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Title: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on April 17, 2012, 08:12:33 AM
Well, let's start off with the great news.  YS did propose Sunday and she said "Yes!"  He called me afterwards to tell me they were officially engaged.  I'm very happy for them both.  They went and saw my Mom afterwards, took her and my Dad to lunch and shared all their news with them.  My Mom was thrilled.  They then left there to spend the evening through today with his Dad and Dad's FOO.  They will be coming to my house this evening and we leave in the morning for the cabin we rented in the mountains.  We will leave there Friday and take him to airport, tissue box in hand.  I am so looking forward to this. 

SD - umm....hmmm.....24 days til graduation!!!!!  That's all I'm saying.   ;D

Now me.  You guys know we have had a rough go of it lately with the whole /SDSF thing, etc.  Well, it finally got me.  I know my disease flares with stress so I have been working very hard the last months to keep my stress levels down.  The whole SD thing apparently caught up with me last week, probably compounded my the infor on the OS/DIL pregnancy.   First of the week, the pain in my arm increased X10 and I developed a knot over my elbow that was very painful.  Started feeling terrible...so knew I was in a flare.  By Wednesday, my entire hand would go to sleep.  Couldn't feel my fingers.  Would have to constantly move it around to keep it awake.  I knew I had a Dr's appointment Friday (my regular one) so I waited.  Thursday morning, I woke up to find my "ridge" indention had grown.  It has been the same since this started.  Starts at the top of my arm and stops right at my elbow.  It has now crossed my elbow joint and goes down past it about two inches.

I saw my MD Friday and they have ordered the EMG/Nerve conduction studies.  He's concerned the inflammation/knotting in my elbow joint is pressing on the Ulna nerve which would cause the numbness and to check the muscle damage.  They wanted me to go tomorrow....ummm....no...I'm going out of town!  Not missing it!  So I now go the 30th because that's the next time they have an opening.

So that's why I haven't been around for the last week much.  I can't type long as it hurts and goes to sleep eventually.  I have been reading everything and keeping up with everyone.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: lancaster lady on April 17, 2012, 11:24:40 AM
Oh dear Pooh .....
I hope it doesn't spoil your weekend .....try the 'ole hot tub , maybe that will ease the pain .
Have  a wonderful time .... :)
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: luise.volta on April 17, 2012, 12:13:03 PM
Oh, Pooh...I'm so sorry! Sending love and prayers and all good things...
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on April 17, 2012, 12:26:27 PM
Thanks.  I guess that even though I have been doing my best to keep the stress down, internally..it's been building.

LL...the hot tub has my name on it!
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: elsieshaye on April 17, 2012, 12:43:20 PM
I'm sorry you're hurting, Pooh.  Hope your week away w/YDS and FDIL is restful and that your docs are helpful when you return.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on April 17, 2012, 12:46:22 PM
Thank you much Elsie.  I'm tolerating it well right now, but I know that if this continues, I'm going to become one crabby person.  ;D
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: constantmargaret on April 17, 2012, 01:50:33 PM
Enjoy your well deserved holiday. :)
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pen on April 19, 2012, 09:57:51 PM
I'll be thinking of you Pooh. I hope you and your family had a lovely time in the mtns & you were able to lower the stress a bit before Saturday comes around. {{{hugs}}}
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: forever spring on April 19, 2012, 10:22:04 PM
Sorry to hear that Poo. Hot tub will help.Enjoy the calm of the holiday and look after yourself, you are sorely needed here!  :)
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: pam1 on April 24, 2012, 11:26:18 AM
Just saw this, Pooh.  I'll be thinking of you and your family.  Big Hugs
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on April 30, 2012, 08:12:04 AM
Sorry guys, I have been MIA.  Son trip was awesome until we had to take him to the plane.  I had to hug him and run as the tears were flowing.

