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Problem Solving => Daughter in Laws and/or Son in Laws => Topic started by: 2chickiebaby on February 05, 2010, 05:03:56 AM

Title: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: 2chickiebaby on February 05, 2010, 05:03:56 AM
Luise,
I wish you would help us here.  Some of the DILs on another site visit here and one of them thinks they have found out who we are and are taking our stories to our DILs.

What should we do?  We don't have "nuts" and "resident psychologists" on here. 

They are hoping to get on here and tell us off....here, I'll be called a "pathetic nutcase" or whatever I'm called there....I don't care but to take our stories to the DILs just because you "think" you know who we are is unconscionable. 

Luise? 
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: 2chickiebaby on February 05, 2010, 05:11:27 AM
Don't ignore this!!!! 
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cremebrulee on February 05, 2010, 05:13:26 AM
chickie, it's like your adicted to those sites...stay away from them....you have a home here, you don't need to be going in those other sites which makes you feel worse...let them alone, they are they're own worst enemy.....so what, we're discussing them here, be they are DIL's or DIL's just like ours....Don't feed into it...let them to they're own self distruction...you know they're wrong, and they will take everything we say out of context to justify they're own  choices....Chickie, how many DIL's have already come into the site, looking for help, saying they don't agree with the one sided hate sites...so there ya go....and remember this, there are millions of people on the web...from all over the world, and you are going to read parallal stories that may seem like they're talking about one of us, but are not...however, even if they are, so what?  who cares...really....?  Stay here with us, and don't go in there until you can feel like it won't upset you...you have a home and a family here...to heck with them...they are very troubled and will some day reap what they've sewn....

and so what if they do come on and tell us off...yanno what, they're just be proving our point if they do?  Someone who comes in here all puffed up and verbally attacks, simply shows they're intent and they're hearts...so, let them make fools of themselves...not to mention....Administrator and Luise wouldn't let that happen for to long, and remember, they're just words...they are driven by hate, and sticks and stones remember?  Just words chickie...

We have DIL's here who are intellegent, understanding and compassionate young women, and I know we're all very proud of them, and love them very much....be thankful for them...and to heck with the ugly hearted ones...let em alone...

big hugs
Love ya
Creme
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: 2chickiebaby on February 05, 2010, 05:17:54 AM
It's not me they are getting specific about.  One has been tipped off by something specific said here.   I'm not leaving.

Luise? 
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cocobars on February 05, 2010, 05:19:53 AM
Well then I hope it's me.  Nobody can do any more damage than has already been done. 

Creme's right.  This is a "world wide web" forum.  Anyone can come through the door - even if they leave limping....
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cremebrulee on February 05, 2010, 05:20:58 AM
I thought of something else...if what we say annoys them that much, then, it's guilt, cuz if they were mature, intellectual and secure with who they are, they wouldn't be taking anything we say, as a personal attack against them....
yanno...

Hugs
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cremebrulee on February 05, 2010, 05:21:41 AM
Quote from: cocobars on February 05, 2010, 05:19:53 AM
Well then I hope it's me.  Nobody can do any more damage than has already been done. 

Creme's right.  This is a "world wide web" forum.  Anyone can come through the door - even if they leave limping....

LOL, I agree, Good Morning Coco

Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: 2chickiebaby on February 05, 2010, 05:23:30 AM
But they've already contacted the DIL. I don't think they've been able to get in contact with her yet, though.

  If that is okay for the rest of you then so be it. 

Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cocobars on February 05, 2010, 05:26:44 AM
Here here, Creme.  They are coming out of rage from insecurity if that's the case. We literally "roll out the red carpet" for women who come in here be they DIL or MIL.  We go out of our way to understand them and their points of view. 

I think they're dreaming if they thought they could gang up on anyone here and do such things.  We are here posting our hearts away with hurt feelings and we still understand them.  We make ourselves understand because there is always that chance that we can help them AND us in that process. 

I wouldn't worry about them.  I don't even look there anymore.  You gain nothing but more hurt by internalizing their hate.

