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its been 4 years since my DS and DIL cut us off...without a clue. Most of you who have been here know my story. Quiet for a while, moving forward with me...my youngest DD who was left abandoned by her brother and going through her most precious teenage life seeing pain with us as parents, but getting all our attention and knowing she had wisdom and of course...her knowing how wrong the situation has been....SHE TURNED 19 this summer and guess what??? She holds us somewhat hostage. Knowing we will hurt, threatens us, demands and plays the game. She knows this is horrible, she lived it...but she does.

Never have I had an issue with her. Great kid. No drugs, never a B on her report card. Driven and followed rules. I don't think she was grounded except for one short occasion and it was something that was not too bad. She met a boy...Oh, boy! He is 23 and we didn't know him well and neither did she when she decided to move in with him and 3 other male room mates to his house after 1 month of dating...all this happened while my DH and I were on vacation for the first time without her. We let go, knowing she is smart. We didn't know she quit school, we had no idea yet. After 3 weeks of barely any contact with her and a partially cleaned out bedroom here at home, I packed her room up and called her to come get her things because I was going to remodel her room as a guest room. 1 week later (after I remodeled) she shows up...cried and things came out. He has an anger problem, control issue (which we already saw by her not being able to come to our house or him not coming around) she decided to have dinner with us and was afraid to tell him. She had me go with her to pick up a dress and an overnight bag (just in case) then she called him. He blew up and followed us by a tracker he had on her phone. He made a scene in the parking lot and after 4 days of stalking and begging my husband and I and my DD telling him she wanted space we almost had to put a restraining order on him. One night my daughter awoke us in the middle of the night that something happened to him and she wanted to go to the house because she thought he hurt himself or something. We went with her and called 911 to find it was manipulation and an anxiety attack.  We thought she saw this and was done when he dumped her things in our front yard and it took me 2 days to put her bedroom back together and me consoling her crying. She even went to a ladies retreat with me and unloaded on lots of women who now support her to stay away. She committed to moving on...until 24 hours after she arrived home and he got to her. She now wants to move back in...less than 1 week from the 1 week of hell we all went through and threatens to do to us what her brother has done. Her BF even texted me threatening the same. What to do? She is unrecognizable and even though she is an adult, we hold the title to the car and pay the bills because she was going to college. We laid down the law and told her she can get a loan for the car, buy one she can afford or figure it out. We don't think moving in with this guy who has so many issues is a good thing and we cannot support that. She is using the almighty trump card and trying to hold me hostage to get her way.
I need wisdom ladies. Been there and done that before and with all the pain I went throw with my DS, I can't bare to go through this. I just started really living again.
Help!

I don't know if anyone remembers me...I've been a member for more than 3 years now. No, my DS has not made amends, however...I was getting a little glimpse of hope 2 times this past year. One...he texted happy mother's day to me. Two...he showed up at the hospital to see DH after he had surgery (though he hid around the corner and waited till I went home) DH had open heart surgery the day before and can barely remember the visit, but I thought it was a good sign.

My parents are tangled in this silly web as well...they built a camp against me, DH and YDD and play the silent treatment, lie/drama thing...over the past 2 years I have learned to stay quiet. It was better for me and in hopes that DS would see that I was not engaging with anyone. I was so mistaken on that. I received a very hurtful text from DS a few weeks ago that blames me for setting him back even further with more drama...WHAT? The text was also a broadcast text to the entire estranged family...humiliating me and shaming me. That is when I woke up. Enough of this crazy shenanigans. I seriously have had enough and am not going to allow myself to go through this anymore.

I have grown a lot over the past 3.5 years. I have been to my worst, sick and worn out. Even had a stroke over this stress. I had taken away my wonderful self and not been present for the people in my life that love and value me. I have stayed away from the site for a little while only popping in and not truly interjecting because I had so much work to do on me...I want to share what I have grown to over these past years.
1. I am valued by many people and I need to give myself to them. For If I don't, I miss out on joy. For a long time I felt guilty for loving my other grandchildren and missing the estranged GD...but not anymore. It is what it is and just that. I enjoy the time I have with all my other children and grandchildren and I give myself permission to grieve briefly from time to time. I was missing out on a lot from the grief I was carrying.

2. Each day, I tell myself that I made it through the day before and today I am going to enjoy this day because at the end of it, I don't want it to be wasted.