So we drop him off on that Friday, after having so much fun with both of them for two days.  We drop FDIL at home on our way back and then Son calls me late that evening, after he landed.  Yeah, apparently she was due to start her period while we were down there and didn't.  They didn't say anything because she had been on that awful brain de-swelling drug while she was in the hospital last month and was thinking it might be that.  Well it wasn't.  ;D  As soon as we dropped her off, she went to the store, then went back to the store and got 4 more after the first one came up positive.  Bless her heart.  She was supposed to have another surgery this past Thursday, so she wanted to know quickly.  So she is texting Son frantically while he is still in the air, even though she knew he couldn't get them until he landed...Lol.  She called her doctor, who immediately got her an appointment for Wednesday with a specialized baby doc.  She saw her, and between all of them, decided to postpone her surgery until she is into her second trimester and now they will do it while she is awake. 

So, they got out of order....Lol.  Got engaged a week prior and now expecting.  They still want to wait until he gets back next May to get married.  I am excited, they are excited although we are all hating that he will be gone during her entire pregnancy.  We are all concerned about her surgery, but they are assuring us that the way they will do it now is very low risk for the baby.  So I now have a GC due Dec. 21st, and the other, which OS/DIL still has not told us about, will be due end of October.  I am grateful that FDIL wants us involved.  That girl is one tough cookie.

Secondly, the weekend we got back, had major issues with SD.  Will not bore you with the details, but she was breaking house rules and when we sat her down to talk about it, she turned into a screaming banshee.  Name calling, disrespect, you name it.....we tried.  It ended with my DH finally having enough of her mouth and he grounded her for two weeks, she went in her room and slammed the door.  Next day, after school, her Mother sends my DH a text saying SD has moved out.  She had packed all her stuff and left, with us finding out later that she moved in with her GM (Mother's Mother).  So DH and Ex went back and forth for a little bit, with him telling her that it was not teaching SD anything to let her do this because she didn't like that he grounded her.  Mother was taking up for her, making excuses...same ole' same ole' and it pretty much ended with DH telling her that there was no reason for Ex to contact us anymore then.  DH was upset about how it ended, but also said he wouldn't do anything different.  During the screaming, she said that she was planning on leaving after grad in two weeks anyway but told us that is was none of our business where she was going.  So SD is gone.  She left her laptop and when she tried every way in the world for us to meet her Mother and give it to her, which we refused and told her she could come get it, she finally showed up this weekend.  DH told her he would always love her and hated that she felt she had to just pack and leave without talking to him.  She was civil and when he said, "I guess this is it.  I'll never see you again?", she did smile and say, "No, I'll be back on occasion."  I think he felt better after that.

I'm not going to lie.  It has been so nice at the house the last week.  I hate it for DH but even he realizes it was coming anyway.  Then during this week, I started dropping things.  I couldn't hold an object in my left hand long before I would lose my grip.  So I called my Doctor and they moved up my nerve tests to today.  Just got back and I will have the results tomorrow.  We will see what they say.

So a couple of chaotic weeks and my left hand is giving me fits, so I have been trying to stay off the computer too much.  Got SD's room all cleaned up and things have settled down at the house.

Sorry about not being around....I keep telling everyone to please come up with a big pin to pop this drama bubble I seem to be surrounded with.  I am grateful for a YS/FDIL that really want us to be involved.  FDIL has been calling or texting daily...she's truly a joy and I appreciate her efforts to make sure we know she wants us to be involved.  I even went as far as to ask her, "Ok, I have heard that many women don't want people at the hospital, even in the waiting room during birth.  I want you to know now that I want to do what you are comfortable with and however you want it."  She laughed and said, "I fully expect you to be there, bouncing up in down in the waiting room, sending in notes saying...will you hurry up already!"  Have I mentioned she is just wonderful?
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Doe on April 30, 2012, 12:15:03 PM
Wow, if you ever write your novel, Pooh, I'll buy it and read the whole thing!  Happy for you about the GC! and also happy for you about SD (though I understand DH's position).    I'm hoping that the grip is something that passes - my DH had an episode of something similar but it went away.  Fingers crossed that it's something simple for you. 

I think about you even when you aren't posting.  I'll bet a lot of other people here do, too.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: lancaster lady on April 30, 2012, 01:46:25 PM
My Goodness Pooh ....you life aint simple is it ?

Looks like your ship came in with your f/DIL , she sounds like a good 'un .
fingers crossed all goes well with her health and future g/baby .

