Is she doing this on purpose? Since I know how manipulative this woman is, I am immediately inclined to say Yes!
They have gotten together as an extended family EVERY Easter Sunday on Easter Sunday in the history of the family. Well, now we get an email that they aren't getting together on Easter this year. They are doing a combined Easter/Mother's Day get together either the 23rd the 30th or May 1st.
I know that this shouldn't annoy me, but it does. We already have them booked on the calendar for Easter Sunday. We have other plans for the 23rd and 30th (which incidentally MIL knows about because it was posted on facebook which she has access to and checks. She is just POed that we are having a game night with FRIENDS and she wasn;t invited. She doesn't play games and these are "young" people). So if they decide to change it to one of those dates. We WON'T be there. I feel like she is just trying to control our plans yet again.
Oh, and the email. "This way our kids can spend the actual holiday with whomever they want." I feel like this is such a SETUP since the "hidden agenda" comment. She was already told that Easter was his side and MD was my side. So what now she can play the victim "they don't want to spend time with me" card when we don't show up on the actual holiday?
I also feel like this is a setup to dis me to the whole extended family. "See now that ADIL is part of the "family" we have to make special arrangements for her and she doesn't even bother to show up. She is such a B! I can't believe MY PERFECT SON married such an evil witch." We were only the third ones to get married in the family. There are 12 unmarried cousins and only 4 married.
Am I completely off base with my suspicions? Should I suck it up and see this woman on Easter Sunday AND May 1st? Or should we just go on Easter Sunday (or have them up here, I am more than willing to cook) and say "So sorry, extended family. We've utilized are budget of MIL time for the month." I'm totally joking about that allotted time thing lol, but the thought of spending THAT much time with her back to back is stressing me out. Where's the liquor?!
That was supposed to read Changing the Easter Plans. It posted before I finished typing. Oops!
I personally think you are right in your suspicions. If they've celebrated Easter Sunday every Sunday for that long and know that every family members books that day for them and they haven't run into any problems, then all the sudden change it up (when they know you have other plans) I think she's trying to set you up, and show it off to the rest of the family. I'd just see her on Easter Sunday like you have in years past and spend MD with your Mom. Stick to your schedule and if they throw a fit, call them on it and say "since this is the way you've done it for years & years, how foolish of me to assume that it would be the same this year too. I think how it was before was just fine and didn't need to be changed. Sorry but we've already made other plans."
Honestly, I don't think her changing her plans is a set up for you to purposely make you look bad. People change plans all the time, and it's okay to do that, even if they had done things one way every other year. It's also okay that she planned it for a time when you already have plans, even if she did read your plans on Facebook. Facebook plans are hard for me to keep track of.
I think you should stick to YOUR plans as they are if you're not willing to alter the plans you've already made. She may be upset about it, but that's not your problem.
Is it possible some of the other family members ran into problems with the Easter day, so she wanted to rearrange it to a better day? In my experience, it's a bad idea to do this, b/c then, one day that works for someone else won't work for another, and it just gets complicated, but it doesn't mean there was bad intent behind it. It would be much easier and less stressful to accept that what works for one may not work for everyone else.
Personally, I would love it if my MIL was a little more flexible about the holidays. If she says, "This way, the kids could spend it with whomever they want," I'd probably feel a lot less pressure. It's like the holiday celebration doesn't count as a celebration as much if it's not on the actual date. I also think she'd be more successful at getting both of her children together (as opposed to demanding it of the other when one of us decides we're spending it with her), that way. But, she can't look at the bigger picture; she's too wrapped up in dates.
I think flexibility is key here; on your part, just be flexible to accept that people change plans all the time and that's okay...it doesn't mean it's about us. On her part, she needs to be flexible enough to understand that although she changed her plans, that doesn't necessarily mean you are willing to change yours. She may not be okay with that, but she would be in the wrong. Just stand your ground.
I agree with the others and I wouldn't change your plans. Just be honest with her and tell her nicely you aren't changing your plans with the friends. Whether she did it on purpose to try and control things which may be true, or maybe she is just wierd. ahaha. Just don't worry about what she is up to...just do what YOU want. Just tell her nicely. Don't wait until the last minute either I would tell her as soon as possible then it will be off your mind and you can relax and also she will know where you stand. Hang in there.