Chickie, you are just too sweet, and I mean this.  People here love you and this just "aint" gonna happen! :-\
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cremebrulee on February 05, 2010, 05:55:48 AM
I went over to check, I'm called the resident psyciatrist...narcissist...etc....I made a typo, a few days ago, while explaining a story and wrote my husband's wife, meaning, my son's wife...and apparently they said I went all ballistic when one of them called me on it...

Yanno what...I feel very sorry for them...and Chickie was right...they did come in here under an assumed name and try to push our buttons...so what?  So What...?  I really feel sorry for them, that they have that much hate in them...as I said before, we have DIL's right here, who are decent loving wives, and human beings...those who come over here to take stories back and embellish them, first, have not much else to do with they're time, and 2nd, if you read they're stories, they are embellished.

for instance...they speak of me talking about my DIL staying at home and sitting on her butt...and they start to talk about how a Stay At Home Mom is a full time Job...I totally agree with that, it is...however, when your running up the charges, and spending more money then your husband makes, that is wrong...and they neglected to say, that my son was working 3 jobs and now has deployed in another country due to these expenditures of expensive taste. 

If your a stay at home mom, and you do all the housework, run the kids around, cook, clean, do laundry, etc...then your doing your share...but when I see my son, have to iron his own uniforms, do his own laundry, do the grocery shopping, clean, and he's working 3 jobs...that is so wrong...now, your using your husband, adding insult to injury, using him for a free ride, b/c you need to purchase, Neman Marcus/Nordstom clothing,  make up....so she buys it on sale, yeah right, it's still much more then most other stores...on sale, sheeesh?  Then we need to buy all Gymboree children's clothes....and your husband is only making so much...so yeah, a stay at home mom has a huge job, and a full time job...however...she does what she can to help her husband out, and that does not entail, making him to housework, shopping or chores after he's been working 3 other jobs...

I was a stay at home mom once to, but all the shopping and housework was done, my husband's shirts were ironed, laundry was done and folded and put away...trash was taken out...and the meal was on the table...when my husband came home from work...which I'm sure most stay at home mom's do...

however, there are those that do not...and continually run the charges up and refuse to meet they're husband's half way, and feel, it's they're husband's job to take care of them and make them happy...it is not...if they are not already happy, they will never be happy, and it's no one's job to make anyone happy but yourself...

So, ignore what they say, they come here and read and tell half truths...and if they wish to call me resident anything, it's a free world...Chickie...
and it doesn't bother me in the least...hey, actually, it's a pretty nice compliment, if you ask me.

Ignore them hun, they only want to bring harm to others....not harmony...
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cremebrulee on February 05, 2010, 05:58:40 AM
Quote from: 2chickiebaby on February 05, 2010, 05:23:30 AM
But they've already contacted the DIL. I don't think they've been able to get in contact with her yet, though.

  If that is okay for the rest of you then so be it.

Chickie, so be it...let them....like I said so many times before, I don't care...I don't....I have nothing left to loose....and yes, they are talking about me...and it just may be my DIL...I don't care..., I really don't. 
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: RedRose on February 05, 2010, 05:59:42 AM
Well, I'll tell you what, it makes me want to be very caucious of what I say here. And, if somebody here thought I was being talked about there, I would want to know about it. I would like to make my own decisions about what to do or not to do about it.
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cremebrulee on February 05, 2010, 06:05:12 AM
Quote from: RedRose on February 05, 2010, 05:59:42 AM
Well, I'll tell you what, it makes me want to be very caucious of what I say here. And, if somebody here thought I was being talked about there, I would want to know about it. I would like to make my own decisions about what to do or not to do about it.

They're talking about me Red Rose...

and I agree with you, however, they're are some ladies in here who are very sensitive and might take they're words to heart...they don't need to be hurt any more....

These young DIL's don't care how they drive and torture other women with words, and sometimes, that might really send someone into depression....and that is what I'm worried about...they can say what they want to say about me...I'd rather they did talk about me, then, they're not hurting anyone else, however, they're words might hurt someone here, terrible...and I don't want to see that happen to anyone...we've all dealt with more then our share....yanno....does that make any sense?

and something else...one of those DIL's said she was a friend of my DIL...and she cannot wait to tell her I'm here....and point her to this forum....well, that is not a friend...that is another very hateful women who wants to hurt and cause trouble....

