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Title: Grandparent's Name
Post by: holliberri on February 10, 2011, 07:18:14 am
Hey All,

I'm just wondering how you all decided what your name was?

Was it different for the other set of grandparents? Do you both have the same name? Did you wait and let the baby pick it once they could talk? Did you have your children pick it? Did you pick it yourself?
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: LaurieS on February 10, 2011, 07:21:43 am
Hey there Holli.. I once asked that myself.. and then I found a site that listed all kinds of different grand parents monikers to choose from.. I'm afraid I might be straddled with Faux Ma
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: holliberri on February 10, 2011, 07:30:36 am
Oh...that's a new one.

My dad wants to change his name to something fishy (if any of you are interested as to why, PM me, it has something to do with my eldest niece's name). But, my niece is 3, and she's used to calling him something else. Have any of you changed your name that late when you already have 3 GKs?

My mom had her name picked before her GDs were born, and my MIL is having a hard time picking. She's been through 7 names so far...and now she's settled on the one my mom chose for some reason. She likes it, and she recently started teaching my nephew to call her that. She wants DD to call her the same thing, and she has asked that my mom change her name now.

I always called my GPs two sets of different names; and while DH called his GPs the same thing...he added the last name to it to make it different. My problem? My mom's last name and my MIL's last name are the same. (DH and I are not related...lol). I'm not sure how to differentiate the two if they have the same name. I also am a tad concerned that my mom will hit the roof, considering the two were picking different names at the baby shower to be different from one another.

Laurie...I have a name picked out for you already.

Do any of you have the same name as the other set of GPs? Has it worked out? I'm asking honestly.

Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: LaurieS on February 10, 2011, 07:41:57 am
Oh I can't  wait to hear what you have picked out for me :)

I had two sets of grandparents who we called the same thing.... grandma and grandpa.  My great grandparents were.. you guess it.. grandma and grandpa, until one cousin came up with "Grandma on the bumpy road" since my great grandparents and my grandparents lived one street apart.. it was the easy way to distinguish. 

My kids had the traditional 2 sets.. all grandma and grandpa... their great grandparents were.. grandma and grandpa.... I think we are into simplicity
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: holliberri on February 10, 2011, 07:44:39 am
I PM'd you.  :D

So...this idea of "different" names is relatively new I guess? I didn't know that. It would be a lot simpler if they all would just call themselves grandma and grandpa. LOL.
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: Scoop on February 10, 2011, 07:54:30 am
My DD has 2 Grandmas and 2 Grandpas and she always knows who we're talking about.

My Mom has a funny version of her name and we sometimes refer to her as "Grandma Cute-name".  In fact, the kids and the teachers at DD's daycare call her that too.

My MIL has a cutesy nickname from her childhood, that, if our relationship were better, she would be called Grandma "Nickname".  But no one really considered it (neither SIL who's kids are older, nor DH, nor even MIL) and I wasn't about to insist.

We refer to DD's great-grandma as Grandma-First-Name, or just Daddy's Grandma.

Sometimes the kid comes up with the name, but usually it's how the Mom and Dad refer to the grand-parents that beats out anything else.
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: LaurieS on February 10, 2011, 08:03:52 am
Quote from: holliberri on February 10, 2011, 07:44:39 am
I PM'd you.  :D

So...this idea of "different" names is relatively new I guess? I didn't know that. It would be a lot simpler if they all would just call themselves grandma and grandpa. LOL.

Oh and I thank you for sending that in private :)  If grandmas and grandpas work for you, then go for it... my kids had never been in the same room with all 4 grandparents until this past Christmas.. there was no confusion :)
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: holliberri on February 10, 2011, 08:18:54 am
I have one in mind for MIL, since every single one of them wants to be something different (which given that my stepfather and father are together often, that might make sense).

She has always signed gifts/cards with "Georgia ______" She signed it Georgia Grandma for awhile but she decided it was a mouthful. I figured GG might work (or GiGi?), as Georgia Grandma is a mouthful for a toddler.

I think she liked it, but I think she wants her GKs to consistently call her the same thing. I guess I'll just refer to her as that and maybe it'll catch on. Our nephew and DD are the least likely to be together, they live halfway around the world.