I forgot to add....you could still invite her for Easter to be nice. Good luck.
Quote from: holliberri on April 09, 2011, 12:56:18 PM
If she says, "This way, the kids could spend it with whomever they want," I'd probably feel a lot less pressure. It's like the holiday celebration doesn't count as a celebration as much if it's not on the actual date.
I think that it was such a loaded statement from her. But I am probably over analyzing it.
We invited them for Easter. Sounds like they will be coming.... So, now I get to cook. :-\ but at least I like to cook and am a good cook ;D
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Just playing devil's advocate here, is it possible that because of the way that Mom's day and Easter falls this year that she is just trying to combine the two holidays just to make things easier? Maybe the easiest way to handle it, is to simply ask why she wishes to change the get together. If she has a valid reason such as conflict with other family members, then you might feel better about the situation.
I think sometimes we all read things into statements from people that we find difficult to deal with and many times it is our own paranoia that gets in the way.
I agree with Sheen and Holliberri, I have been guilty myself of reading too much into changes that were being made, and by doing that I made the situation a lot worse than it actually was. Hope I can change myself in that respect.
Holliberri, I do like your 'voice' here on this site. You have a special way of looking at things from more than one perspective. It is evident in all your posts. You are right, things do have a tendency to change and we should not read too much into changes even if they don't suit us.
It seems to me that the Easter situation in has been resolved by a lot of goodwill from the side of the DIL - good on you! A lot of family occasions are so fraught, wouldn't it be much better if we just got together in an impromtu fashion at any time and just celebrate ourselves being together with a bottle of wine, a small meal and lots of fun. :)
Good post, Chelmsford36. I agree with all of it!
OMG, I would be so happy if my MIL did something like that, any type of flexibility over the holidays is great in my book. The only thing that would bother me is the lack of asking -- to me, holidays are for everyone, not just a couple people. So, if she wanted to change it I think it would be nice to run it by everyone to get their thoughts.
On the other hand, since you guys know now, maybe you can invite her to your place for Easter. Change things up while you can. Host her instead. Nows your guys chance to incorporate some of your holiday ideas.
Quote from: AnonymousDIL on April 09, 2011, 09:21:23 PM
Quote from: holliberri on April 09, 2011, 12:56:18 PM
If she says, "This way, the kids could spend it with whomever they want," I'd probably feel a lot less pressure. It's like the holiday celebration doesn't count as a celebration as much if it's not on the actual date.
I think that it was such a loaded statement from her. But I am probably over analyzing it.
We invited them for Easter. Sounds like they will be coming.... So, now I get to cook. :-\ but at least I like to cook and am a good cook ;D
If I had my way, I'd host all holiday celebrations...something about cooking takes the edge off and calms my nerves. It might do the same for you. Plus, it's one of those duties that seem to be expected of DILs. It's sort of a zero sum thing for me. It's positive for MIL, b/c she's with her DS; and it's positive for me b/c not only do I get to cook what I want and see people enjoy the food I eat and then I get the added bonus of looking like a good wife.
But, I rarely get my way. :D
They are coming, I don't know about SIL yet.... Secretly hoping she will go to her BF's family for the day lol. ... Now MIL says we need to "discuss the menu." *sigh* What's to discuss? My house. I'm cooking. You are going to eat what I make and like it! lol... DH told her that we are taking care of the cooking, but she can bring rolls and her jello cake.
Oh and dinner with my brother last night.... DISASTER!!!! Our cousin came over (she and her husband were invited first), she asked how things were going with the IL's so we were talking a little bit about current annoyances from MIL/SIL and brother jumps down my throat about how evil horrible etc I am. Well EXCUSE ME, Mr. Perfect! I'm not the one who cut my IL's off for a year and a half that was him! Ugh! His holier than thou attitude has not changed in the least. I don't really know why it is that I actually wanted to spend time with him in the first pace. And of course he got his "religious" jab in. He thinks that DH and I are heathens who aren't going to church. Well, we DO go to church, just not the church that HE goes to because we couldn't take him! Ugh! Anywho, he just might be a once a quarter get together kinda fella! lol
Quote from: AnonymousDIL on April 10, 2011, 01:34:45 PM
They are coming, I don't know about SIL yet.... Secretly hoping she will go to her BF's family for the day lol. ... Now MIL says we need to "discuss the menu." *sigh* What's to discuss? My house. I'm cooking. You are going to eat what I make and like it! lol... DH told her that we are taking care of the cooking, but she can bring rolls and her jello cake.