I've often said, I don't care if my DIL reads what I write, b/c she has said and done very hateful thing to me....what I've written is the God's truth...the only difference between her and me, is, I don't go to church and I don't make a living out of hurting people b/c I'm jealous and insecure or would have ever used my son against my MIL...just to get even b/c I misunderstood her intentions...and thank God I didn't, b/c I would have never been able to live it.
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: 2chickiebaby on February 05, 2010, 06:07:20 AM
Don't want you hurt anymore, Creme!!! :'(
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cocobars on February 05, 2010, 06:12:58 AM
OK, go to the top of the Home page and click on "Profile."

Then click on "Modify Profile" (located next to the orange button called "Profile Information."
there will be a drop down screen when you hold your browser on this. 

From that list, click on Notifications
This brings a screen up with choices of notifications that will be sent directly to your email in-box.

You can be instantly notified if someone replies to your posts.

Click on "instant" (top box)
click on "replies and moderation" (bottom box)
Last step - Hit the "Save" button

What this will do is alert you if the forum moderator is called in on any post you have been replying to. Correct me if I'm wrong here, Luise. By having this setting chosen to notify us, we will ALL be notified when or if only one of us is here.  If anyone comes in here and goes after one of our own,  they can see everyone else come in for the conversation as well.  If the moderator is notified, we will all be notified as well...

I don't think we'll have that problem, but that's something we can do.  Also, who's to say (if that does happen) you can't just sit and wait for "The Moderator" to knock them off.  Of course I hope they practice their limp! ;D

That's only one thing.  We can think of others.  As far as alerting one of the DIL's on this site?  That's their own karma they are playing with, and karma is a b****! ;)

Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cocobars on February 05, 2010, 06:16:01 AM
Silly me, I couldn't find it!

Chickie could you cut and paste the e-page and send it to me in a PM, so I can find it?
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cremebrulee on February 05, 2010, 06:21:31 AM
your right coco...and as I said, I have nothing more to loose...yes, she can steer my son here, but at this point, I don't care...I really don't...I don't want to hurt they're feelings, but in the same, I've told nothing but the truth...so if this woman does think she knows my DIL, and runs off to tell her...that shows what kind of woman she is...it would be like running to a friend and telling them they're husband's having an affair...I don't believe in that...if she would ask me, I'd have to tell her the truth of what I know...however, to run and tell her what I heard...what if it were not true?  I don't know, that's just me...I don't believe others should think and feel like I do about things...





Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: RedRose on February 05, 2010, 06:22:38 AM
I agree with you Cream. I don't want you hurt anymore either, you have had enough of it.
But, I'll still be cautious. I have held back the whole story about my dil and son because of some very mean and hateful people out there.
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cremebrulee on February 05, 2010, 06:50:28 AM
Quote from: RedRose on February 05, 2010, 06:22:38 AM
I agree with you Cream. I don't want you hurt anymore either, you have had enough of it.
But, I'll still be cautious. I have held back the whole story about my dil and son because of some very mean and hateful people out there.

ya know what Rose....they talk about us...I mean think about it, do you actually think your DIL hasn't said mean horrible things about you in anger....I know mine has...I've heard...it is human nature...your feelings first get hurt, then you get angry, then you say things you don't mean....

In my story about my DIL, I have told the truths...but have told them in anger, saying I don't want anything to do with her...or it's her choice, or whatever I've said...I know she has said worse about me...believe me, I do know....I have not called her bad names...I have said, she needs counseling...she comes from a dysfunctional family and is dysfunctional, immature, and selfish...self imposed, cruel and vindictive...and that is true...but heck, if she'd come in and find my posts...perhaps she'd really snap, like she did when I tried talking to her, or when I sent her that letter of mine, and then, perhaps I'd know what I did....at least something good might come from it, right?  LOL

I'm not worried anymore....and Iwon't fear her anymore....or fear what she can or cannot do...she can't take anythig from me anymore....and she can't hurt me anymore....I Won't allow it, and she will indeed, for the first time, defend my territory...she has embarrassed me enough, I've had family members come and tell me how aloof she was to them at the wedding...and still do...and by the way, I can't tell you how many times my mother was kind enough to send her things, and she never called her and thanked her, so, my mother stopped sending things to her....she has hurt a lot of people on my side of the family, not just me...and not to mention my friends as well....so, let her come in here with both guns cocked, believe me, I'd welcome at least knowing why she's got it in for me all these years....

thanks so much Red Rose
Hugs
Creme



anyway...
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: renny97 on February 05, 2010, 06:53:31 AM
It is just more proof that some our trying to control our thoughts, too.

