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Quote from: jdtm on July 26, 2012, 05:48:56 AMQuoteShe feels family should be there for one another no matter what the problem.
Didi - you are "there" for your DD - you love her, want the best for her and probably pray for her every day. Your sister can choose how she is "there" for her niece; you can choose how you are "there" for your daughter. And we all know that "tough love" is one of the most difficult paths to take. I have found that always taking care of others and ignoring myself does not work. I used to think that my job on earth was to make everyone's life easier (and I could at the expense of mine). This does not work - as Luise said - "you are loved and you matter". I count and so do you. We're here for you ....
Quote from: Scoop on June 26, 2012, 10:09:32 AM
It's not equal, but it's fair.
You won't be able to make everyone happy, so make your decisions (with DH of course) and go from there. You don't have to JADE (justify, argue, defend, explain) your choices to anyone.
Are your IL's likely to complain?