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Title: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: cocobars on January 07, 2010, 04:11:40 PM
Hello everyone!

Since I'm new to this, I really need someone to clarify what all the abbreviations mean.  I've figured out most of them, but it's really confusing to me to keep running into more.  I haven't been able to decifer DDIL or CDIL yet, and there's more I've caught.  The IL part I get, but being of simple mind.....
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: 2chickiebaby on January 07, 2010, 04:29:18 PM
Dear Sweet Coco,
Those are my letters that I made up.....one is for Close DIL and one is for Distant DIL.  Close DIL calls me a lot and makes me part of their lives.

DDIL doesn't.

I've since found out that Close DIL is a user and I have worn myself out with waiting on her.  She's an Emotional Vampire. 

Now, I'm so upset because I thought she really liked me!!  She wants control. I sure hope she doesn't bite my neck.  YIKES! 

I don't know half of the abbreviations.  I just guess at them.
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: cocobars on January 07, 2010, 04:35:30 PM
I understand the DDIL now.  Have a user of my own, and I've been a little nervous about writing things here.  The thought hit me that she may come on here and read the posts too!  Oops!  I've been pretty descriptive at times, elaborating conversations, etc. 

I've read other abbreviations on here that had me stumped.  HA!- There was one letter from a DIL that was just about "ALL" abreviated!  I just had to stop reading so the stars above my head would hold still and go away!

Thanks for clearing those up for me!  If you think of any more, let me know.  I could use all the help I can get!
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: 2chickiebaby on January 07, 2010, 04:41:12 PM
If any of mine ever read these things, I'm dead.  D.E.A.D. Dead.  Boom! DEAD.  Gone, finished, adios, see ya never, get lost, drop dead, we hate you.  Things like that. Can't imagine why.
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: just2baccepted on January 07, 2010, 04:48:59 PM
If any of mine ever read these things, I'm dead.  D.E.A.D. Dead.  Boom! DEAD.  Gone, finished, adios, see ya never, get lost, drop dead, we hate you.  Things like that. Can't imagine why.

You know thats an interesting point.  Because if they knew what you said about them then they'd be upset.  Its interesting b/c even you can see how the things you've said about them may be very hurtful(some of the names you've called them that is).  No offense but would you still be friendly with someone who called you a mutated freakoid or pukehead?  I know I wouldn't be.  But you said you can't imagine why they wouldn't want to be around your anymore? I know my MIL talks badly about me behind my back.  Why would I want a relationship with someone who is going to call me names behind my back instead of feeling empathy for me and trying to see my good points. Words can stab like knives.   Just my thoughts.
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: cocobars on January 07, 2010, 04:51:21 PM
Well, what made me think about it, was a text message I received from my son a couple of nights ago in the middle of the night.  I couldn't make sense of it and it said, "Have you ever felt bad for saying something good about someone, just to have a hater talk bad about that person because of the good things you said?  It isn't fun."  It came through at 3am, and I couldn't sleep anymore after that.  I didn't get it, until I remembered telling the whole story on here!

I had just finished replying in a post with a story about how "she" put her children in a car and drove an hour and a half to get here, without any gas to get back home.  Maybe I'm over-reacting, but my son hasn't called me back since then.  I sent him a message saying, "what are you talking about? Are you ok?"  That was two days ago...
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: 2chickiebaby on January 07, 2010, 05:04:32 PM
Dear Just2be,
Thank you for your thoughts.  I don't know what to say to you about it since I've tried to be as  kind to you as I can.  Those things were said out of my frustration and heartbreak, not meant to be taken literally at all. My way of shouting, "uncle", since I've really been through it.

When I said, "I can't imagine why".  It was a joke.  I'm a jokester.  I hope so much all here know that about me.  I guess it doesn't always come across that way.  I'm very sorry.  Thankfully, some of you get me.

When I see a familiar name on another site talking about us here, I think that warrants some backing off and that's what I've done.  I wouldn't do that to you.

I want to be myself on here and a kidder is what I am.  Please take that into consideration when you read my posts.  I do not mean that you or my DILs are mutated freakoids.  I wouldn't wish one bad thing to happen to them, ever.  I never wanted anything but happiness to you either.
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: RedRose on January 07, 2010, 05:15:48 PM
MMM....thanks for clearing that up for me...I was confused by that response.
But...anyone that knows you would have to know you have a sense of humor.
You know I'm always on your side chickie!
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: 2chickiebaby on January 07, 2010, 05:18:06 PM
Thank you sweet Rose...that really brought me down.  :'(
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: cocobars on January 07, 2010, 05:20:39 PM
Hello Just2be!