You speak the truth, Creme.
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cremebrulee on February 05, 2010, 07:02:13 AM
Well, what they do is come in here and read, then take partial truths about what we've said back, but leave a lot of other information out...to breed hate, so that they can convince, for instance, all the women who are stay at home mom's that I had it in for everyone of them....I don't...and there are tons of stay at home mom's within my circle of friends and family, however, they make certain the housework, laundry, shopping, cleaning, cooking is done, so that when they're husbands come home, they don't have to do anything...and they don't spend more then they're husband's make...in the name of Neman Marcus....

Yanno, I work with gals who make over 6 figures and so do they're husbands, however, they were purchasing the same clothes for they're children, that my DIL was throwing out that I was sending my GD....and, they don't run up charges like my DIL....they in fact...buy wisely...for God's sake, my DIL doesn't work, what the heck?  She needs the nails done, the hair, the label clothes, makeup, diamonds, and then the same for her daughter?  What is wrong with women like that...I've been told that women do that, b/c they only feel good about themselves when they put that new thing on....and they look good in it...but the high from it, doesn't last long...however, it is an addiction...
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: 2chickiebaby on February 05, 2010, 07:08:21 AM
The site has taken the posting down........
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cocobars on February 05, 2010, 07:08:56 AM
That's the thing...  "Partial truths."  Cutting and pasting might be too honest and wouldn't be as hate provoking.  It's an insecurity there.  Something inside tells them they are not right, and instead of cutting and pasting "word for word," they will insist on embellishing.

What are we afraid of here?  Someone who overspends to the point of never seeing their own husband?  Chasing him overseas to support their habits? 

I smell a gold-digger.  I think it's just a matter of time before that son does too...
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cocobars on February 05, 2010, 07:10:07 AM
Quote from: 2chickiebaby on February 05, 2010, 07:08:21 AM
The site has taken the posting down........
What?  You mean they understood the legal ramifications? :o
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cremebrulee on February 05, 2010, 07:12:45 AM
Quote from: cocobars on February 05, 2010, 07:10:07 AM
Quote from: 2chickiebaby on February 05, 2010, 07:08:21 AM
The site has taken the posting down........
What?  You mean they understood the legal ramifications? :o

What legal ramifications?  I don't understand coco?

Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: 2chickiebaby on February 05, 2010, 07:15:16 AM
I don't know either, Coco?? 
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cocobars on February 05, 2010, 07:21:22 AM
Quote from: cremebrulee on February 05, 2010, 07:12:45 AM
Quote from: cocobars on February 05, 2010, 07:10:07 AM

What legal ramifications?  I don't understand coco?

Creme, if they really did call in one of our DIL's here and "embellish" a story like that.  The MIL who's reputation might be at stake would have legal grounds to find out who the culprit is and go to court.  Records could be suppoened (sp?).  I'm not saying things will get to that point, ever, because I believe the DIL's who are feeding that fire are doing it with a purpose - creating drama.  I think they are enjoying the drama, and somewhere on that site is someone smart enough to know they could lose their internet priviledges by contributing...

Just my thoughts!
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: 2chickiebaby on February 05, 2010, 07:23:05 AM
The posting is down but not here.  Let's just put it that way.... ;)
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cocobars on February 05, 2010, 07:29:08 AM
I really wouldn't worry about people like that!  They have something to lose.  We've already lost as much as we can.  There are alot of women this morning who looked up that posting and witnessed it, even if it's been taken down. 