Also you ....take care Pooh , I hope you can get some relief soon .
And bless that y/DS and keep him safe .
Sending hugs ...(( :-*))
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on April 30, 2012, 02:52:58 PM
Lol Doe.  I feel like I'm caught up in some "made for tv" movie the last few months.  It's so ironic.  Although it sounds like things are really awful, I feel we are on the upswing!  SD was so stressful to deal with and I wish it was different, but it's not and I hope nothing happens to her, but she has some major life lessons headed her way.  Her Mother?  I so don't get her.  She created SD's attitude, then couldn't deal with it and washed her hands of her, sending her to us to deal with, and now when she's doing the same to us and we're dealing with it, Mom is helping her dodge the consequences?  She needs medication.

I miss you guys too and I'm hoping beyond hope, my life settles back down soon.

LL, I want my life simple!  It's not cooperating! Lol.

Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: forever spring on April 30, 2012, 10:35:35 PM
Quote from: Pooh on April 30, 2012, 02:52:58 PM
LL, I want my life simple!  It's not cooperating! Lol.

So true for all of us here, lol.
Sorry to hear about recurring illness, but there seems to be light at the horizon with looking forward to the new GC by a lovely fDIL. Great stuff that. ((((hugs)))) from me too! Enjoy the spring time.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: elsieshaye on May 01, 2012, 07:59:35 AM
I feel sad for your DH, but SO GLAD SD is out of y'all's hair.  You're right that it wasn't really going to end any other way, and it's what I call "optional stress."  It's not stress caused by unavoidable things like natural disaster or illness, it's stress caused by someone's chosen behaviors.  Sending you my best vibes for your nerve tests, and also sending them to FDIL.  She sounds like a real gem.  (((Pooh)))
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pen on May 01, 2012, 09:19:52 AM
Pooh, what a ride! Time for some Pooh/DH time. Congratulations on upcoming GC and your loving new FDIL. Life is full of surprises, eh? Please take care, hope all goes well w/the doc.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on May 02, 2012, 05:30:51 AM
The nerve tests weren't awful, but we're not fun either! Lol.  I was supposed to be able to call yesterday and he said they would tell me something, short and sweet.  "Everything looks normal, we see a problem with...." and was going to send the full report to my MD.  I called, and they were very apologetic that their entire computer system decided to go pppfffttt.  She said they couldn't access anything and could I please call back today as someone was supposed to be there late yesterday to fix it.  So hopefully, I'll know something today.

On a great note (finally), there is a specialist that I have been debating on going to see.  He's 10 hours away and is supposed to be the foremost authority in the South on what I have.  Just found out, he is giving a patient education seminar this Saturday about an 1 1/2 from me, so me and hubby registered.  I'm hoping to learn something as no one near me has a clue about my disease.  I don't blame them, as it's so rare, but it's frustrating.  At the very least, I'm hoping to get a sense from him if it would be worth spending the money and time to make the trip now.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: elsieshaye on May 02, 2012, 07:07:49 AM
That's great about the specialist, Pooh!  Keeping fingers crossed that you get useful results from the testing and that their darned computer system is up today.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pen on May 02, 2012, 09:27:28 AM
Pooh, the seminar sounds good. Are you feeling hopeful? We'll be thinking of you :)
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on May 04, 2012, 12:07:11 PM
Hey guys.  Got the results back.  They said that there is no definative nerve damage.  That's good, but bad...Lol.  I was hoping they saw something that they could fix, dang it!  Just means it is all related to my morphea and muscle damage, so nothing can be done.

I am hopeful Pen that I will learn something. Since no one seems to know much about it (Doctors), I'm hoping he says something like, "Don't let them tell you there is nothing you can do to help.  You can XXXXXXX."  Something I can bring back to my MD, or something that does warrant the trip.  I know it's not curable, but I can't imagine there is nothing you can do to alleviate some of the symptoms.

YS deployed yesterday morning :(  I'm very proud of him, but it's going to be a long year.  On a positive note, I was texting back and forth with FDIL who was with him.  She texts me after they left and was so upset, bless her heart.  We went back and forth for awhile, then out of the blue she writes, "I have a question.  Would you like to go to my ultrasound with me when it comes up?"  I about fell out of my chair and wrote back that I would love to, but only if she was comfortable with it.  She wrote back that she wanted me there and wanted me and DH to be involved, that she really appreciated our support and loved us very much.   