I hope you read chickie's posts.  She really wouldn't say something like that to anyone she knows.  We all come on here and joke around, and chickie is one of the best I've seen here.  Heck, I even said I was going to play "wack-a-mole" with an angry baby! 

I'm happy to be here, and to be able to open up and kid around without hurting my own DIL's.  I wouldn't want them to see any of my vents (and even some of my sarcasm).  It doesn't mean we wont all come on this site and vent.

Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: 2chickiebaby on January 07, 2010, 05:22:13 PM
Thank you, sweet Coco.....
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: RedRose on January 07, 2010, 05:25:41 PM
Let what she said go right over your head chickie....Just2b knows your personality...she has posted here long enough
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: cocobars on January 07, 2010, 05:27:20 PM
Does anyone have a good pie recipe? 
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: 2chickiebaby on January 07, 2010, 05:27:36 PM
Oh boy, thank you....I will try.   :)
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: cocobars on January 07, 2010, 05:29:19 PM
How's your aim?
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: 2chickiebaby on January 07, 2010, 05:48:40 PM
I'm not a good pie thrower.  I like pie, though!!
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: cocobars on January 07, 2010, 05:52:38 PM
Thorry,  bietn my tnge.
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: just2baccepted on January 07, 2010, 06:03:51 PM
Let what she said go right over your head chickie....Just2b knows your personality...she has posted here long enough

I know that Luise doesn't like for us to be confrontational with each other but I am going to respond to this.

RedRose you mentioned in your early posts that most of the comments on here by DIL's irritate you or something like that.  So since I'm a DIL I would assume anything I say is going to irritate you.  So I would suggest ignoring my posts.  I have every right to be here just as you do.  So telling me I've "posted here long enough" is really not for you to decide.  I was just making a point as to how I would feel if my MIL called me these names behind my back.  So please don't read my posts if my presence here bothers you.
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: cocobars on January 07, 2010, 06:10:27 PM
I'm sorry.  That was just sort of my example of how we all joke around here. I'm sorry if it upset you and that wasn't my intent.
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: 2chickiebaby on January 07, 2010, 06:12:42 PM
Rose meant that you have posted here long enough to know what I mean, that I was only kidding, Just2be.  It was not a swipe at you.  Please don't take it wrong. It wasn't meant that way.
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: RedRose on January 07, 2010, 06:15:49 PM
What I said is that I was seeing more DIL posts than MIL posts....which is what was happening at that time...don't put words into my mouth!!!
And I have just said you have posted here long enough to know what kind of personality chickie has.
Feel free to pass over my posts just2b.....I can't help you anyway

Sheeshhhh




Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: RedRose on January 07, 2010, 06:17:10 PM
My aim is very good coco.....
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: 2chickiebaby on January 07, 2010, 06:20:16 PM
How's the weather everybody?? 
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: cocobars on January 07, 2010, 06:22:24 PM
ROGLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You guys are getting better than me!  It's not fair! 

But seriously, how bout that ice cream pie?  I hear it's going to snow...
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: RedRose on January 07, 2010, 06:23:18 PM
I'm sorry...she must of really hit a nerve!!!

Horrible weather, here cold and a foot of snow
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: 2chickiebaby on January 07, 2010, 06:28:52 PM
It's cold here.  Kind of like the rest of the country.  My poor MIL used to love to discuss the weather....bless her heart!!
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: cocobars on January 07, 2010, 06:34:23 PM
Seriously, this would be a good place to post any abbreviations you know of, that people who are new to this (like me) may not be familiar with.  Post any that you can think of.  I'll be the first.  HIMD + Hoof in mouth disease
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: 2chickiebaby on January 07, 2010, 06:40:12 PM
Let's see.....
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: 2chickiebaby on January 07, 2010, 07:03:17 PM
uh.....MIL? DIL?
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: cocobars on January 07, 2010, 07:15:56 PM
It's ok.  I'll start a post for "ABBREVIATIONS."  Where anyone can ask what a certain abbreviation means.  Then anyone else can answer.  I may be the only dumb fart out here, but we'll see...  Maybe it will help someone who is afraid to ask.  I may not be able to read this one anymore anyway.  Think I peed my pants laughing and I'm not sure I can look in here again.

Chicke you are too funny!!!
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: Orly on January 07, 2010, 07:23:56 PM
GADS COCO,  Don't even think of wasting good pie!  If you want to throw one .....throw it onto MY plate!  LOL
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: cocobars on January 07, 2010, 07:29:39 PM
Oops!  You made me look Orly!

