March 28, 2024, 03:36:39 AM

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"Welcome to WiseWomenUnite.com -- When adult children marry and leave home, life can sometimes get more complex instead of simpler.  Being a mother-in-law or daughter-in-law can be tough.  How do we extend love and support to our mothers-in-law, adult children, daughters-in-law, sons-in-law, and grandchildren without interfering?  What do we do when there are communication problems?  How can we ask for help when we need it without being a burden?  And how do our family members feel about these issues?  We invite you to join our free forum, read some posts... and when you're ready...share your challenges and wisdom."


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Messages - maryann

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I am certainly going to talk with my mother but not sure yet how I'm going to deal with my sister on my part. She is my mother to and I'm not going to let this continue. My mom is the kind of person that wants to keep peace but at the same time is getting bullied by her adult daughter. She has never hit my mom and I know she wouldn't do that but the mental abuse is sometimes just as bad. She doesn't do this to my father like she does mom he wouldn't stand for it. I'm going to start with my mom first.  I have thought about going to my dad alone. I just don't know how to approach all this because the times I have talked to my mom about me going to talk to my sister myself about her behavior my mom always tells me to please not say anything. I just wish my mom would stand up for herself.
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I agree with what you are saying and yes it is very difficult to bite my tongue. I love my sister.  She is just so hateful at times when she cuts my mother down into tears and then gets made because she cries. My mother is a loving mother and always has been with all her children. When my mom tries to defend herself then my sister won't talk to her and gets very cold with her. Then there's times she's is good to my mom.
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I was looking on sites on the internet and came across this site. I'm at a loss and don't know what to do to help.     

To start my mother and I have a good relationship and I have a good relationship with my sister but my sister is very hateful with my mother. My sister has always lived in my mother and fathers home, she has raised her family there. Her kids have both left now as they are grown so its now her and her husband there. She rarely has a good word to say to our mother and its like she's on pins and needles in her own home. My mom is a very good person and would do anything for my sister.  I can't figure out for the life of me why she is like this. My mom will leave at times and comes to my house to let it all out. She don't know what to do. I'm not sure what I can do but only comfort her when she needs me. I don't know how to handle this .