3. I decided that I had enough and missed my life. I had to put him away and my GD too. Living with that pain each day was ruining me. I had so much left of me and seriously...was it worth it over someone who didn't value me? No. It was not. Since I started surrounding myself with people who valued me and allowing myself to value them without guilt...I have experienced joy again. Real Joy! So...it can be done, I can go on with my life.

Please ladies, if you are feeling the lowest...know there is hope. But you cannot feel better until you value yourself. I think the true peace I have had over these past few years was that I learned to live more for me. I'm not saying I don't have bad days, I still do...but they aren't as often and they are far less painful. My heart will always have a hole in it and I will always be in recovery...however, I have become a much better person for me, for my true loved ones and for any future friends/family that come my way.

Thanks for listening.

2 1/2 years of not seeing or hearing from DS.
MY DH ran into him a week ago. They talked for about a half hour. My DH came home wheeping. He said that it was a wonderful talk and my DS promised to call me. Of course....I had hope....I don't know why, I had finally gave up hope and started to accept him not in my life. I didn't want to have false hope. My DH was sure the call would come...My DS promised.
No Call....My DH called him today....phone number blocked.

Hi all. Been a while since I posted. I have been silent and trying to just read and move on with my life...even without my DS in it.
Well...2 and a half years later...My bad situation went to worse to devastating to the unimaginable.
From the estrangement of my DS, DIL and GD to my ex and his family ostracizing me, to My entire family, extended family, parents, brother, sister, nieces, nephews, etc. FOR? I don't know. When secret gatherings started happening and lies about the family getting together with my DS, DIL and GD and my parents started to lie about not even having any communication with him and then me finding out on Facebook they are...I stood up for myself and said I didn't appreciate the lies. My parents do not like to be wrong about anything and I believe jumped on the bandwagon with DS and DIL to alienate me more. I did nothing to other family members and it appeared they drank the koolaide and stopped all communication with me...Including my nieces and nephews (however at holidays and birthdays, they cashed my gift checks with out any acknowledgement to me) My oldest daughter has been playing their game and going to the gettogethers and lying to me and out of fear of losing my other GD to which I do see often...I keep forgiving her and telling her I understand the pressure she is under. (I AM LYING....I AM HEARTBROKEN) But I shut up. A few months back my youngest daughter confronted my parents about how hurt she was they don't invite her and she was extremely close to her brother (My DS who is not only giving me the silent treatment he is my husband and his younger sister and step brothers) My parents went off on my youngest daughter and now she is totally excluded from the family too.
Why I am writing today: Recently I celebrated and landmark birthday and took my two DD's on a trip with me and the very next week my mother celebrated a birthday and the whole family excluding me and my youngest daughter was invited and pictured surfaced on FB. I confronted my oldest daughter who blatantly lied to me and said she wasn't there until one was posted with her and to top it off....I had the GD for the weekend who is old enough to blab and she told me the truth (3rd time I found out about these events from her) What does she think I am??? STUPID?
I feel I have no respect and out of fear of losing my other GD (because she knows how hurt I am over DS) I am held in a manipulative hold of reject, cruel behavior and now a group of all backbiting people who encourage my two children that this is tolerable and normal behavior to treat their own mother. My parents hatred and anger towards me has poisoned our family and I am so tired of this treatment. I want to voice to my ODD that I don't think this is acceptable treatment and if she continues to treat me this way, it is going to ruin our relationship. However....I am scared that she will immediately attack me by holding back my GD...just to gain control.
My YDD is so upset by this she is developing trust issues and has bottled up hurt and resentment that HAS affected the thought of ever getting past this with her siblings. I don't blame her, though I encourage her to be the better person....she is now angry at her sister. My DS's anger and my parents anger towards me (for unknown reasons) has really put deep wedges in this family.
I realize through therapy for over two years I cannot control this, their actions and have done everything I could to reach out and do my part to communicate and extend the olive branch....I cannot do anything else. I just have had enough...
The question: I don't know how to NOT be loving. I have always sent cards (stopped the presents after one for GD was never picked up at the P.O. and returned unclaimed) but cards, even to DIL....I get nothing....30 months now. Not even for my milestone birthday, not even when I had a stroke. My DS has a birthday next week. I am advised by friends and therapist to NOT send another anything anymore. However...I struggle with that because I have always said, "Just because someone else treats me inappropriately, it doesn't mean I have to do the same in return". I guess I just send because I send for me...that hopes that someday, even if I am gone...He will remember that his mom never did give up on him, even through his poor behavior.
I am interested in your thoughts.....There is NO right or wrong way to handle this situation....I just am curious on how you would handle this.

