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Daughter in Laws and/or Son in Laws / Jealous Son-in-law
December 16, 2016, 06:39:15 PM
This is my first post. Just joined a couple minutes ago. I need some advice. I have a 33yr old daughter who got married 2 yrs ago. We live on the beach in SC, she moved to his hometown in NJ. They have bought a home, both are successful in their jobs. The problem is my son-in-law is jealous of the close relationship my daughter and I have. His mother left his father when he was 8 and remarried and had children. His mother lives in FL. She does not come see them and only calls occasionally. Their relationship is very broken. I see my daughter about 4x a year. She comes for a week by herself twice a yr and we have a wonderful time. Our family is small and we all live here, so she sees everyone. When I go visit them or when he comes with her, after a couple of days he will find a reason to get mad at someone....his father, his brother, whoever. Never me. But he ruins our visit. Every time. It is so obvious to us all that he just cannot take but so much of not having her undivided attention. Last week I went to visit and same thing. Got there on Sunday morn, he was mad at something by Tues nite, and we left 2 days early. What is the right thing to do? My gut is telling me to just enjoy her when she comes by herself and be happy with that. And yes, I have called him out on what he is doing which he denies. I am hoping a more experienced mom-in-law can give me some advice.