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Problem Solving => Daughter in Laws and/or Son in Laws => Topic started by: Stilllearning on September 22, 2020, 09:32:54 am

Title: Never saw this one coming!!
Post by: Stilllearning on September 22, 2020, 09:32:54 am
Guess what ladies!  My DIL has decided that she is a man.:o  Talk about out of the blue.  WOW!  And my poor DS has decided to stand by 'him' until my DS cannot stand it anymore.  I suspect that 'he' will threaten suicide when my DS decides he cannot take anymore.  'He' is not attracted to females, 'he' just feels like a male.  My DS is a saint and I am totally blown away.  Unbelievable. ::)
Title: Re: Never saw this one coming!!
Post by: mstrish on October 04, 2020, 10:37:39 am
What an awful situation! However, I would suggest you stay out of it and let them work through their own issues. I have a feeling that if you get involved, somehow you will turn out to be the bad guy.
Title: Re: Never saw this one coming!!
Post by: Stilllearning on October 05, 2020, 04:53:37 am
Thanks M!!   My thoughts exactly.  My DS was over here yesterday and I told him "I just want you to be happy and I don't think you are.  You are in charge here.  If you need anything from me let me know".  He seemed to appreciate that reaction.  It is so hard not to tell him what to do!  Back to my mantras.....y'all know them!

Hugs!
Title: Re: Never saw this one coming!!
Post by: MarinaRae on October 11, 2020, 08:20:17 pm
OK, wow! That's a crazy turn of events! To be honest, I'm a little bit envious. If my DIL were to decide she was a "he" I'm pretty sure my DS would run far, far away.

You did the right thing just offering to be there if he needs you.
Title: Re: Never saw this one coming!!
Post by: Stilllearning on October 15, 2020, 04:09:09 am
Thanks M!  I expect this will break up the marriage, it is just a matter of when.  I keep wondering if my DIL (if I can call 'him' that) will make my grands call him "Dad".  So many questions.  So few answers.

Hugs!
Title: Re: Never saw this one coming!!
Post by: jdtm on October 18, 2020, 06:52:11 am
So many questions and so many answers - but not your questions and not your answers.  Letting go and not jumping in to solve their problems, and frankly to protect them, is very difficult to do.  Different circumstances but same path for me - being a support, letting go, and finding peace and some joy in one's own life.