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Messages - Evalyn

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Daughter in Laws and/or Son in Laws / Re: I just can't...
April 23, 2013, 02:18:04 AM
I understand the feeling of being deprived of the joy of your GD's first communion. The good thing is, you have a lovely photo to put in a frame.

You would probably have felt uncomfortable if you had gone. Your GD might have felt the tension between you and DIL. Or the tension from DIL's family.

Please don't waste a moment on regrets. Your decision was very carefully thought out. For you it felt right. Therefore, you won't have to worry about DIL or her family talking about you and opening old wounds.

Why not put it behind you and enjoy your DS and GC when they visit?.
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Daughter in Laws and/or Son in Laws / Re: I just can't...
April 21, 2013, 07:24:12 PM
Lillycache,
Best wishes to you and your DS and your GC. My view is that you did what felt comfortable for you. So it was the right decision. I hope you have a wonderful time when your DS visits with the GC. They are lucky to have such a kind considerate Grandmother.
Evalyn.
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Adult Sons and/or Adult Daughters / Re: Indifference from a daughter almost too hard to bear
April 20, 2013, 11:24:39 PM
Freespirit, what a great answer. I believe Lady B's daughter is going through what my old doctor called "nest leaving". She just wants to have fun, try new things and spend time with people her own age.
I make a point of arranging to meet somewhere nice away from home with my girls once a week. We then have a light hearted chat. I don't ask questions as some girls just hate that. I have no idea why.
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Adult Sons and/or Adult Daughters / Re: My sister is trying to destroy my relationship with my children
April 20, 2013, 10:50:36 PM
Hello Roxye,

Your daughter has been with you all her life and knows deep in her heart that you are a good Mother. Why not just carry on being the loving Mother the way you always have. It sounds to me as if your sister is eager to be friends with your daughter.

It cannot be easy getting used to America for you or your children. Time is a great healer. When your daughter gets older and more independent, the problems you are having now will most likely vanish.


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