Oh and dinner with my brother last night.... DISASTER!!!! Our cousin came over (she and her husband were invited first), she asked how things were going with the IL's so we were talking a little bit about current annoyances from MIL/SIL and brother jumps down my throat about how evil horrible etc I am. Well EXCUSE ME, Mr. Perfect! I'm not the one who cut my IL's off for a year and a half that was him! Ugh! His holier than thou attitude has not changed in the least. I don't really know why it is that I actually wanted to spend time with him in the first pace. And of course he got his "religious" jab in. He thinks that DH and I are heathens who aren't going to church. Well, we DO go to church, just not the church that HE goes to because we couldn't take him! Ugh! Anywho, he just might be a once a quarter get together kinda fella! lol
Why do you continue to see your brother when you know how he is? Why not minimize your contact with him and save yourself the angst? You can't make him be anything other than what he is...and from what you've written...he sounds like a pill.
Sorry the dinner didn't work out, ADil. Maybe you need some space yourself if he is going to pressure you about religion/church/etc. That wouldn't be comfortabe for me either.
LOL discuss the menu. Don't do it, although it already sounds like you aren't lol
We are not allowed to host any holiday. I told DH the other day since they won't let us, I think I will just pick one and send out invitations to it. They can come if they want or not.
It's funny. The more I think about it, I guess people do eat different things at Easter... We always ate ham (DH told me his family always ate ham too), but I guess some people do lamb.
Well, I am making ham, yummy potato casserole, green bean casserole, and corn. MIL is bringing rolls and jello cake. And I will make sure DH remembers to make the iced tea so there isn't a repeat of last time. *eyeroll* lol
Dear Lord, please do not let her bring that other jello thing she makes with the carrots that makes me want to gag because there won't be enough other people to distract her and she will notice that I don't eat it.
Amen! lol
Easter at my Landlady's in Italy consisted of veal (which I don't eat) and rabbit (which I didn't know I was eating at the time). (Sigh....)
Your menu sounds yummy to me.
The only lamb I would eat would have to be chocolate and hollow on the inside
It's true, my IL's do a turkey at Easter. I'm so glad they don't do lamb. I knew a lady who would actually get a real-live baby lamb in the spring and feed it and care for it and let her kids play with it and then butcher it and eat it for Easter. Ugh-ugh-ugh!
I would really like to eat something called "yummy potato casserole" - I really hope that's the actual name, if not, it should be.
Scoop, you just made me gag. That is foul, omg.
Quote from: holliberri on April 11, 2011, 11:03:31 AM
Easter at my Landlady's in Italy consisted of veal (which I don't eat) and rabbit (which I didn't know I was eating at the time). (Sigh....)
Your menu sounds yummy to me.
I have a pet rabbit. He doesn't like me anymore. Since I got married he doesn't get enough attention and lets me know it. Plus he can't be left to run and play because of our Rottie whom I am sure would LOVE to have rabbit for Easter lol
Quote from: Scoop on April 11, 2011, 11:54:41 AM
I would really like to eat something called "yummy potato casserole" - I really hope that's the actual name, if not, it should be.
That's what the recipe was titled when it was given to me. :-)
Bag a frozen hashbrowns put into a casserole. Mix up a can of cream of chicken soup with a half cup of sour cream and 8 oz. of cheddar cheese. Pour this over the hash browns and bake at 350 for 30-40 minutes.
I always put extra cheddar on the top. And this time I am going to dice onion and green pepper to put in it. It is delicious. :-)
Quote from: AnonymousDIL on April 11, 2011, 12:00:40 PM
Quote from: Scoop on April 11, 2011, 11:54:41 AM
I would really like to eat something called "yummy potato casserole" - I really hope that's the actual name, if not, it should be.
