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Title: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: sadat46 on March 01, 2010, 08:07:31 AM
Hi All,

Yesterday I helped out with the babies at the church.  It was so good.  They are so sweet.  The parents really appreciate the fact that someone watches their babies so they can go to the service.  However this is helping me more than it helps them.

It feels good to hold the babies and to make them laugh and feel secure.  It makes me feel like I do have a gift and it will help build my self esteem.

I am going to get my own class in a couple of weeks.  It is something that will also help me be more self disciplined to attend church service too.

I am feeling a little sad today and keep going over in my head the emails I received from my son and his g/f in the past but I will eventually be okay.

I have not bothered them at all.  Their wedding is planned for October and as of now I don't plan to go but it could change. 

I left the ball in my son's court to schedule something in person to talk but he never has so I feel really unimportant to him, but that is okay.

I really do not think my feelings are important to him and probably have never been so I am trying to move on.

I do think that attending their wedding would knock my progess back a couple of knotches.

Thanks for listening
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: luise.volta on March 01, 2010, 08:14:27 AM
What a beautiful way to express the love in your heart...Babies in Church! Good for you for moving in such a positive direction.  :)
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: 2chickiebaby on March 01, 2010, 08:15:54 AM
Wonderful, Sadat!!  You give us all hope :)
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: cremebrulee on March 01, 2010, 08:40:12 AM
Quote from: sadat46 on March 01, 2010, 08:07:31 AM
Hi All,

Yesterday I helped out with the babies at the church.  It was so good.  They are so sweet.  The parents really appreciate the fact that someone watches their babies so they can go to the service.  However this is helping me more than it helps them.

It feels good to hold the babies and to make them laugh and feel secure.  It makes me feel like I do have a gift and it will help build my self esteem.

I am going to get my own class in a couple of weeks.  It is something that will also help me be more self disciplined to attend church service too.

I am feeling a little sad today and keep going over in my head the emails I received from my son and his g/f in the past but I will eventually be okay.

I have not bothered them at all.  Their wedding is planned for October and as of now I don't plan to go but it could change. 

I left the ball in my son's court to schedule something in person to talk but he never has so I feel really unimportant to him, but that is okay.

I really do not think my feelings are important to him and probably have never been so I am trying to move on.

I do think that attending their wedding would knock my progess back a couple of knotches.

Thanks for listening

I am wishing your strength to endure, what must be, in the  future...my heart goes out to you.

It was delightful to hear your story about the classes and the children...may you continue to heal through this.  Yanno, just goes to prove, for every door which closes, others open....

May you have continued healing and strength...

Hugs
Creme
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: renny97 on March 01, 2010, 11:21:10 AM
 :) That is beautiful, Sadat. You are actively directing your energy and caring spirit where it is deeply appreciated. Sounds like, real acceptance brings us growth and opportunities.

Sometimes, for whatever reason, season, or time, we have people or things leave us. But, for all that, we still have plenty of love to give away to whomever or wherever needed. That doesn't have to stop. What a wonderful testimony.
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: 2chickiebaby on March 01, 2010, 11:26:04 AM
Renny, you are giving your love here and it means a lot to so many of us.

Sending blessings
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: renny97 on March 01, 2010, 11:45:19 AM
Thank you, sweet, Chickie!  :D I am still a WIP (work in progress).....trying to see each day as a fresh start.
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: luise.volta on March 01, 2010, 12:38:44 PM
At 83 (next week) I think I will have WIP put on my tombstone instead of RIP!   :) ;) :D ;D
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: thesecondwife on March 01, 2010, 01:48:10 PM
That's a healthy and respectful way to cope - volunteer. :) I think I may need to do that. Being on unemployment can be a drag!
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: renny97 on March 01, 2010, 02:04:35 PM
 ;) That is sooo cute, Luise!  :D

We will have to have a proper celebration here!

Thank you for that PING !  ;D
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: Pen on March 01, 2010, 02:11:57 PM
You are all so fabulous and full of love for others. What role models you are!
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: sadat46 on March 11, 2010, 10:12:12 AM
Hi All,

I had my second day with the babies this last Sunday.  It was great.  The lady that is normally head of the class was sick so I had them by myself until they sent someone to help me.  We have a large church.  It was good because I got to hold them all at least once because they cry just a little when they are first left. Then it is so funny to watch how trusting they became after I had held them and soothed them when they cried.