It's gone.  Somebody there is being very wise.  Nuff said...
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cocobars on February 05, 2010, 12:00:25 PM
I've gone through and fine-tuned the notification instructions. 

Luise, please let me know if I'm correct about this notification.  I hope so.  It would be nice security to have...
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: renny97 on February 05, 2010, 12:17:20 PM
I went ahead and agreed to being notified of new posts, but I see it exposes our email address? Is that visible to all? I saw someone else's email address. I may undo notification, if email is public.
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cocobars on February 05, 2010, 12:19:40 PM
Hmmmm.  Good question.  I'll go back and check too!  I had not noticed that...
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cocobars on February 05, 2010, 12:24:15 PM
That's actually under account settings and is part of your "public profile."  You can edit that information out if you don't want it out there.  It is in a different section though, so the notification should be different.

Go to "Profile"
Then to "Modify Profile".
Then "Account Settings" under that.

Make sure the box titled "Allow users to email me" is not checked.  If it is, uncheck it.

I didn't really worry about my email address being out there, so you could have seen my address.  I understand someone not wanting that information out there though.  Check after you do that and you should see a difference..

Again Luise, please have your worthy wedmaster check my instructions and let us know if I'm mistaken.  I don't want to be giving out false advice here!
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cocobars on February 05, 2010, 12:56:48 PM
Hey everyone!  Don't follow the instructions I put here just yet.  I was really stupid in assuming those functions and don't want to mislead anyone here.  I certainly don't want to lead anyone into putting personal information out for anyone...

I've sent a PM to the forum moderator asking if they will check to make sure these are correct.

I'm sorry.  Hopefully we'll find out!
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: luise.volta on February 05, 2010, 02:02:37 PM
Well, let's see...several thoughts are swimming around...

I don't know the software very well. I'm still learning. I do know that if you say something that you feel is too personal and you want it taken off, there is a way I can make the subject go away. I think I need to learn that trick about being notified if a person responds to me because I miss some.

And, as you all know, I can make anyone we don't want here...go away. I go "Pop!" (That's very different from my "Pings.")  ;D ;D

I will repeat myself regarding staying away from hate sites and bringing them up here. That gives them power. Why would anyone want to do that? Let them attack whomever they wish. If we don't read it, they have failed.

If it is torture to read those sites...vote for self-love and don't do it. Let go of curiosity and a "fatal attraction" to how awful it is. Why do anything that makes life worse and/or harder and feeds fear, rage and/or victimism?

A commitment to a deep healing within precludes self-torture to my way of thinking. What I am learning to do on this site and in my day-to-day life is to love myself and I am finding that I love others better when I come from that place. I honestly don't think reading hate sites is an act of self-love. 

As usual, that's just about me and we're all different...so I can't speak for anyone else. I do love YOU!
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: 2chickiebaby on February 05, 2010, 02:09:16 PM
I love you too, Luise....I'm so sorry I went there and won't again.  Too hard on all of us. I'm glad we are an all inclusive site where all are welcome.  It makes me proud. :)
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: luise.volta on February 05, 2010, 02:29:28 PM
Whew! Glad you're through that knot-hole!  Hugs!! And Ping...Ping...Ping! ;D
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cocobars on February 05, 2010, 02:55:38 PM
Oh!  Now I have long flowing blonde hair!  Thank you fairy godmother!    Hey where did she go??? ;) ::) :-*

Thanks for looking in on these instructions.  Please ask the worthy webmaster if they will check to see if I read the software right?  This would be great if it worked this way!!!
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: renny97 on February 05, 2010, 09:20:46 PM
I removed my post that I felt had too many details, and it was quoted in someone else's post. Can that be removed?
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: Marilyn on February 05, 2010, 09:38:03 PM
Hey everybody,i found a really good web site....wikihow........Articles.......How to recognize a manipulative or controlling relationship........How to deal with Difficult relatives......gain control of your emotions.....how to deal with emotional abuse.

If some of our DIL's are lurking,maybe these articles can open their eyes and help them.I'm sure some of their MIL's are just as controlling as our DIL's and that can help them also.