That's what the recipe was titled when it was given to me. :-)
Bag a frozen hashbrowns put into a casserole. Mix up a can of cream of chicken soup with a half cup of sour cream and 8 oz. of cheddar cheese. Pour this over the hash browns and bake at 350 for 30-40 minutes.
I always put extra cheddar on the top. And this time I am going to dice onion and green pepper to put in it. It is delicious. :-)
This is our comfort food staple around here. I've been being bad and crushing potato chips and putting it on top too. Because, sour cream and hashbrowns aren't bad enough. : )
LOL, Holli I just logged in to say the same thing. We crush up salt and pepper chips and bake on top. Sooooooo good.
really that is good?
As someone who usually only makes a recipe from scratch; my food snobbery has been placed aside to make this dish. It's great.
Plus, my MIL loves it when I make it. Zero sum...I get to cook...and she is happy to eat. ;)
ok... I'll trust you guys on this one and I'll try it.
Quote from: pam1 on April 11, 2011, 11:56:31 AM
Scoop, you just made me gag. That is foul, omg.
No, it's lamb
LOL, I'm glad someone found that funny. You guys will have to excuse me, I'm on some pretty heavy prescription drugs this week
AnonymousDIL, you made me laugh talking about your MIL and her Jello Cake and Jello w/carrots. Reminded me of that Chevy Chase Christmas movie where Aunt Edna brings her special Jello desert which she adds cat food inside because she is senile! Lol !
Your menu sounds great. I would have to add a White cake with coconut icing decorated with an Easter bunny though! Gotta have a cake!!! (especially since your MIL is bringing a Jello suprise) Yuk!
Hope you have a wonderful Easter dinner! Good luck.
You can make a bunny cake by making 2 round cakes. You use one for the head and the other one, you cut into 3 pieces with curved lines, making 2 ears and a bow tie. After you ice it, you decorate it using shoe-string licorice and various other candies.
I think this may be the "thing" I bring to the IL's. I'll make the cakes this weekend and freeze them. Bring icing and candies and let the kids have at it.
Et voila!
(http://farm1.static.flickr.com/209/493060284_94b83c0aae.jpg) (http://www.flickr.com/photos/zoezoo/493060284/)
Bunny cake (http://www.flickr.com/photos/zoezoo/493060284/) by sheri_bheri (http://www.flickr.com/people/zoezoo/), on Flickr
Hey Scoop that is very creative... bet the ones you let the kids go at it with won't really resemble a bunny in the end :) but it's all in fun.
I guess I'm the only one here who doesn't get with family over Easter... my dd and her bf are going to his parents to show off the new bling ring and I'm not inviting my in-laws over.. it's gonna be a me and hubby day
Maybe I'll try a bunny cake.. did you freeze the cake before you cut the ears?
Haha...nope. You're not the only one. I might be deviating from my diet to invest some creative energy into making a cake like that, though. Very cool!
Quote from: holliberri on April 12, 2011, 01:11:25 PM
Haha...nope. You're not the only one. I might be deviating from my diet to invest some creative energy into making a cake like that, though. Very cool!
Yanno lol... you could just put some ears and whiskers on the baby and she'd be your Easter bunny for the day
LOL.
Yes, but MIL might not like that the darling little outfit she picked out for Easter is paired with rabbit ears and nontoxic eyeliner.
Besides, I'm trying to cheat here. :)
Oh you could have cheated here this last week... I made a carrot cake for dh's b-day with fresh cream cheese icing.. now that was good stuff
Was it buttermilk carrot cake? That is deadly.
No I've never seen a carrot cake call for buttermilk.. but it does have like 4 eggs and 1 1/4 cups of oil, tons of pecans... pecans are healthy right?
I might have to scrounge up my buttermilk recipe for you. Yummy...
Pecans? Um...well...I like to think so. But, Beachbody says I can't even have almonds yet. I am stuck on soy nuts at the moment. When I move up to Energy Booster, I can have almonds...I didn't see pecans on that list. Oh, and shelled pistachios. I can have those.
I like to think they're healthier when candied. :)
How cute!
