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Title: DH...
Post by: pam1 on February 05, 2011, 10:16:56 AM
Something is going on and I'm going to find out.

Every single day this week he came home, emptied the dishwasher and cooked dinner.  And then he woke up this morning at a reasonable hour, took a shower and went to the GROCERY STORE?

This is all highly unusual.  He must have done something and feels guilty.
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: LaurieS on February 05, 2011, 10:19:57 AM
Quote from: pam1 on February 05, 2011, 10:16:56 AM
Something is going on and I'm going to find out.

Every single day this week he came home, emptied the dishwasher and cooked dinner.  And then he woke up this morning at a reasonable hour, took a shower and went to the GROCERY STORE?

This is all highly unusual.  He must have done something and feels guilty.
Or he is taking lessons from Pooh's husband
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: pam1 on February 05, 2011, 10:25:02 AM
Oh, Pooh?  Your husband does this too?

This came out of nowhere.  He is not just lazy, I have termed him "aggressively lazy" in the past. 
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: LaurieS on February 05, 2011, 10:43:34 AM
Naw.. pooh's husband is just otherwise motivated.  Well I think we can..he does all her cleaning and cooking and well there's a reason we are not seeing her posting on Saturday mornings. 
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: Pen on February 05, 2011, 10:45:46 AM
Ha ha, I can hear DH loading the dishwasher as we speak. I wonder what's up (so to speak?)
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: LaurieS on February 05, 2011, 10:49:41 AM
Mine is in the attic building a bridge across the opening.. that is earning him no brownie points in my book... but he is so happy up there with his new shiny nail gun.. bet he cleans and polishes it after the day is done.
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: Pen on February 05, 2011, 11:01:46 AM
Is that what you young people are calling it these days?  ;)
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: LaurieS on February 05, 2011, 11:07:50 AM
LOL..new shiny nail gun LOL  that's almost as bad as me saying that Pooh was going to whip out her snake and someone thought I was being to explicit. 
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: pam1 on February 05, 2011, 11:37:59 AM
He came back and he didn't just buy meat.  All food groups were represented.  And he said he bought stuff for a special dinner for me. 

This is bewildering.
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: Pen on February 05, 2011, 11:43:30 AM
Enjoy it! And be prepared to appreciate it... ;)
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: LaurieS on February 05, 2011, 12:15:07 PM
pray he doesn't burn it
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: pam1 on February 05, 2011, 12:55:51 PM
He's actually a terrific cook.  Just very messy.  It's not unusual to find floured palm prints everywhere when he is done.

Now he actually got seafood.  I can't really eat meat.....this is so odd.
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: LaurieS on February 05, 2011, 12:58:34 PM
Roll with it.. break out the beer.. let the party begin

He's just trying to be nice.. nice to my dh is get dressed we'll go to the burger joint.
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: pam1 on February 05, 2011, 01:02:05 PM
I'm trying  ;D
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: seasage on February 05, 2011, 01:04:44 PM
Lawdy mercy girl!  Why you writing stuff to us on your computer?  Lay the table, light the candles, bring out the crystal wine goblets, and schmooz with the cook.
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: pam1 on February 05, 2011, 01:08:05 PM
LOL, he's too busy cleaning at the moment.  This is really funny.

Title: Re: DH...
Post by: seasage on February 05, 2011, 01:14:56 PM
I'm thinking he wants you to agree that he can buy a very expensive boy-toy he has had his eyes on.  What toys does he like?  Sports cars?  Boats?  Motorcycles?  Fishing trip with the guys?
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: pam1 on February 05, 2011, 01:19:06 PM
HOLY CRAP, I bet you're right Seasage.

We talked about buying a new tv for the superbowl a while ago.  Hmmm....

The funny part is that he is the one who is the money manager but he does seem to want to make sure it is ok with me about the big stuff.  lol.  He's so sweet. 
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: seasage on February 05, 2011, 01:24:57 PM
Alternate guess.  He has invited his buds over to watch the Superbowl.  You are the only one who doesn't know the plan yet.  Maybe you want to sneak out into the garage to see if the new flat-screen TV is out there in a box, waiting to be mounted tomorrow morning.