So although a sad day, she made it better with her kindness.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: luise.volta on May 04, 2012, 12:46:02 PM
Oh, Pooh - the bitter and the sweet. Sending love...
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on May 04, 2012, 12:51:31 PM
Thanks Luise.  He wasn't supposed to go for a couple of more weeks and then he called, blam...gone.  It's weird though.  I'll worry about him, but after my tears yesterday, I actually felt better now that it's done.  I guess I was dreading it more than I knew. 
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: luise.volta on May 04, 2012, 01:01:22 PM
Waiting can be deadly. I remember...(it just seems like a few years ago)...when Dwight, my eldest joined the Marine Corps and was sent to Viet Nam.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on May 04, 2012, 01:19:16 PM
Oh wow.  How tough for you!
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: constantmargaret on May 04, 2012, 01:27:33 PM
When difficult teens leave home, it's hard when you realize you DON'T miss them... (ok maybe a little)
Life has a way of growing us up. Your SD is no exception. All but one of my  teenagers left with a huge BANG! (door slamming)  The other one is 26 and won't leave.  ;D  All but the youngest have come back, no apologies, but a bit humbled.

I wonder if your condition will calm down now that the stress level in the home has come down?

I am very happy for you that your FDIL is awesome. I am fortunate my DS's fiancee is a darling too. Congrats, FGM!

I hope your DS will be home safe and sound very soon.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: lancaster lady on May 04, 2012, 01:29:03 PM
These things are sent to try us Pooh , and you've had your fair share lately .
Hoping for better times ahead for you and yours .... :)
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on May 04, 2012, 01:35:50 PM
Thank you very much LL.

CM, I don't miss her...isn't that awful?  I miss what "could have been".  The first couple of months, she was on her best behavior....I miss that.  She was good to be around then and we had alot of laughs.  As soon as she started reverting to her her "normal" behavior, it was nothing but stress.  I do think my condition will calm down now as things settle back in.  95% of my stress has been dealing with her and her Mother/SF the last few months, plus the stress it has been having the last couple of months on me and DH.  Glad you have a good FDIL too!
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pen on May 04, 2012, 01:44:44 PM
Pooh, your FDIL sounds like a real sweetheart :) It's good to have happy things to look forward to and loving people in your life. I hope your year flies by and all is well with one and all.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: forever spring on May 04, 2012, 11:11:54 PM
Pooh, I hope the year will go quickly. I'm so pleased to hear that your FDIL is like a ray of light now in what must be a very difficult time for you and your family. I'm thinking of you and send my sincere best wishes into cyber space.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: pam1 on May 06, 2012, 08:14:05 AM
I've been thinking about you too, Pooh.  I hope you all get some peace soon, you need it.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on May 10, 2012, 12:51:59 PM
Thought I would share some upbeat news, for a change.  FDIL went to baby doc yesterday and they did a first ultrasound. Found out she was not as far along as they thought, so moved her due date to Dec. 31st (New Year's baby anyone?)  She called me as soon as she was done, telling me everything and sent me 3 pics on my phone.  It's a little rice grain...Lol.   Everything looks good but they are going to transfer her to a high-risk baby doc now because they have decided not to do her brain surgery until after the rice grain is born.  Precautionary, and she'll have to have a C-section now, but she was good with it.

She tells me that because of going to a high-risk doc now, they will do an ultrasound every visit and did I want to go to her next one with her?  Awww...I loves her.  She's so sweet.