They get attached so fast and seem to really like me.  I think I will get my own class soon which is fairly quick don't you think?   It is funny because the pre-school director didn't even run a background check on me.

She still might which is fine.  I don't have anything bad on my record.

Anyway it is good, but I caught a stomach bug this week and am thinking I might have caught it from one of them.  I will just have to wash my hands more and take my Danactive :).

Hope you all are doing well.  I am busy at work but wanted to tell you all hello and hopefully we are all looking forward to Spring so we can plant some pretty flowers!!!

Hugs!!!! Sadat46
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: 2chickiebaby on March 11, 2010, 10:28:15 AM
Sadat, all the love you have in your heart is being given to these babies.  It's so wonderful :)  YAY!!  Victory!
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: luise.volta on March 11, 2010, 10:47:56 AM
What wonderful news! You have such a big heart and you are being so proactive! congrats! (Of course they like you! ;D ;D)

(I have a friend who gets all kinds of bugs teaching Sunday pre-school.)
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: renny97 on March 11, 2010, 12:31:23 PM
So inspirational, Sadat. First day of school takes some adjusting  ;) as well as germs. The gel
sanitizers really do add protection. March, is always a strong allergy month, too.

Those little hearts will love and appreciate your big heart. Thanks, for stopping by!

Renny
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: luise.volta on March 11, 2010, 12:33:54 PM
I call it Self-advocacy! Good for you!!  :D
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: Barbie on March 11, 2010, 01:53:04 PM
Sadat, we're here for you. Sending you hugs.
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: Pen on March 11, 2010, 02:40:15 PM
That's such wonderful news. I'm so glad you took that step! You're a great role model.
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: sadat46 on March 15, 2010, 01:44:22 PM
Thank you all.  I had my third day this past Sunday.  It is great!!!

You all are so wonderful to be here!!!
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: cocobars on March 15, 2010, 02:47:37 PM
Wow!  Sadat, you sound so much better!  I'm happy for you! ;D
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: sadat46 on September 08, 2010, 11:02:17 AM
Hi All,

I have not been here in a while to post.  I would start something and then would not send. 

I still have not seen my son/his g/f or my grandbaby.  I have had text messages from him and he went to see my
Mother about 2 weeks ago with the baby.

However, I did get a wedding invitation which is really crazy. 

I am still keeping the babies and they are great. 

I will probably go to the wedding because I am afraid I will regret it for the rest of my life if I don't.  I know I have
to be the better person because I am forgiving.  I have been hurt and really tried to analyze what I did that
was so bad, but I guess it is just the way it is.

I will have to be careful at the wedding about everything but I can do it if I have to.

The way I see it is I will go be nice and give a gift and then go on with my life the way it is.  If they want me to see
the baby then they will let me.

If I don't go to the wedding, they will think that I am unstable and childish.

Sorry I was away so long.  I hope everyone is coping and doing well.

Sadat46 :)

Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: Barbie on September 08, 2010, 02:19:13 PM
Hi Sadat, it's good to hear from you. You sound much better. I think you're doing the right thing by going to the wedding. When is the wedding? Please keep us posted.
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: cadagi101 on September 08, 2010, 04:59:57 PM
I hope all goes well for you at the wedding.  Do remember to be yourself not someone else to keep everyone else satisfied  with the way you behave.   Hold your head up high
Title: The Wedding
Post by: sadat46 on September 09, 2010, 07:50:07 AM
The wedding is in October.  I don't want to give away the exact date in case someone is lurking in here.

I am trying to wait until the last minute to get a dress because I want to lose about 10 lbs.  I want to feel confident
and look the best I can. :)

I hate these uncomfortable situations.  I am really not used to them.

Even when I was not talking to my MIL which was a mistake, I always encouraged my hubby to see and talk to her
and go to family functions. 

I will keep you all posted.

Thanks again everyone!!!
Title: Re: Started with the babies at the church
Post by: Nana on September 10, 2010, 02:23:07 AM
Sadat

I feel so happy for you attending the wedding.  Of course you have to go.  Things will be fine.  And I hope you look gorgeous with your new dress and 10 pounds less....
Feel confident...  look bright and beautiful.

Hugs!