Also I have an excellent idea,i just would be to afraid to post it on here.
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cocobars on February 05, 2010, 09:58:21 PM
Quote from: renny97 on February 05, 2010, 09:20:46 PM
I removed my post that I felt had too many details, and it was quoted in someone else's post. Can that be removed?
Renny, your email address is safe.  I went out and back in again.  Your email address is only visible to you, but it is not visible to anyone else.  When I am signed on, my email address shows up on my profile (but only mine). When I sign off, and come through as a guest, it does not show at all.  I checked this with mine (since I really dont care) and also with others.  Your age will show, but you can leave that blank if you don't want to give that out...

As far as erasing the post you're talking about, was I the one who quoted you?  If so, I can just go back in and edit that out...
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: renny97 on February 06, 2010, 09:47:40 AM
Coco,
I am not sure. It was regarding the DILs packing up baby to travel to mother's when the baby was newborn. [Avoidance]
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cocobars on February 06, 2010, 09:59:22 AM
Renny, if you can find that post, make a note of the folder it's in from the main menu (most likely SIL/DIL) and then the title, and the post number.  I'll look through too.  Then we can notify whomever quoted and ask them to remove the quote.

I don't believe you have anything to worry about though.  Do you know how many MIL's out there have the exact same, or similar situations as us (this is the www. (word wide web), in the world?  To be conservative, I would just hold back on location, age, and email address.  Luise has already taken care of the email privacy, so even that shouldn't be a concern (I've checked, and although we can send emails, we don't "get" the address they are sent to).

We can't get paranoid and let that DIL site run what we do here.  Otherwise, where would we really find support for al of us!   We can be careful, but don't let them hold your story or your concerns back.  You can always be vague about timeframes also.  That should do it.  If you real name is Renny, then you can go back into your profile and change that too!  I changed my profile for a couple of weeks until it looked like it does now!

If you look at Luise's other site "momresponds.com"  her son (our worthy webmaster here also) made a statement there that our email addresses are held privately and our names and those addresses are not given out.  Even if she posts your story, you name will be changed.  You can go to "Open Me First" here and check the first two folders.  You should see that the same thing applies on this site also.  Hence, "worthy." :)

No worries, everyone is safe. Just because I'm not worried about my info, doesn't mean I do not understand that concern.  All that means is that I feel I have nothing left to lose.  I absolutely agree that others do and I UNDERSTAND!  I know most of us here do still.  I've looked around on both sites quite a bit.  I wouldn't be here if I didn't feel that way or trust them both enough to "not be worried, because even though "I" think I have nothing to lose, doesn't mean I've considered "everything."

That's just me.  I know everyone here feels differently, but I check first - join later (and I am a "client" just like you and get nothing -NADA- for saying this).  I'm on here alot, but I do not run this site!  This is Luise and 2Chickiebaby's site...
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: renny97 on February 06, 2010, 10:35:54 AM
Thanks Coco,
I appreciate you looking into it. I am not an evasive person, and these are real emotions. But, this is a different media. There are many, who would manipulate vulnerable souls (reason many of us are here). And, to receive further trauma, would be sad.

Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cocobars on February 06, 2010, 10:51:47 AM
I understand that Renny.  Really I do.  That's why I'm spending so much time looking into your concerns.  Your concerns are parallel to so many others here...  Look at what Chickie is going through.  Fear can get the "best" of all of us.  We just have to be careful, and realistic. :(

I modified my very last post on here after checking on this issue some more.  I hope it helps! 

Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cocobars on February 06, 2010, 04:49:04 PM
Got your email Renny!  Your quote is gone! Just make those changes and you're good! 

Thank you for working on this with me.  Hopefully we've helped make this a safer site! ;D :)
Title: Re: What to do if we find ourselves and our stories being discussed on another site
Post by: cocobars on February 06, 2010, 06:55:56 PM
Regarding the Privacy Policy;

I checked some more and there is not a statement to that effect for this site.

All this means is that you should be careful with your information here.  It would be wise to keep your name, geographical location, and ages (as well as email address) personal, until I can look some more into this.  I am sending Luise a PM asking if there is some protection in place for this, but if not, then you are safe just by leaving that information blank...

Again, this is a world wide site. There are alot of MIL's in the world :)