Also interesting, DIL sends FDIL a friend request on FB.  This should be priceless as her and I have been posting back and forth for months.  Since DIL/OS haven't told us about their pregnancy, and there is all kinds of happiness stuff from me and DH on FDIL's page about her pregnancy, I'm sure I just went down another notch.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: luise.volta on May 10, 2012, 12:59:59 PM
You just went up another notch with us!  ;)
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on May 10, 2012, 01:01:38 PM
:)  You are so sweet. 
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: lancaster lady on May 10, 2012, 02:36:56 PM
Did she accept the request ?
Hubble , bubble , I sense fun in the making ....never a dull moment eh Pooh ?
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pen on May 10, 2012, 03:23:19 PM
Good on FDIL! She understands the situation w/DIL, right? So she won't be buying into any embellished history lessons?
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on May 14, 2012, 01:10:57 PM
Yes, she accepted it and then text me going, "Uh oh".  I just laughed and told her to do what she wanted, that my history/present with DIL had nothing to do with them.  She knows everything because YS has told her since brother has been snubbing him and YS also told her about the blowups he had with DIL, so she is well armed.  LOL
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on June 08, 2012, 08:20:47 AM
What's that saying?  Glutton for punishment? 

Well, here's what's been happening in my world this last couple of weeks.  YS is doing fine.  He's very tired because they are working him 16 hour days with only one day off every two weeks.  I've got to skype with him a couple of times and you can see the exhaustion in his face.  He just says, "It's fine but I'm seeing things I don't want to see."  Bless his heart.

FDIL is still a doll and texts/calls every day.  She came over last Sunday and we went baby "window shopping".  She's about funny.  We had to run DH out of the aisle of breast pumps because he wouldn't quit giggling...that man.  I noticed she looked really tired.  Past the "normal" tired of the first months of pregnancy.  I asked her if she was Ok and she said, "I'll make it."  She wouldn't elaborate so I didn't push it and just kind of moved on.

So YS skypes me a couple of days later and I can tell he's very upset.  Apparently he finally got it out of her (they skype every night and he had noticed something wrong too).  She has been living about 30 minutes away from us with her grandparents.  They have a basement apartment and that's where she has been for the last year.  What he found out was that although her granny was thrilled about the baby and been supportive, grandpa is not.  To the point that when he found out, he told her to get rid of it.  He's apparently been giving her a hard time about it and telling her that my YS is just a military guy that will leave her raising a baby alone and she'd be better off without it.  I will not go into the details, you get the point.  It has progressed to the point where he just passes her now and says, "You disgust me".

I will not even tell you what I said!  I would have my membership banned!  So after I calm down, and YS calms down he says, "Mom, will you take her in?"  He tells me he told her that she needed to come to our house immediately but she told him that she would not come be a burden to us.  He goes on to say that he will take care of all her expenses, etc. and would I please do this for him?  He is in tears bless his heart.  So of course I told him I would and that I needed to talk to DH about it first, out of respect for him.  He understood and said, "She's not going to do it, but will you try if DH is ok with it?" 

Needless to say, DH's response was "Let's go get her now."  I so love that man.  So for the last week, FDIL and I have spent hours on the phone.  I offered, she refused.  I told her that was fine, just know she had a place to go if she wanted to.  Then she would bring it back up with, I've never relied on anyone to take care of me, I make my own way.  I would just say, "I understand.  I'm an independent person too.  Whatever you want."  Blah blah blah.  She's called and will say, "I would have to turn in a two week notice and find another job..."  I'd say, ok...whatever you want.  She's made comments all week so I knew she was considering it, but I didn't push her.  She asked about would it really bother us.  Nope.  She's asked if she did it, would I get made if she cleaned and helped cook.  Nah, you can do what you want.

So yesterday, she texts me.  "I want to come to you guys. I turned in my notice and they got mad and said not to bother working the notice."  Ok, when you coming?  I need to pack.  Ok, need some help?  No, I need to go through things.  Ok, whenever you're ready.  I'll be ready by tomorrow.

So the guest room didn't stay empty long....Lol.  I know we get along great, just send your best energy that this all works out.  By the way, YS is now happy too.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: luise.volta on June 08, 2012, 08:42:03 AM
You are totally amazing! And more!  8) What a lucky DIL to have a port in the storm. Her grandfather was probably trying to help her in his own way but what a harsh and impossible stand to take with someone else's life (lives.) Sending love...
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Keys Girl on June 08, 2012, 08:42:33 AM
Pooh, so sorry to hear about this, hope you are feeling better soon,
Love, KG
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on June 08, 2012, 08:53:47 AM
Well thanks for saying I'm amazing, but I think right now...I'm leaning towards crazy!  Poor DH.  Me and a pregnant woman with hormones raging?  I'm really not stressed about it.  I'm not having any expectations (see, I can learn).  Her and I get along fine and honestly, we have both been ourselves.  No eggshells out of either one of us.  She says her mind, I say mine on subjects.  She's a very good person and I hate that she has been in such a stressful environment and trying to just tough it out. 

