Just wanted to share this site with anyone who needs something like this, or anyone who knows someone else who may benefit.
It helped me out when I finally found it, 7 months after the husband died... wasn't there when he died and hope those who need this will find it much sooner than I did.
At any rate, I made many friends through this site that I remain friends with to this day. Just as We need each other to help us navigate our AC, because others don't get it, the widowed need the same.
Thanks for this suggestion! I have already sent the link to a friend who just lost her husband a couple of weeks ago.
You are very welcome, Bamboo, I hope it helps your friend as much as it did me.