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Thank you everyone for your warm welcome and your wise input.
They are finally gone and we just had our first weekend together, alone, as husband and wife.
I wont tell you it was Fireworks and hanging from chandeliers lol because it wasn't.

It was sweet and down to earth and comfortable and homey and loving and quiet and enjoyed by both of us in the privacy of our home... lots of smiles, hugs and just relaxed living.

I don't have to tell you all what a blessing it is to be comfortable and content in your own space.
We are finally there.

Thanks everyone!

Thank you everyone for your wise words and counsel.
I will proceed with Love and Wisdom and Patience. lol! my lessons are starting early 

Thank you again!

Hello,
I am the Daughter in Law, posting about a situation that I find unfair but am not sure if it's because I'm over reacting or because it truly is unfair.

DH and I are both from different countries but are citizens of the US and have been here long enough to pretty Americanized. We got married a month ago. 

I am only child and my parents live here in the US ( same city as me and DH). DH's family lives overseas. They came in before the wedding and have now been here over a month ( living with us). And I'm so over it. Did I mention, its been Over a month and we just got married?
I'm glad DH got to be with his family ( since they live so far away) and it makes more sense financially to stay a while when you spend so much on plane tickets but still. DH was so overjoyed to see his family, he's all for it.

Background: MIL is overall pleasant. She likes to organize my kitchen, likes to tell me how to organize our home, do and organize our laundry and how to clean the garage. I had the option of letting it upset me but I chose the high road and smiled and nodded and thanked her for the suggestions and for the help. MY SIL is 22 and is highly self absorbed. My MIL lets her daughter have her way and caters to her all the time. The SIL basically decided she was going to stay in our home another month ( while MIL flew back home) and the MIL decided that would be just fine and that she would pay for another plane ticket to fly her daughter back home a month later. We were out eating at a restaurant when I found this out from my SIL and was pretty shocked to last the least. I strongly discouraged it.  DH supported me but I felt he should have been the one to address it and say no. I can tell he feels guilty about leaving his mom ( who's a widow) and his sister back home and move to the states and doesn't want to say no to them.
I was livid on the inside for my SIL to even mention such a thing and for my MIL to even condone  or pretend to be a decision maker in that. Its our home. We should be the ones doing all the inviting and asking people to stay with us longer, if we so choose.

As a newly wed, I would like to spend some time with my husband before turning our house into a hotel. We haven't had the house to ourselves since they landed which has been 6 weeks ago, before we were even married.
Also, as an only child who has had her own place for several years before moving in with DH and getting married in our 30's, I just cant seem to find justification to accommodate people in my personal space for a month at a time.  I have expressed to him how I feel and he tells me to be patient and that this is probably something we should get used to ( month long visits from overseas family). He said If we were to ever move overseas, it would be my parents coming to visit us for month long visit and that would be completely appropriate. Putting them in a hotel seems harsh to him since we have a guestroom.
I cant resonate with that and going forward, what's the appropriate time frame for them to spend in our house as overseas guests? I don't want to be a mean DIL  but I don't want to give up my husband, my home, my life for a month at a time when they visit again. Thoughts?