18 months ago...for taking my GD to the park and somehow becoming the scapegoat of my DS and DIL's personal issues...the cut off began. Not just by them, my family (which was more or less a good thing because they lie and manipulate and hurt) However...I never had a reason of the cut off because no body spoke to me. Not one reason or word. I heard stupid stuff through the grapevine, but couldn't really establish if that was just the "tellers" version of what they thought. Even my ex-husband and his family avoid me to the extreme that they hide behind things if they see us coming.
Well, I did get a reliable story yesterday....My DS is not speaking to me because My DH and I abused him and he is counseling for the emotional and physical abuse.
WHAT HOGWASH!!!! It never happened. If that was true, do you think for 20 years of his life someone would have seen it! Why could he all of a sudden come up with this or let it supposedly come out in counseling? I am so confused. I was so close to him until after he married her! They even lived with us for 6 months...I don't get it!
Now what? What do I do? How do you deal with the fact now that you think your DS feels you and your DH were horrible parents and hurt him? If this was true, why the cut off with his sisters and why such silence?
How do I cope with this? I am heartbroken. Truly Heartbroken

Tried to get on with my life....without my Adult Son, DIL and precious GD since they cut us out of their lives. 15 months later...still the silent treatment to me, DH and his sisters....but seeing my parents (who lie about them and are not my biggest fans). Missed another birthday if my GD. They moved, blocked our phone numbers and after all that, when my parents asked him why, it was all nonsense and no real answer. "She knows what she did and u til she makes it right" is what he told them. He won't talk to me and I have no idea what I did. No, I did nothing to deserve this! It is all based on lie DIL told him according to his best friend who he now wrote off due to DIL also.
Anyway....just had a wonderful vacation with 5 of 6 grandkids, great relationship with other 4 children and this issue with my baby boy is still killing me inside and preventing me from living my life without tears each day. I do not cry all day, just moments here and there.
I really want to make contact with my son....I am torn on what to do. Obviously he has avoided me and is
Is avoiding me, but I really feel him in my spirit wanting me to love him enough to keep on....it is a mothers feeling.
What to do now? I miss him

Just an update on me and my crazy world....thought this was worth sharing.
I had a small stroke on Christmas Eve...after weeks of testing it appears that it is all stress related (go figure )
Anyway....I had an appt. this a.m. at my neurologists office for a EMG test to see how much nerve damage I have in my arm and left side...they scheduled me at their other office which happens to be in the same Doctors Building DIL works. My DH went with me and I was nervous about running into her...but what are the chances, it is a fairly big building and she is on a different floor, my appt. is early, etc. Well....My doctor was late and we had to sit in the lobby and wait...we could see the parking lot from where we were at...Here comes DIL...she parks...as walking up....sees my car...runs to hers and speeds out of lot! My DH and I laughed! It was the first time I laughed about them in 7 months. How childish, ridiculous and immature can you be? Did she think I was there stalking her? Who cares...In any respect I am sure she called my DS and told him I was waiting for her and I really don't care. She is the fool...but I have been the fool for feeling so bad for me and "what did I do?" Now, I realize the games, the issue and the craziness is all them....I am not the victim...I am just their excuse for their bad behavior and for the first time have a sense of relief and now don't feel so bad. I actually laughed about this more than once.
So....It takes a fool to see the fool....l am letting them be and know that someday, DS will work through this and see the craziness for what it is...they can play their little silent treatment game with themselves. Seriously....I have been a fool for even giving an ounce of my energy and health to such ridiculousness...now, eyes are wide open and peace flows through me.

Hi Ladies, hope you had a good holiday. I haven't posted in a while...just been lurking or interjecting. I was doing well...or at least as well as expected. 6 months of the silent treatment from DS and DIL and not allowed any part of my GD. Well...I got a text at 9:30 p.m. on Christmas night from DS, "merry Christmas" I texted back..."merry Christmas to you. I love and miss you." That was the first communication in 6 months. He knows I have gifts for them, I put that in my Xmas card. I even texted this morning that I would like to bring the gifts by...again...NOTHING. I had hopes up that he was moving forward. I was thinking about going to their place one evening and calling from outside and let him know I am there and have gifts and will sit for 10 minutes if he'd like to see me, just open the door...if not, I will leave their gifts. Does that sound like a bad idea? My therapist said do what makes me happy...but truthfully, nothing about any of this makes me happy. I seriously doubt he will open the door and now I feel stupid about leaving expensive gifts to ungrateful people who can't have the decency to even acknowledge me. I am torn.
I was wondering if any of you had thoughts on this one. I just don't know anymore and it is starting to get me down again. Bah...HUMBUG!!!!