Title: Re: DH...
Post by: luise.volta on February 05, 2011, 04:35:12 PM
I'd have him followed...
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: LaurieS on February 05, 2011, 06:51:15 PM
By now you've had dinner.. so what was up?
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: Pen on February 05, 2011, 06:52:55 PM
If this post's a-rockin'.......
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: pam1 on February 05, 2011, 06:54:31 PM
He still hasn't said.

I did try to look at our checking account online and the password is changed.  LOL. 
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: LaurieS on February 05, 2011, 06:55:06 PM
Really we are so nosy and anxious to hear if it's the super bowl worthy 65" led flat screen, or he's been hanging out with Pooh's husband
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: LaurieS on February 05, 2011, 06:56:02 PM
Maybe he knows that you've recently gone through hell and back and he's cooking seafood to brighten your mood
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: pam1 on February 05, 2011, 06:57:40 PM
Maybe...but honestly, I've been back to my old self the past month.  Good mood all the time. 

Maybe it's like that thing, darn can't remember the word for it, you know when good moods pass on to others.   He even did laundry.

Everything was done wrong but I didn't say anything :)
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: LaurieS on February 05, 2011, 07:05:04 PM
That is what I'm trying to teach my dd.. when her bf tries to help she has the very bad habit of micro managing .. I told her that there is a time and a place.. how he stirs the soup is not either.
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: pam1 on February 05, 2011, 07:09:40 PM
lol.  It feels good.  He is proud of himself, I can't ruin it. 
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: LaurieS on February 05, 2011, 07:19:45 PM
No you can't.. what a sweet guy.. even if he changed the password so you didn't see the charge for the new 65"er
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: luise.volta on February 05, 2011, 07:20:03 PM
This is SO much fun!  ;D ;D ;D Ya' gotta' love the guy! (I'd still have him followed, though!)
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: pam1 on February 05, 2011, 07:24:48 PM
It is...

Now maybe tomorrow I will go shovel the driveway or change the oil in his car.  I got to think of something I can do to shock him like he did for me.  Huh, maybe I'll shave my legs.
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: luise.volta on February 05, 2011, 07:27:07 PM
Better not get that radical...until you are sure he isn't going to drive a new, Cadillac Esplanade into driveway...
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: pam1 on February 05, 2011, 07:32:48 PM
Hahaha :) 
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: LaurieS on February 05, 2011, 07:33:54 PM
Funny
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: Faithlooksup on February 06, 2011, 06:22:32 AM
Good Heavens....he is either up to something OR already did something...I'd ask him straight out "What's going on Honey???"   Of course sitting down when you ask him....BUT, I dont like the idea that he changed the password with your checking account, that would make me nervice.....I'm with Luise~~have him followed!!!   Let us know....
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: luise.volta on February 06, 2011, 08:35:48 AM
I wouldn't ask him right away, though. Let the good times roll as long as it lasts!  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: pam1 on February 06, 2011, 09:26:15 AM
lol I did ask him when he started emptying the dishwasher during the week.  He looked at me like I had 2 heads and said what do you mean...as if he's been so helpful all along. 

Good idea, Luise.  Lets see how long this can last.  He feed the dogs this morning.  Woot woot.
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: Pooh on February 06, 2011, 10:30:12 AM
So Laurie is right!  I normally don't post on the weekends...cause I AM BUSY!!!!!  My DH does stuff all the time, and I show him MUCH appreciation.  I am telling you ladies, guys are wired totally different.  You show them MUCH appreciation for when they do something, they will do more!  Lol.

All the above is true, but I have an exceptional DH to boot.  He truly has always done these things since the beginning.  He not only cleans house more than I do, but likes it!  If it wasn't for how open he is to all my APPRECIATION, I would say I married a gay guy.
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: luise.volta on February 06, 2011, 10:38:53 AM
Appreciation which he appreciates! :-) The whole thing sounds like a self-generating philosophy! (And fun to boot!)

One of my husbands called vacuums "wife-killers." That was great! Oh, yeah, that was the one that wandered off.  The vacuuming was great while it lasted...I need to tell him that the next time I see him.  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: Pooh on February 06, 2011, 11:08:40 AM
I really do think most women don't understand how much APPRECIATION is needed by men.  And most men don't understand how we are wired different and need the mental stimulation.  But, I have learned that by telling DH that I need the mental side, and then showing him APPRECIATION for every time he does, his brain makes the connection.  It is a win-win.  He spoils me rotten, and he is a very happy man, and the cycle continues.  I get what I need, he gets what he needs.  (And lets face it, I win on his side too.)

