly recovering from whatever it was that has been ailing her. The meds she received stopped the diarrhea, but the nausea, headache, lack of appetite, aching shoulders, and difficulty sleeping have been persisting, albeit less than a few days ago. Today, her blood pressure elevated and the people are her senior care facility, Warm Beach, along with her doctor, decided it wise that she be run through some tests. She's at the hospital now, and so far, so good with the tests. I know she welcomes your positive thoughts, prayers...whatever you do to assist please know your support is appreciated.
Grab Bag / Re: I'm Back
April 18, 2011, 02:58:46 pm
Well said, Mom. I don't imagine many women (or men) in their mid eighties are moderating busy forums. I'm proud of you.

And I'm proud of the majority of the WWU members who are creating such a safe space for personal growth and healing.

Regarding in-laws, I find it so heartbreaking when families break apart from "being right," miscommunication, and strife, and so heartwarming when they have the courage to learn, grow, and reunite.
Grab Bag / Re: Personal Messages
April 18, 2011, 12:55:54 pm
@Laurie - To clarify regarding your follow up question, WWU accounts are based on your username. You can change the associated email address whenever you like, and also chose whether other WWU members can email you or not.

@elsieshaye - And there's the problem with removing it. At present, Luise has decided to keep it turned on. She's also working on a (top secret) ;-) plan regarding moderation, but mum's the word (on my end) until she decides to roll it out.
Grab Bag / Re: Personal Messages
April 17, 2011, 02:53:03 pm
@Laurie - Prior to deleting your temporary (throw away) email account, you would create a new temporary email account replacement and change the email address here at WWU (and wherever else you used it).
Grab Bag / Re: Personal Messages
April 17, 2011, 12:52:32 pm
@Laurie - Interesting idea to create multiple account. Hmmm... I think it would be more efficient to create "throw away" email addresses at Yahoo, Gmail, etc. That's what I do. If an account starts getting too much spam I just delete it and create a new one.

We still have moderator reports turned on, but may turn them off. They come to me and I send them on to my mom (since my focus is usually the technical aspects of moderating the forum, not the content/member issues; the current situation is an exception, since I felt it was time to intervene).
Grab Bag / Re: Personal Messages
April 17, 2011, 12:26:06 pm
Update on Personal Messages (PMs): For now, we're going to keep PMs disabled. If you'd like to make yourself available for email communication, you can:

-- Login to your WWU account.

-- Go to "Profile > Account Settings".

-- Enter your email address at Email and check the Allow users to email me box.

-- Enter your current password and click the Change Profile button.

The forum software will then display a little envelope icon under your display name. Using this option doesn't publicly expose the email address; however, if you receive an email and choose to reply to it the recipient will then know your email address.
Grab Bag / Re: Personal Messages
April 16, 2011, 05:48:01 pm
@cdb - As you know, I emailed you directly.

@Julia - I hear you about the value of PMs; that they're not always used to incite more conflict. I like your suggested PM structure, but the problem is that if the technology doesn't force that kind of formatting most members won't comply. I'm discussing some possible solutions with my mom.

@Faithlooksup - I appreciate your comments.

@Rose799 - Understood re: your email address. Just wanted you and others to know that when an email address is listed on a public web page it can easily end up on spam lists, which dramatically increases the amount of inbound spam. Not fun.

@1Glitterati - Not sure how you came to those conclusions. The forum encourages multiple points of view, which obviously includes disagreement. Your and all other member's agreement is to do so with decorum. My response, here and now, is an example of being polite. Note that I'm challenging your conclusion AND that I am treating you with respect. It's so easy to drop the conversation level to reaction (like sarcasm) and when that happens the purpose and benefit of this forum space is lost. There's a big opportunity for personal healing and growth here. My Mom's committed to nurturing personal transformation, not providing a space for bickering.

@Tara - Glad you get my Mom's intention. I share the perception that her role is challenging and that she's doing a great job.