Well, My mom called me today...She said she learned her lesson from the last time when she lied to me about my DS and DIL visiting with the baby. She even asked my DS if she chould tell me.
Well, they went to see my parents yesterday. Mom had a chance to talk to my DS in private and he seemed sad that he wasn't talking to me. She said he is working on it and his wife keeps telling him he needs to call me. (that is scary...could be good or bad) She did mention that he is mad that his sister, My ODD called him blaming him for all the problems in my family, didn't mention that she called him back and apologized though. Of course...she should have never said anything like that...for it isn't true. I think out of hurt and frustration of his silent treatment, she over reacted. Obviously he is angry or hurt from me for some reason that is preventing him from speaking to me. I don't know.
My Mom said she did tell him that I was sad and wanted to talk to him....She said he responded with, "I know...she lets me know that often."
I wonder if that was a good thing....I'm on his mind or a bad thing....I bug him. Either way....Whatever it is, he is working on and I hope he hurries up, because my broken heart has had enough.
If anyone has some insight about what I wrote or opinions...they are welcome. I'm anxious. Don't know what to do....

All those who know my story know that I have no clue what is happening with my DS and why I am getting a silent treatment to our family.
So far 5 months...My ODD informed me this past week that she phoned her brother and told him that she was frustrated and angry at him and wished he would do the right thing. Later after that...she called him back apologizing for sounding like she was scolding him, taking responsibility for why she is hurting and told him she misses their relationship and if he would only communicate with her that she would be willing to do what it took to mend things between them.
Well...of course, he didn't answer. Here is where the evil comes in.
Not even 5 minutes later...DIL changes her profile picture on FB to her, her brother and GD. Now, take in mind that for the past 5 months she has not posted GD on there so I or our family will not see her picture. She cut us off her facebook, so we can only see her profile picture. To me...this was evil. She knows that someone would see it. It was like a dig, "I have a relationship with my Brother, who sees the baby...are you jealous?" Now I know that she holds the cards in this....she has manipulated my DS in some way to hate his family.
It has bothered me all week. I have been staying off of here because I have been trying to keep my head together and am no good to anyone else if I am upset. I am not calling him anymore and neither is anyone else, sisters, DH too. I just don't understand how all this happened and for what reason. What is the purpose of this??? How possibly could my DS ever resolve the hurt he has inflicted or allowed to be inflicted on his FOO?

Alright...I promised to wait 1 month before I did the "touch base" call to DS. I lasted 26 days...not too bad. I was feeling low yesterday and at Church the pastor talked about integrity. He said to live your life with the fullest integrity! So, I called, said I don't like the silence, it hurts. Would hope he would start some dialog and would love to see him, DIL and GD. That's it. Nothing else. Of course, I am the fool...no answer, no return call, a kick in the face again.
I decided that I had enough of this game. I am waiting for 3 weeks...no phone call, I am going to call and leave a message Saying,
"I think what you are doing is unconcionable and I have had enough of your cruel game. I am ashamed of how you are treating your family. I want to know...What kind of person does this? It is obvious you don't want us in your life, but you don't have any decensy to atleast give me an explanation of the reason, because there is none. You cannot blame anyone for the relationship problems since you are the only one giving the silent treatment and causing this issue. I am not going to keep reaching out to you anymore, I don't deserve nor want what you are dishing to me in return. Maybe you need to figure out why you treat people who love you and are so good to you so horribly. I also can't stand to see what you are doing to your own daughter by punishing her too. You have taken her away from people who love her and cherish her and can enrich her life. I did not raise you to be this kind of person and I have no idea what kind of evil absorbed your soul. DH and I decided we are going to adopt a needy family for Christmas this year, since you and your wife don't appreciate anything we do and don't need or want anything from us."
I have been wanting to stick up for myself for 4 1/2 months. I am always the doormat and am tired of getting stepped on. It doesn't really matter, nothing could get any worse than this...Am I doing the right thing by speaking up for me and the rest of the family?  Does it even matter anymore?