Just tell me where to throw, um, I mean send it!
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: just2baccepted on January 07, 2010, 07:32:39 PM
What I said is that I was seeing more DIL posts than MIL posts....which is what was happening at that time...don't put words into my mouth!!!
And I have just said you have posted here long enough to know what kind of personality chickie has.
Feel free to pass over my posts just2b.....I can't help you anyway

Sheeshhhh

That's fine I wouldn't want advice from someone who's obviously hostile to me.

I assume the pie innuendo's is about hitting me maybe in the face with one?  If that's the case I really think that is extremely rude and uncalled for.  I've been posting on here for sometime and have not been treated so rudely.  I think if you're going to post on this site I think it would be much appreciated if we all treat each other like the adults that we are.  This is not a hostile site.  My thinking is if you plan to be hostile to other posters maybe you should post someplace else.

And Chickie I'm not referring to you b/c you have been nice to me.  All the posters have been nice until now.
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: RedRose on January 07, 2010, 07:36:57 PM
Just2baccepted...
You are the one that is hostile towards me...obviously

IGNORE me from now on please
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: cocobars on January 07, 2010, 07:49:39 PM
Justtobe, We have been joking and kidding around all night.  You have to admit, that what you originally wrote to chickie was insensitive.  Would you rather we be confrontational like you were, or "slap-happy?"  This post has been funny all night long.

If you want a site that is not entertaining, as well as informative, engaging, and serious, then you are probably looking in the wrong place.  This is really a serious site, but if we can't laugh at someone who is so rudely confrontational, then you would have alot of confrontations in return.  I'm sorry if we all upset you.  When I start laughing, then everything pops into my head and I get worse.  I thought it was really funny, and I'm sorry you feel it was at your expense.  Chickie thought it was at her expense at first also.  This is a serious site, but I believe we should be able to Unite in laughter also and happen to believe laughing is a much better feeling than being upset.

Can you forgive us?  Now, do you have a good pie recipe?
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: just2baccepted on January 07, 2010, 08:08:21 PM
Justtobe, We have been joking and kidding around all night.  You have to admit, that what you originally wrote to chickie was insensitive.  Would you rather we be confrontational like you were, or "slap-happy?"  This post has been funny all night long.

If you want a site that is not entertaining, as well as informative, engaging, and serious, then you are probably looking in the wrong place.  This is really a serious site, but if we can't laugh at someone who is so rudely confrontational, then you would have alot of confrontations in return.  I'm sorry if we all upset you.  When I start laughing, then everything pops into my head and I get worse.  I thought it was really funny, and I'm sorry you feel it was at your expense.  Chickie thought it was at her expense at first also.  This is a serious site, but I believe we should be able to Unite in laughter also and happen to believe laughing is a much better feeling than being upset.

Can you forgive us?  Now, do you have a good pie recipe?

Coco and Orly's PM - thanks I appreciate that.  I felt ganged up on there for a second.  I assumed that was meant for me b/c of my comment to Chickie.  Sometimes people have emotional responses to other people.  Sometimes I have those b/c my MIL tries to tear me down to my DH and other relatives.  That really changes your view on things.

I guess I wanted to know why Chickie would say these things about her DIL.  I took that personal b/c sometimes I wonder what kind of names my MIL has for me.     I just wish my MIL would try to see my good points instead of bad and I guess I was hoping Chickie might do the same.  No matter what I say or how I say it there will always be a MIL on here who will be rude to me b/c I'm a DIL.  That's just the way I feel.  I would never want advice from someone who loathes me assuming just b/c I'm having MIL problems instead of DIL problems.  The hurt is just as bad for me as it is for anybody else on this board.   But absolutley I won't bother or interact with someone who's going to dismiss me and be rude. 



Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: cocobars on January 07, 2010, 08:13:19 PM
You can't feel that way about chickie.  She isn't your mother in law.  She doesn't mean you any harm by venting here and really didn't deserve what you said to her.  I don't think anyone here wants to be confrontational, because we are all learning things that we WANT to learn. 
Title: Re: DDIL/CDIL....
Post by: cocobars on January 07, 2010, 08:18:44 PM
By the way, Just2be, we are learning from you as much as you are learning from us. 

I have said some bad things about my DIL that I wouldn't want anyone else to hear.  I'm glad I have a safe place here to vent so she doesn't hear it.  If I vent to my family, they hold it against her.  Seriously, Some of them stopped talking to her, period.  I'm keeping my mouth shut as far as her hurting my feelings, but this is a great avenue to get those things out of my system and work them out.  I would hope nobody will come in and rub my nose in something I've said.  I don't want the police at my door looking for that dead "angry baby."  LOL!