I too think grandpa probably has good intentions and thinks he thought he was trying to help her.  I just couldn't help think that what was he thinking saying something like that?  It's obvious she's thrilled with the baby and so is YS (after the initial shock).  I think she thought the same thing as far as he was just upset and would calm down.  He hasn't and is making her feel so bad about it still, a month later.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Elise on June 08, 2012, 09:05:29 AM
Bless your loving generous heart Pooh!
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: lancaster lady on June 08, 2012, 09:16:39 AM
Sounds familiar Pooh ......good luck .... :)
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on June 08, 2012, 09:40:35 AM
I truly did think about you LL while this was happening :)  Got any spare scones?
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: lancaster lady on June 08, 2012, 09:58:46 AM
For you Pooh , of course , wish i could export them , make a fortune .....lol
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: luise.volta on June 08, 2012, 10:08:18 AM
Gosh, yes! They're made with clotted cream!  ;)
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Doe on June 08, 2012, 12:41:27 PM
Pooh, some days I want to move in with you, too!  YS and FDIL are lucky to have you!
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on June 08, 2012, 01:35:15 PM
Thank you!  We have 2 recliners, a couch and a futon left? :)
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: luise.volta on June 08, 2012, 02:28:53 PM
Here I come!  :D
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: elsieshaye on June 10, 2012, 07:40:00 AM
You and your DH are good people, Pooh.  Her grandfather sounds like my dad.  She's lucky to have you to turn to.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on June 11, 2012, 08:05:00 AM
She's very sweet and funny.  Here we are, always discussing how disrespectful our AC can be and now I have one that is very respectful.  She has been so respectful this weekend to the point, that we finally had to say, "This is your home too now.  You don't have to ask permission to get a drink of water."  Bless her heart.  I told her I appreciated how courteous she was being by asking before she did anything, but that I wanted her to feel like it was her home.   My favorite of the weekend?  "Would it bother you if you came home and I had cleaned stuff?"  Bless her heart.  Clean away!
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: luise.volta on June 11, 2012, 08:59:01 AM
Precious! :)
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: elsieshaye on June 11, 2012, 11:48:05 AM
Quote from: Pooh on June 11, 2012, 08:05:00 AM"Would it bother you if you came home and I had cleaned stuff?"  Bless her heart.  Clean away!

Hahaha, except for the fact that I'm an antisocial hermit who gets antsy if people stay more than a couple hours, I'm tempted to invite her to my house. :)
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on June 11, 2012, 11:51:47 AM
Ha ha ha
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Footloose on June 11, 2012, 12:50:51 PM
OMG!  Pooh!  Does she do LAUNDRY!  Lord knows I could use a helper there!  LOL!!!  No, really P, sounds like you have a good one there for sure!  She is also so lucky to have you;)

Bless you and u deserve it!  Blessings, darling<3
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: luise.volta on June 11, 2012, 12:52:01 PM
E -  Me, too. I love to see them come...and go. LOL!
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on June 12, 2012, 10:53:47 AM
Not sure about the laundry yet, but she had swept and mopped the entire bottom floor of the house when I got home yesterday.  I'm keeping her! Lol.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: lancaster lady on June 12, 2012, 11:02:12 AM
My own DD has been here now for 3 months , and hasn't washed so much as a cup !
Want to swap ??
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on June 12, 2012, 11:10:56 AM
I'm sure your DD is a wonderful person....but.....umm.....nope! Lol.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on June 12, 2012, 11:12:02 AM
And yes, I know all this could fall apart tomorrow but I'm going to try to live in the moment and be totally optimistic.  My gut says she is sincere.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: luise.volta on June 12, 2012, 12:31:34 PM
She comes across to me as the real thing, P.  8)
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on June 19, 2012, 06:14:00 AM
I had my Hee Haw practice last night, in the town I lived in with Ex for 25 years (my parents still live there).  So FDIL wants to ride with me and says, "I'll go visit your Mom and Dad while you practice".  Ok and then I was going over there after practice to deliver the Father's Day present and see them for a few.