Hi Ladies...I am not sad today...actually very joyous. I went to church with my youngest daughter this morning and the message really hit me in the heart. The pastor asked "What do we do when our dreams are shattered" Basically....we can try to control it and get frustrated and be miserable...or let it go and whatever happens will happen and so be it. O.k. He must have been talking to me.
anyway....I left there with Peace on my heart.
I also...called my DS and left him a nice message and hoped he was doing o.k. and said, "We cannot work things out if I am the only one willing." I wished him and his family well and that was that.
My point here. Just because he is being awful to me...doesn't mean I have to be awful to him. I am not bugging him, but I will not play his game any longer. I will always let him know I care about him...not for him...but for me, because that is who I am. If he calls he calls, if he doesn't....I know in my OWN HEART...I have done all I can do and am a good person, terrific mom and it doesn't matter much after that.
Have a wonderful Sunday Ladies!

Well, had dinner with my family tonight and was looking at pics on my mom's camera and there were pics of DS, DIL and GD from July. For 3 months they let me believe that my DS and DIL ousted the whole family...they watched me cry, worry and be beside myself. Never did they ever admit or tell me that he had made contact with them. I asked them several times and even tonight when I saw the pics, My mom lied and said her camera date was wrong and then my dad admitted that he talked to him and my DS said he wanted to talk to me but wanted to on his terms when I would not yell at him....This from a boy/man who screamed obsenities at his mother for 41 minutes as she apologized for something ridiculous. If I had only known that my DS had been talking to my parents, It would have changed my life. I wasted 3 months of my life in total dispair and thought that this whole thing brought my relationship with my parents to a much stronger place... I must have said I was sorry to my parents for hurting them ever at least 2000 times...then they lie and watch me suffer and then lie again.
I am beside myself tonight for sure....how do you even comprehend this one?

I am sorry to be redundant on my heartbreak...I just need advice. I am trying to stay calm, quiet and peaceful...which is a struggle because my hurt, like all of us here is very consuming and leaves me exhausted. Anyway. I spoke with my Ailing mother this morning and she again mentioned that I MUST do everything I can to resolve things with my son. No matter how I said I have tried but you cannot make someone resolve or speak to you when they are giving you the silent treatment. She got upset and said, "Well...I guess another holiday is ruined and I'll be dead this time and my family is a mess." We were supposed to have a dinner next Monday night to celebrate all of our birthdays, there are 4 of us this month including my DS. Well, since my DS isn't speaking or answering anyone in the families calls, it is obvious he will not be attending.
Questions and Hopefully someone has some positive solutions to making some sort of communication regarding certain family things. I feel in my heart just because my DS and DIL are giving us the silent treatment and not acknowledging us because of their selfishness and immaturity doesn't mean that as a mature, wise, forgiving and loving mother, grandmother and mother in law that I can't do the right thing.  There are some family situations going on here. I didn't remove him from our family...why should I treat him that way? Why do I have to be forced to pretend that he is no longer a part of our family just because he wants to be a fool and punish us and for whatever reason remove us from his?
Luise...I am not stepping backwards here...I am standing up for me, for the rest of the family and I am trying to do the right thing. My mother is near death and I think my DS should have the right to know this...regardless of what ever bad behavior he is doing. How do you just turn off being a family and pretending that he doesn't exist...just because he is being mentally discharged?  If you say nothing to him regarding what is happening in the family...will it be the right thing? Doesn't  that put me in the same position as him?
THE QUESTION: How do you inform your distant children of family circumstances that are going on? Without invading their space?