My dad though...I don't know what I'm going to do about him. "Splash" just doesn't seem like a good name to me. I think this is his way of going through a mid-life crisis. The fancy cars and young girlfriends were never his style.
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: LaurieS on February 10, 2011, 08:45:54 am
Holli.. I think kids will always come up with their own names as well.. We all knew who Grandma-on-the-bumpy-road was but my  mom sure didn't refer to her that way, even when speaking to us.   My  grandpa (great grandfather) I often called Gumps, Grumpy, or Gramps  which ever came out of my mouth at the time.. he called me Laurie or hey you chucky girl lol
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: FAFE on February 10, 2011, 08:53:58 am
Growing up, I had a Mema and Papa and a Granny and a Poppy.  My kids and neices and nephews all called my mother, Grannie first name.  Husbands parents were Grandma and Grandpa.

My grandmotherly name is Fafe.  That is what my little brother called me because he could not say my real name (which is very common).  So, all my brothers and sisters called me Fafe.  My oldest neices and nephews all called me Aunt Fafe.  My daughter said if she ever had children that is what they'd call me.

When oldest son got married, his wife who is Japanese would not call me by my first name.  So, we just told her to call me Fafe.  When their son was born, it was just the name that was out there.  Now that I have the new baby girl, I am Fafe to her also. 
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: holliberri on February 10, 2011, 09:04:11 am
DH's parents and mine are way too insecure for same names. I thought it would be adorable to have the kids pick, but I'm guessing they're too insecure for that too. I hadn't considered that the kids would call them something regardless of what they called themselves. On-the-bumpy-road is cute!

Fafe, I really like the story of how your name came about, that's so cute and it seems like it has really taken on an identity for you. My brother calls me Howard; I hope no one remembers that long enough to make it my grandmotherly name!
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: FAFE on February 10, 2011, 10:02:54 am
HB, when my middle child was about 6, he came home one day and told me he had finally figured out why he did not have an Aunt Fafe like his cousins.  He realized that was what they were all calling me. 
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: holliberri on February 10, 2011, 10:16:57 am
Awe...that's too cute! For some reason, I thought your name was an acronym. I like your story much better than my original thought!
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: LaurieS on February 10, 2011, 10:58:43 am
I thought the same thing Holli.. so would the  be pronouced with a long A and a long E?
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: lancaster lady on February 10, 2011, 11:22:47 am
My husbands family were Italian ,so our surname is Italian ....I'm Nona and he's Papa .
no doubt when baby is big enough , she'll have  her own pet name for us ....hope it's nice ...lol
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: holliberri on February 10, 2011, 11:25:03 am
I love Nona.

I spent 3 years in Italy. I heard it all the time and fell in love it it.

Then, I was watching the Food Network while I was pregnant and Giada DeLaurentiis was doing a show from Italy. She was walking down the street by a clothing store and saw a photo in the window...it was of her grandmother!

So...she asked a tourist to take her photo with it. She turned around and said, "Ciao, Nona!" There was something so sweet about that moment. I fell in love with the name then.
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: LaurieS on February 10, 2011, 11:39:14 am
My sil is named Nona but she is spanish.... funny that you mention that.. I was driving down a road that I had never traveled yesterday and saw a big restaurant called Nona.. and it was Italian... so now it's confirmed Nona is Italian and my sil is lost.
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: holliberri on February 10, 2011, 11:43:04 am
Who is going to tell your SIL!?
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: LaurieS on February 10, 2011, 11:49:08 am
Not I... I don't speak Spanish and omg her English.. it's like Spanish with an occasional English word tossed in.  But she's very animated... and a hoot to be around.
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: FAFE on February 10, 2011, 12:08:43 pm
Yes, long a and long e. 
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: luise.volta on February 10, 2011, 04:04:20 pm
My friends from Holland are Oma and Opa. I was/am Grammalu.
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: holliberri on February 10, 2011, 05:53:16 pm
My nephew's other set of GPs are Oma and Opa, and so are my niece's!