FDIL drops me off at practice and comes back an hour later to get me.  She looks upset and so I asked if she was ok.  She tells me that my Mom and Dad weren't there so she went up to see a family friend at work (who I happen to know very well too) and to say hi to SM who works at the same place.  She tells me that when YS was in last, SM and his Dad had told her to please stay in touch with them while YS was gone and keep them in the loop on the GC.  She says she has text them and called them and they have not text her back or called her back.  She's been trying for a month.  So she gets to the workplace and family friend runs out to see her, patting her belly, blah blah blah.  She says she looks up and SM walks out.  So she waves and yells, "Hey XXXXXX".  SM looks at her, kind of throws her hand up and walks back inside, ignoring her.

Yes, this is the same SM that shoved YS's DD pics in his face and wouldn't give them to them.  She was asking me, "What have I done to her? They gripe at YS saying I don't stay in contact, but I've tried and now when I try to see her and talk, she ignores me?"  I felt so bad for her and yes, I'm still furious at SM/DIL over the whole pic ordeal so this just made me madder.  I can't believe she didn't ask her how she was feeling, about the baby, etc.  GRRRRRRR.

The funny part?  I get to Mom's, we get YS on Skype on FDIL's phone which tickled my Mom and Dad to death.  After about 10 minutes, we tell FDIL to go ahead and have some privacy with YS so she goes out on the porch.  I tell my Mom what happened (she already knows about the pic ordeal) and I'm mad and venting saying "I've so had it with SM and Ex!  I don't care what they say about me but I can't believe how cruel they were to YS and now her?  I swear I want to drive up there and just give her an old fashioned whooping in the middle of the road!"

My Mom is shaking her head and my Dad, who is the quietest person ever and sitting in his recliner playing with his gift, stands up and walks over to me and just says, "Two things.  One, if you want to whoop her I'm going with you and whooping your Ex, I never liked him.  And two, your Mom has bail money so we're good."

I can not tell you how hard I was laughing to hear Mr. "I don't say nothing" say that! Lol.  I love my Dad!
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Footloose on June 19, 2012, 07:03:50 AM
Hee Haw!  LOL!  So the nut didn't fall too far from the daddy tree, did she?  Hugs, dear!

SM sounds like a real jewel!  NOT! Glad you found a way to overcome her nastiness!   FDIL should be glad she has you and stay away from that miserable person. 

:-\
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Elise on June 19, 2012, 07:20:56 AM
I love your dad!!!
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on June 19, 2012, 07:49:52 AM
Yeah, well I found out she told YS about it last night....he not a happy camper.  They are doing themselves in with them.

Love my Hee Haw show.  They have been running it for 27 years.  This is my 9th year in it.  I get to act all a fool in public.  We have raised $396,000ish dollars over it's lifetime for the cancer society.  Had to add a 3rd show 3 years ago because it was selling out on Friday and Saturday, so we do Thursday now too....good times and great people that do the show.

My Dad is one of those that never gets into anything, hardly ever says anything but when he does, it's a zinger.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on June 19, 2012, 07:51:21 AM
(http://i1121.photobucket.com/albums/l514/VelcroPooh/303367_462386327122540_693920024_n.jpg)
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pen on June 19, 2012, 07:55:31 AM
Or as Ron White puts it,"I had the right to remain silent, but I didn't have the ability.."

I love your dad, too. I wish he could adopt me.
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: luise.volta on June 19, 2012, 10:07:07 AM
Hee -  :D :D :D - Haw!
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: pam1 on June 20, 2012, 12:49:38 PM
LOL Pooh!  I want to be a part of your family!
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: luise.volta on June 20, 2012, 04:06:07 PM
I think you are!  ;)
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: Pooh on June 21, 2012, 12:42:08 PM
Yes you are!
Title: Re: My Chaotic Life Update
Post by: luise.volta on June 21, 2012, 12:47:21 PM
:D :D :D