Quote from: Laurie on April 12, 2011, 01:09:33 PM
I guess I'm the only one here who doesn't get with family over Easter... my dd and her bf are going to his parents to show off the new bling ring and I'm not inviting my in-laws over.. it's gonna be a me and hubby day
We never got together with relatives over Easter growing up (except maybe back before my g-pa died. I was 3 when that happened, but I seem to remember seeing some family videos of Easter, but we all went to the same church too).... We would take my G-ma away on Good friday because there is a farmer's market near here that is only open then.... But Easter Sunday was only "us".. We would take trips, sometimes to the zoo or Smithsonian. That kind of stuff.
Are carrots really in carrot cake? i don't think I've ever eaten that stuff.
Yep, they are shaved up tiny so they are more of a pulp than say matchstick carrots.
Lemon zest is in there too. ;) Where would I be without my zester?
Pam.. honest you've never had a piece of carrot cake? Holli and I will both make one for you.. I do not put buttermilk,lemon or pineapple in mine.. do you use pineapple Holli? I know it sounds gross but I've seen people who hate carrots woof this cake down... It's especially good the next day when it's been chilled in the fridge
Pineapple? Um...no. To be honest, for some reason I think we use walnuts up north, but I could be confusing nuts.
No, I don't think so. It has just never looked appealing to me. Maybe it's the icing carrots that always seem to be on the top of it and I've always wondered if there was carrots in there but didn't want to actually ask lol. I just can't imagine cake and carrots going together well.
lol... you'll like mine.. no fake carrots on top
Can you see the carrots
Wow that's the last piece... I'm going to save it for dh.... i'm going to save it for dh
Do you like zucchini bread or pumpkin bread? It is similar, just sweeter, more moist and cake-ier.
Fake carrots scream diner staple to me...no thanks. Lol.
Scoop, that bunny cake is ADORABLE! Love it! :D It's just me, DH, and DS for Easter but maybe I will make the bunny cake for them. DS would probably love to put the jelly beans on it and help. Thanks for idea!
Y'all are making me so hungry and licking my lips. YUMMY!
Quote from: holliberri on April 12, 2011, 02:36:50 PM
Do you like zucchini bread or pumpkin bread? It is similar, just sweeter, more moist and cake-ier.
Fake carrots scream diner staple to me...no thanks. Lol.
Yes, I like both.
Laurie, that picture looks so totally different from all carrot cake I've seen. It actually looks delicious.
It's my hubby's favorite, but I only make it about once or twice a year... probably wouldn't be so deadly if he just let me put a little powered sugar on the top.
Next I'm going to make a German Chocolate.. now that is one of my favorites
carrot cake without cream cheese? I won't hear if it.
Yeah that was an inappropriate request on my part... I stand in shame ... I actually made extra frosting and place a dollop (isn't that a great word) on the slice as I'm serving it... once the cake is gone (tonight) any left over frosting is wonderful smeared on graham crackers
German chocolate..yum.
You all are making me so hungry with this cake thread. The bunny cake is adorable and I am waiting to hear if Scoop freezes the cake before cutting the ears. Carrot cake is great and one of the few that stay moist for days. If you are looking for another veggie cake, try making a Chocolate Zucchini Cake. It is one of those cakes that can put you in a chocolate coma lol.
You can freeze the cake before cutting the ears, but you don't have to. That cake was made by my Mom and she never got the cakes done early enough to freeze them first. I just mentioned freezing them because we're traveling to see the IL's.
I thought they would hold up to the manhandling and the cutting if they were frozen.
Chocolate zucchini... I just looked up the recipe for this cake.. it does sound good but I'd have to call it a Z-chocolate cake if anyone in my family would venture to try it.
Well, no one died! LOL But his sister can give my brother a run for his money in the need to be right department. And you could cut the tension with a knife! And, yes, MIL did manage to annoy me. Oh well.... lol
ADil, I am glad it went well, despite the annoyances.
Annoyance 1 was when she and SIL went into MY kitchen and started bad-mouthing me. Seriously?! It's MY house! (My brother did the same thing last time he was over! Come On people! lol)
Annoyance 2 was when the puppy had an accident on the floor. DH yelled at him, put him outside, and cleaned it up. MIL goes "You don't want kids. You can't lock them outside." I don't know what not wanting you dog to pee on the floor has to do with wanting or not wanting kids. And, incidentally "locking the kids outside" is precisely how MIL disciplined DH and BIL1. She would sit them outside and tell them she called the cops to come pick them up.