So...wondered why my Ex, my DS's father wouldn't return my call and was giving me the silent treatment too for 2 1/2 months, finally came to reality tonight. Took my youngest DD to a school event and there was my ex and his kids walking up the side walk. When he saw me, my DH and DD...he turned around fast and went to his car and sat with his kids till we were out of sight. I was shocked. This is a man who says he is a Christian. Now I know something is stinky. I know now that something my DS and DIL did, said or whatever....has turned them against us too. I also heard from several people this week that claim my son is unhappy, threatened and frightened to stand up to his wife and is only staying with her because he fears she will leave or do something with the baby. I, as a mother...am worried by this. But, after seeing my ex and knowing that his wife told me 2 weeks ago that it wasn't a problem with my DIL but my DS trying to "make his own being" really tells me that he doesn't have anyone in his life to encourage him to make ammends, be real, do the right thing, etc. They are as blind as I was until the whole thing blew up in my face....I couldn't believe it either, she seemed so sweet until the last phone call. She is very cunning. She walks like and angel, talks like an angel but she's the devil in disguise.  It's very ironic...My Ex, his wife and my DH and myself always got along and when my DS and DIL got married, she told me she felt bad that her mom and dad hated eachother. She would ask me how come we always got along so well. I would just tell her, "lots of forgiveness and lots of understanding." My DS despises her father and her father despises my DS. Now she gets her wish...she has broken up our entire family....my ex and I do not speak (not on my end...but his, I don't know what she did or what she convinced my DS to do) She probably feels pretty good about herself knowing that she has caused so much drama and feels ultimately in control of him. Also, heard from DS's really close friend that my DS had to get a tattoo of DIL's name on ring finger or else and he called another friend that he was miserable and was afraid of her. How can I stop worrying now and let him reap what he has sowed? I am riddled with the worry and I am tired of making these excuses that he is a wonderful saint that is just hurt when he is a grown up that made poor choices that is not my fault and a reflection on what I did and how I raised him. I'm struggling with this tonight. Help....I am venting....my husband has had enough

Just wanted to tell all the MIL's out here that are going through the same miserable situations that I am a story.
Went to my Dr. Today. I am not feeling so well, go figure. For me though, I am recovering from Cancer and I get sick easily. Stress doesn't make it any better. Anyway....I decided to talk to him about my stress, etc. He told me that he encounters this every day from his patients. He said that not a day goes by that a patient doesn't come in to get on meds or talk about their estranged son because of DIL issues. I was amazed by this. Anyway...we talked in length and he gave me his version of suggestions.

Now, my Dr. is in late 30's, married with 2 sons, wife is very family oriented but he has personal experience with this situation. He said, "Keep the door open by calling or trying to touch base with Son and let him know you would like to be a part of his family, but he will ALWAYs be a part of yours. That there is nothing that warrants you two to not be a family anymore. Let him know that you feel bad that there is a lack of communication and that you do not want to beg for him to be part of your lives. Let him know that you love him and that you will be here when he figures it out.

Also, an acquaintance that I haven't talked to in a while (business related) phoned me today. We lost contact due to his change of jobs through a divorce. He shared with me today that he was the same type of DS until the separation between him and his wife. He said 9 years of treating his family horrible. He said he has talked to his folks more in the past month than in 9 years. He says he didn't even realize he was doing it...It was like that was the way it was and that's that. He also said he remembered his father phoning him once and telling him his mother was so upset. His response was, "I have a family now, can't bother with what is making mom upset" He said he feels awful and realizes he was not right and he knows that his relationship with his mom and dad are never going to be the same. He also told me that his mom doesn't hug him the same and his father won't even look him in the eye. Even after apologizing, they are still so hurt. He got upset.

So....I hope this info helps someone understand. The boys are under a spell....There really isn't much we can do except love unconditionally and hope that their marriage doesn't last or they grow up and grow a set.

It has been 2 months since DIL and Son started the silent treatment for ridiculous uncalled reasons. I finally grew out of the dispair (which I didn't know I was in) I am now to the acceptance, but a little angry....alot less crying stage. I ran into my ex's wife the other day and this is the first time I have had any contact with anyone else (seemed even my ex was giving me the silent treatment too) She said they were instructed by my son to stay out and that is why they haven't called. She seemed sad about it and commented that she didn't know what to say about any of this. It was a short conversation because we were at the High School with our youngest daughters (which are the same age). I did get out....which I contemplated this moment for 2 months....that I thought DIL was alientating DS from us. She frowned and said, "I don't think it is DIL....It is DS."
I personally think they see a very passive DIL who acts like the angel around them...like she used to with me and my DH. I still think she has him all worked up and angry at us and he is more vocal because my DS never had a negative thought about us till her. So, I think they see only him doing the reacting right now and her quietly sitting there like the sweet little princess she is.
SO....My Question?? What is your intake that DS could really turn by himself? I know DIL is disrespectful and has played games before that we have seen...But could it be possible that we put too much blame on DIL and not as much on DS's? I am furious at my DS's behavior now that I have moved past the gravelling and begging stage. I don't deserve this treatment and I won't stand for it any longer. It took me a lot to get to this point...But I want my life back and I feel that I have lost 2 months for a couple of spoiled brats. I sure will miss that baby, but I don't have the energy to suffer anymore for the sweet little thing to be dangled over my head. I give up.