Also, when he shows me all the time how much he values me and tries, it makes me WANT to show him APPRECIATION, so he wins even bigger and so do I.

Again, I am lucky to have a DH that understands and wants to know what I need.  My first DH thought mental stimulation was letting me look at the TV guide first.
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: luise.volta on February 06, 2011, 11:10:50 AM
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Title: Re: DH...
Post by: Pen on February 06, 2011, 11:21:19 AM
I always laugh at those commercials for a certain male-oriented product that talk about how any mundane activity could turn into a scintillating moment, complete with clips of a couple doing laundry or painting the den or whatever. I picture DH & me getting all googly-eyed while he's changing the oil. Could get messy....

But I'm beginning to think Pooh's life is a lot like that. Tell us, Pooh, how do you keep from kicking over the paint cans???
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: luise.volta on February 06, 2011, 11:25:27 AM
Pen, you are such a hoot!
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: Pooh on February 06, 2011, 11:46:23 AM
Hee!  It truly is....you just have to be willing to clean up the mess!  I burnt lasagne one time cause we got....ummm....preoccupied...I was going "Umm...umm...lasagne is going to burn!"  He said, "So, I'll buy you a new pan and take you out to dinner." 

Ummm....OK!  He's a frisky devil I tell ya'.
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: luise.volta on February 06, 2011, 11:50:18 AM
My concept of "risky devils" is that it takes one to spot one.  ;)
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: Pooh on February 06, 2011, 11:57:19 AM
I have no idea what you are talking about  :o
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: luise.volta on February 06, 2011, 12:07:01 PM
I wouldn't admit to it, eithe even if it were true. In fact, I don't.
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: pam1 on February 06, 2011, 03:49:34 PM
Awwww Pooh.  Your man sounds awesome.

Title: Re: DH...
Post by: LaurieS on February 06, 2011, 04:36:50 PM
Quote from: pam1 on February 06, 2011, 03:49:34 PM
Awwww Pooh.  Your man sounds awesome.

I'll second that.. he does sound great.. hey pooh you never said how you get along with his parents? 
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: Pooh on February 07, 2011, 07:55:30 AM
He unfortunately lost his Dad to Alzheimers in 2003, before I came into the picture.  But his Mother and I get along great.  She is about 4'11" and a spitfire.  She was a Dean of a very well known local religious university and raised two wonderful Sons, and 2 daughters.  She has an Einstein intelligence paired with a spunky sense of humor.  Plus years of dealing with every excuse and prank in the world by college students, makes it very hard to pull anything over on her.

I think the biggest compliment came after I had been to about 3 family things while we were dating.  She had kind of grilled me a couple of times, as she is very protective over her kids, but in particular my DH.  I always answered her honestly and she looked at me and said, "You know.  I don't know you very well yet, but I can tell two things.  You look me in the eye when you are talking to me and that speaks volumes of your character, and I have never seen my Son so happy as he has been the last few months.  So that is good enough for me."

Now, she is one tough lady, but full of humor, love and respect.  I couldn't ask for a better MIL.
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: luise.volta on February 07, 2011, 07:59:03 AM
What a great story! I love it!  :D
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: Pooh on February 07, 2011, 08:13:54 AM
Luise, you would love her.  She has a long driveway, so one day I stopped at the bottom and picked up her newspaper.  When I walked in and handed it to her she said..."Uhhhhhh....Ohhhhhhh...you are going to be in trouble.  The grandkids bring the paper in, and I give them a dollar!"   DH about died because he knew that his Mother was trying to tell me nicely to leave it next time.

The next time I was over, I did it again but walked straight in, held it out and said, "Where's my dollar???"

She looked shocked then burst out laughing.
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: luise.volta on February 07, 2011, 08:18:38 AM
Oh, I LOVE that!  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: DH...
Post by: Pooh on February 07, 2011, 08:35:58 AM
She's a hoot, and no, I don't bring it in anymore.  I just wanted her to know that I heard her.  But DH says I am the only one that has ever got away with things like that.  She will not let anyone help her in the kitchen, but she will let me when I ask.  But I noticed her daughters just go in and start doing things without asking.  I always walk in and say, what can I do to help you?

She's tough, but not unreasonable.  She just wants respect first, then gives it.  Oh my...what a concept.