And Annoyance #3 which I KNOW I shouldn't be annoyed over because she was being "sweet and helpful" even though I didn't ask for help because she doesn't do things the way that I do them was after I started clearing the table she HAD to help clear the table.... I use my kitchen as my "safe space" when they come over. I take FOREVER clearing things and putting them away so I can have a few moments of peace lol... But yeah, I guess it was sweet. But I really really didn't want the help. DH has agreed they won't be ivited over for a while now. So my house will be IL free for a bit, we will visit them at their house.
Hallelujah the weekend is over!!!!
My mom used to put me out for the trash every Wednesday. The trash men must have thought we were nuts.
Quote from: AnonymousDIL on April 11, 2011, 10:50:12 AM
It's funny. The more I think about it, I guess people do eat different things at Easter... We always ate ham (DH told me his family always ate ham too), but I guess some people do lamb.
Well, I am making ham, yummy potato casserole, green bean casserole, and corn. MIL is bringing rolls and jello cake. And I will make sure DH remembers to make the iced tea so there isn't a repeat of last time. *eyeroll* lol
Dear Lord, please do not let her bring that other jello thing she makes with the carrots that makes me want to gag because there won't be enough other people to distract her and she will notice that I don't eat it.
Amen! lol
DH's Grandma makes the same thing. Is it orange jello with carrots. Its so gross DH and his whole family love it. When she comes and brings a dish I ask her to bring it for DH but yeah really really not diggin it at all. I don't eat it she knows I won't and doesn't care.
ADIL, what do you say to her? I've taken to saying ridiculous things, as in your annoyance #2 after she said you can't lock kids outside, I would have said "Who says?"
I dunno, I just start calling people out with that stuff lol. "You're seriously bad-mouthing me in my kitchen?" But you've got to be able to do it calmly and chuckle as if you're watching a zoo exhibit.
Quote from: pam1 on April 26, 2011, 06:04:50 AM
ADIL, what do you say to her? I've taken to saying ridiculous things, as in your annoyance #2 after she said you can't lock kids outside, I would have said "Who says?"
I dunno, I just start calling people out with that stuff lol. "You're seriously bad-mouthing me in my kitchen?" But you've got to be able to do it calmly and chuckle as if you're watching a zoo exhibit.
That's my downfall. I don't say anything at the time. It's like I go into "my happy place" when they are around (the tension makes me clam up). I hear everything that is going on, but I don't typically respond to it, until after the fact. I wish I had asked her to clarify the statement that we will be bad parents. Anyone think it could be reverse psychology? Like now to prove her wrong I'll go have a baby? I dunno. It isn't worth my mental energy
And YES! It IS the orange jello/carrot stuff. I guess if you grow up on it you like it, but it isn't for me.
ADIL, maybe you can try out small? Just practice saying something in return you know she typically says and then DO IT! LOL, it won't change anything overnight but it will help you, it will help you build up self-confidence to say something back and then MIL *will* be on notice that she's going to get called out and might want to watch her words.
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That's my downfall. I don't say anything at the time. It's like I go into "my happy place" when they are around (the tension makes me clam up). I hear everything that is going on, but I don't typically respond to it, until after the fact. [/quote]
Same here.
Quote from: AnonymousDIL on April 26, 2011, 06:10:43 AM
Quote from: pam1 on April 26, 2011, 06:04:50 AM
ADIL, what do you say to her? I've taken to saying ridiculous things, as in your annoyance #2 after she said you can't lock kids outside, I would have said "Who says?"
I dunno, I just start calling people out with that stuff lol. "You're seriously bad-mouthing me in my kitchen?" But you've got to be able to do it calmly and chuckle as if you're watching a zoo exhibit.
That's my downfall. I don't say anything at the time. It's like I go into "my happy place" when they are around (the tension makes me clam up). I hear everything that is going on, but I don't typically respond to it, until after the fact. I wish I had asked her to clarify the statement that we will be bad parents. Anyone think it could be reverse psychology? Like now to prove her wrong I'll go have a baby? I dunno. It isn't worth my mental energy
And YES! It IS the orange jello/carrot stuff. I guess if you grow up on it you like it, but it isn't for me.