I love Grammalu. That's such a nice twist.
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: Pen on February 10, 2011, 06:43:24 pm
I don't care what they call me as long as it isn't a rude name in DIL's native tongue. I feel stupid for ditching foreign language class :( Hey, the surf was up. What's a girl to do?
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: LaurieS on February 10, 2011, 06:53:52 pm
Pen.. you didn't

I grew up in Ft Laud, FL... the surf was up a lot... shame that area has changed so much.. drive-in movies... the beach.. surfer boys.. my 67 mustang...  My dd said that she wanted to go back in time and be  a hippy .. I said well I was far from a hippy, but I was a little care free.  Your foreign language had more to do with nautical terms :)
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: Pooh on February 11, 2011, 06:32:24 am
My parents are MeMaw and PePaw, given to them by the first grandchild and the rest of us followed suit.  The paternal GPs are Nanny and PaPaw, they picked their own.  My one set was Grandma and Grandpa when they were living.

Mine is MeMe and the other GM is GiGi.  I picked mine because it was different than all the others and I knew her Mother wouldn't have encouraged her to call me anything.  But I would have preferred to let GD pick.
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: pam1 on February 14, 2011, 08:38:58 am
I've always liked Mamie. 

But are tradition is for the first grandkid to pick and the other gk's just seem to follow suit.
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: LaurieS on February 14, 2011, 08:49:25 am
Pam... What is that 'thing' in your picture?
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: pam1 on February 14, 2011, 09:13:26 am
My newest baby :)
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Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 09:32:16 am
Oh, please enlarge it by putting it in the posting area.  :D
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: pam1 on February 14, 2011, 09:39:33 am
Ok, I will try -- I'm a technophobe lol
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: pam1 on February 14, 2011, 09:40:16 am
uhhh...where is the posting area?   ;D
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 09:52:36 am
 ;D ;D ;D Laurie taught me to do it and if I can learn...anybody can!  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: Pooh on February 14, 2011, 10:24:16 am
Posting area = in here

Is the picture just on your computer or do you have it downloaded to an image site?
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: pam1 on February 14, 2011, 10:26:55 am
It's just on my computer.  Is an imaging site like photobucket?  Do you have to pay for that?
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: Pooh on February 14, 2011, 10:33:22 am
No, photobucket is free (when you register, there is a free option and a pay-upgrade option, just choose the free one).  After you register and then upload your pic to your account, there will be four options below or beside your pic, click on the one that says "Direct link".  It will automatically copy it.  You can post it here using the image button (the button in the icon toolbar below the B, hover over it and it says, insert image).  Click on that button, then paste in between the two words, [img]copy it here[img], then preview to see if it worked.
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 10:42:09 am
That's what I did, and I can do it...well, you "get the picture." (Pun intended.)
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: Pooh on February 14, 2011, 10:44:28 am
Don't you mean, WE'LL get the picture? Lol.
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: pam1 on February 14, 2011, 10:50:02 am
Thanks Pooh!  I'm glad I can ask my silly questions here, I think I'm a permanent 3 years behind with the tech stuff.  I will try it tonight :)  And then you will all be in trouble if I can get it to work..bwahahahaha
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 10:50:13 am
:D :D :D
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: Pooh on February 14, 2011, 10:52:12 am
Hee hee...can't wait!  I'm not as good as Laurie, cause she does all those screen shot thingies, so if that didn't make sense, get her to explain it better.
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: pam1 on February 14, 2011, 10:56:38 am
Yeah, I saw her mention on one post about take a pic on skype.  I recently tried skype...and man, if I could get a few still shots off of that...lol so funny. 

I really didn't care for it though, I felt like I had to yell to be heard and was all up in the screen trying to see.  Massive headache afterward and I had to go take a nap.
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 10:57:19 am
And Laurie had to walk me through it a zillion times! Have faith!  ;)
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: Pooh on February 14, 2011, 10:58:13 am
I don't like skype either...reminds me of strobe lights!
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 11:00:43 am
When I first got Skype, I thought when my screen showed someone online that they were trying to reach me.  ;D So, I responded and there was my grandson in Paris...scratching his hairy chest and yawning...not a pretty sight.
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: seasage on February 14, 2011, 11:02:47 am
[img]imgres.jpeg/img]
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: pam1 on February 14, 2011, 11:07:50 am
Quote from: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 11:00:43 am
When I first got Skype, I thought when my screen showed someone online that they were trying to reach me.  ;D So, I responded and there was my grandson in Paris...scratching his hairy chest and yawning...not a pretty sight.