Oh me either. DH when we were dating was raving about it and got me to try it. Yuck I was like yeah never eating that again. I think it is something he grow up on so it taste good to him. Carrots and jello to me don't go together. Though my family does this jello pretzel thing so good but people are like you eat what lol. Its a layor of pretzels mixed with sugar and butter on the bottom, 2nd layar Cream cheese mixed with coolwhip and sugar and the top layer Strawberry jello with fozen strawberries.
Quote from: Holly on April 26, 2011, 06:17:08 AM
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That's my downfall. I don't say anything at the time. It's like I go into "my happy place" when they are around (the tension makes me clam up). I hear everything that is going on, but I don't typically respond to it, until after the fact.
Same here.
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Guess I'm going to have to pass around my book "How to Insult People Like a Lady" lol. Actually, I'm not sure of the correct title and I just did a search of the house and can't find it (think DH took it, I was having a little too much fun with it) but rest assured, when I find it I will send it to whoever wants it!
That's a good book title!
ADIL, I'm with pam. I have learned to look at people that I don't care for as entertainment. I would have walked in the kitchen and said, "I'm sorry. Did you guys want me for something? I keep hearing my name."
Good one Pooh.. then I'd get out all my ultra big knives and say oh excuse me.. dh said that he would sharpen these for me... they really work better when razor sharp.
or... say hey since you're in here mind doing up those dishes?
oh how about.. hey when you're through posing with the broom please put it back so I might use it later on
Hahahahaha, I've said some really stupid stuff. like I know MIL is paranoid about DH and I moving so immediately after one of her or daughters insults towards us I will bring up how nice it is in Arizona this time of year, the housing prices etc. Immature? Yes. The look on their faces makes it worth it.
Now I just need someone to send me the book "How to Not Say Everything You Think"
You girls are Too Much!
I did about lose it when SIL said (about Jury Duty) "You wouldn't want me in charge of your fate would you?"
I really want to ask her where I can hire a munchkin choir to sing at her funeral....... But I think it would be a little too much lol
Quote from: AnonymousDIL on April 26, 2011, 07:43:03 AM
You girls are Too Much!
I did about lose it when SIL said (about Jury Duty) "You wouldn't want me in charge of your fate would you?"
I really want to ask her where I can hire a munchkin choir to sing at her funeral....... But I think it would be a little too much lol
My nasty Ex-MIL asked me one time, "So it must be nice to just lay in bed all day and be waited on?" (Because I had the flu and missed one day of work in 3 years).
My answer? "No, I really felt bad that someone had to do everything I said. I don't know how you do it."
Quote from: AnonymousDIL on April 26, 2011, 07:43:03 AM
You girls are Too Much!
I did about lose it when SIL said (about Jury Duty) "You wouldn't want me in charge of your fate would you?"
I really want to ask her where I can hire a munchkin choir to sing at her funeral....... But I think it would be a little too much lol
You could always inform her that you are going to be just giddy when you get to help pick her nursing home.
Quote from: Pooh on April 26, 2011, 08:17:25 AM
My nasty Ex-MIL asked me one time, "So it must be nice to just lay in bed all day and be waited on?" (Because I had the flu and missed one day of work in 3 years).
My answer? "No, I really felt bad that someone had to do everything I said. I don't know how you do it."
Too Funny!!!!
Pam, is it "The Perfect Insult for Every Occasion" by A.C. Kemp? (Saw it on Amazon, and thought it was a hoot. "The Haverford Women's Correctional Facility Charm School for Repeat Offenders." *snerk*)
Elsie, that could be it. It was hysterically funny, bright pink cover.
Bless her heart, my MIL is so clueless (Alz) and any time we're visiting and I tell her I have to go home to cook, she looks at DH and says "why don't you take her out to eat?" She has never wanted to come home from the assisted living facility (which my SIL and I picked out) because she's happy she doesn't have to cook or clean house! And, yes lots of DIL's do pick out the MILs as well as FILs retirement homes.