LOL! 

For my first and probably only session I dressed up in Sundays best and kept checking my teeth the 15 mins before show time.  And then my sister was in her jammies.  Some people
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 11:10:34 am
Yup, that's what my first one looked like, too.  :o Use "Preview" first before you hit "Send." Don't give up! It is such a rush when you make it!  :D
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 11:14:46 am
I loved it when Kirk, (who lives in Hawaii), moved his Skype camera around and showed me his home office and then out the windows...taking in their yard with bananas, paypaya, coconut palms, and gorgeous flowers. I also got to meet his lovebird, Kiwi, that way.  :D
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: Pooh on February 14, 2011, 11:20:18 am
I would be afraid I would catch my YS scratching something else!
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Post by: pam1 on February 14, 2011, 11:25:46 am
LOLOLOLOL

Now I'm paranoid, I'm going to make DH uninstall.  What if someone can see me right now???? 
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: seasage on February 14, 2011, 11:36:43 am
(http://imgres.jpeg)

(http://www.google.com/logos/2011/valentines11-res.jpg)

(http://www.senorcafe.com/archives/iceborer.jpg)

OK, I think I understand.  You have to use the URL of a picture that is somewhere on the web, not a picture from your own computer.  That is the reason for icebucket.  I found a picture of my pazzo DIL on the web.

BTW, I did not use icebucket for the two pictures above.  So I think the key is using a legal URL to an image file, not necessarily using icebucket.  I am betting you could post your pictures on Picasaweb or on Facebook, and then insert the link using the image button below B on the WWU toolbar.

I don't use Facebook, but these are the steps I used to insert the pictures above.  I am pretty sure these steps will allow you to insert one of your facebook pictures here.
1. Click on the image button (http://www.wisewomenunite.com/Themes/default/images/bbc/img.gif) that is just below the (http://www.wisewomenunite.com/Themes/default/images/bbc/bold.gif) on the WWU posting page. Hit the spacebar one of more times.   
2. Go to your Facebook page, right-click on the picture you want to copy to WWU, select "Copy Image URL".
3. Go back to the WWU posting page, put your cursor between the  that were deposited by step one.  Right click your mouse and select "Paste".

Use preview to look at your picture.  If it doesn't appear, you probably have destroyed the left bracket [ that goes in front of /img].  That's what happened to me in my post above.  You can fix it by typing a left bracket [.



Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: seasage on February 14, 2011, 11:49:29 am
Whoopso, typos above, and yet I see we are now living under a "no-modify" regime.  Not being able to fix my typos is going to drive me nuts, nuts, nuts!!!

                  (http://t2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQLLwHUYZQQKq8dZFhYIxNL7dL8LQy37f3IcI-eUgY95I77E-lU)

Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: LaurieS on February 14, 2011, 12:03:12 pm
You're correct.. you don't need to use photobucket.. but it's a great/free starting place for most people here to understand what online photo storage is.
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 12:17:21 pm
Wheee! You did it!

You would all have gotten a kick out of me trying to explain Photobucket to my sort of daughter that does amateur photography and keeps messing up her hard drive(s) with too many pictures. I am not the person to explain Photobucket!  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: pam1 on February 14, 2011, 12:19:49 pm
now what is that a picture of?  lol
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: LaurieS on February 14, 2011, 12:39:24 pm
Seasages big nuts
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Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 01:21:55 pm
Cat with big teeth?
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Post by: Pooh on February 14, 2011, 01:23:11 pm
I thought seal???
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Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 01:29:20 pm
??
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Post by: Pooh on February 14, 2011, 01:46:18 pm
That or it kind of looks like my Ex-Husband???
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: LaurieS on February 14, 2011, 02:15:12 pm
Wasn't that the alien that popped out of Sigourney Weavers stomach?
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 03:03:43 pm
 :-X Can't top those!  :-X
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: MotherOf3 on February 26, 2011, 07:12:13 am
I always called them all Grandpa and Grandma when talking TO them.  If talking about them, we would all say, "grandpa Jones" or "grandma Smith".

My eldest granddaughter started calling me Mamaw a few years ago so naturally her two younger brothers often call me that but they also say grandma because that is what my daughter refers to me as.  I don't care either way.  :D
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: holliberri on February 26, 2011, 07:16:53 am
LOL...I promise I'm not related to my DH in anyway, but my mom and MIL have the same last name...so if we go with the same names we'll need some discriminators!

My cousins called their g-parents burnt-pancake-Mommom and piano-player-Mommom.

They came up with them...I guess one Mommom burnt the pancakes once.
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: myree on February 27, 2011, 01:30:47 pm
i wasnt ready to be called granma at 40 my gd is almost she has started calling me mimi i think its beacuse she hears my name myree and i love it or im nanna  mimi
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: Tara on March 07, 2011, 08:36:24 pm
One of my gd's calls me Uma Tara and another calls me Grandma Tara.

The others are grown up and call me Tara.

Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: FAFE on March 11, 2011, 12:12:32 pm
Hope this is not offensive, but one of my friends called her gm Black Mammy.  Her gf showed her a picture of her gm back in the day when the pictures did not come out really light.  She stated that that was not her gm but a black mammy.  Even now when the family talks about her that is her name. 
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: AnonymousDIL on March 11, 2011, 12:23:38 pm
We (Brother and I) called our great-grandmother and grandfather the "White haired Grandma/Grandpa" because they both had beautiful snow white hair. I hope my hair turns white instead of going gray. :-)

I miss her, she was the greatest cook ever!
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: Rose799 on March 11, 2011, 01:02:43 pm
Quote from: AnonymousDIL on March 11, 2011, 12:23:38 pm
We (Brother and I) called our great-grandmother and grandfather the "White haired Grandma/Grandpa" because they both had beautiful snow white hair. I hope my hair turns white instead of going gray. :-)

I miss her, she was the greatest cook ever!


What were your favorite dishes, Adil?  I wish mine was anything but gray...
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: AnonymousDIL on March 11, 2011, 01:10:33 pm
She made sooo many wonderful things, but the ones I remember (and crave) the most are her homemade chicken pot pie and popcorn balls. They were the best. The popcorn balls you buy at the store just don't do it for me. lol
Title: Re: Grandparent's Name
Post by: Rose799 on March 11, 2011, 01:17:52 pm
Quote from: AnonymousDIL on March 11, 2011, 01:10:33 pm
She made sooo many wonderful things, but the ones I remember (and crave) the most are her homemade chicken pot pie and popcorn balls. They were the best. The popcorn balls you buy at the store just don't do it for me. lol


Sounds yummy!  I've been taping Cook's Country from America's Test Kitchen.  Boy do their recipes look good!
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Post by: Rejected on March 12, 2011, 10:33:22 am
I've wondered about this topic too. My Mom is Australian so naturally we called her parent's Nanna & Poppa and now that my mom has grand kids they call her Nanna & my dad Poppa. But my MIL also is Nana with her grand kids. DH and I don't have kids & haven't really planned to in the near future but I find myself wondering about this often. Is it wrong/rude to change MIL's name for my kids to call her Nana xxxx (her name) without her permission because I could see my MIL getting upset at us whether we asked or not.

Also, I have no clue how this works but I have wondered, does it make a difference who was a grandparent first? haha I really don't know.

Then I've also thought since the spelling is different, then my kids will call my mom Nanna- pronounced Nan-nuh(which is how everyone in my family pronounces it) and my MIL Nana- pronounced Na-Na (with a sharp A sound like "bat" with each A) Do you think kids would get that & see the difference between the two? One of MIL's other DS calls her Na-Na but everyone else says it like Nan-nuh and no seems to notice the difference. But my MIL pronounces herself as Nan-nuh.

I would just like a difference between the two so when my kids say Nanna/Nana I know which one they want or talking about.