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Title: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on January 29, 2011, 02:24:02 PM
Anna, where are you? Missing you and sending love...
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Pen on January 29, 2011, 03:23:02 PM
I've been thinking of you, too. I hope you're OK.
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Hope on January 29, 2011, 03:34:41 PM
Anna - sending peace your way.
Hugs, Hope
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Anna on January 30, 2011, 12:04:56 PM
:)
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on January 30, 2011, 12:20:43 PM
Oh, Honey...thanks for letting us know that you are OK and coping. I know it must be terribly hard. Sending love...
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Pen on January 30, 2011, 07:34:04 PM
Anna, just know we're thinking of you during your busy, tiring days. Lots of {{hugs}} to you.
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Nana on January 31, 2011, 03:50:51 AM
Hi Anna

I had not posted for weeks due to computer problems.  I just posted today in my daughter's lap top.  I did notices you had not posted either,  I always look for ward to your posts.  I have noticed a lot of newbies and I think is great.  My third granddaugher was born on the 19th.  /She is fat and lovely.

I am so sorry that you are going through all this.  May God give you strength and peace. 
How are you gc doing?  The best for you and your family.

Love



















 
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Anna on January 31, 2011, 06:45:47 AM
?
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: pam1 on January 31, 2011, 01:19:34 PM
Why do you keep deleting posts?
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on January 31, 2011, 02:52:05 PM
Huh?
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: pam1 on January 31, 2011, 05:58:48 PM
Quote from: luise.volta on January 31, 2011, 02:52:05 PM
Huh?

It's happened a few times and I figured I'd ask Anna directly.  I put a lot of thought into my replies on a few of her threads and I was wondering why they keep disappearing.  I don't like not knowing where my posts go when they poof, very confusing lol.

I'm not the most internet savvy so perhaps I'm a little slow on the uptake.  But a poster can delete an entire thread, even others postings?  I don't frequent message boards very much so any enlightenment is much welcomed :) 
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: LaurieS on January 31, 2011, 06:05:32 PM
Pam.. you can permanently delete any topic that you have started, you can also delete any posting that you have made.  I also believe that you can lock topics so no one else can reply, and somewhere I saw where you can block individual board participants.   
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: pam1 on January 31, 2011, 06:08:19 PM
Wow, ok, I did not know all that.  Thanks.  I still feel weird about my replies being deleted without my input but it's not my call. 
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on January 31, 2011, 08:48:28 PM
I'm going to Kirk with this. It's ridiculous! Surely he can fix it so we aren't treated with disrespect. I can do those things because it's my site and I'm the Moderator but I didn't know everyone was turned loss with those options. It could mess with continuity and confuse issues. No wonder you asked about it! I'll get back to you when Kirk gets back to me.


Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Pooh on February 01, 2011, 07:42:22 AM
Ha!  Good to know I can lock Laurie out!  Where's that button...........


(Hee hee...ya know I luff ya!)
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: LaurieS on February 01, 2011, 07:43:34 AM
Quote from: Pooh on February 01, 2011, 07:42:22 AM
Ha!  Good to know I can lock Laurie out!  Where's that button...........


(Hee hee...ya know I luff ya!)

LOL.. yeah well come over to my post baby, and I'll just delete you
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on February 01, 2011, 01:30:44 PM
Girls! Girls!   ;D ;D ;D  (Kirk is fixing it.  8) )
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: LaurieS on February 01, 2011, 09:07:17 PM
Luise.. I just received a message saying that I had exceed my hourly limit for pm's .. can you ask Kirk about this next time and see if he had accidentally changed a setting that he didn't mean to
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on February 02, 2011, 06:23:19 AM
Sure...he could have made his first mistake.   :o)
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: LaurieS on February 02, 2011, 11:41:00 AM
Quote from: luise.volta on February 02, 2011, 06:23:19 AM
Sure...he could have made his first mistake.   :o)
We'll give him this one :)
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on February 02, 2011, 01:04:35 PM
 ;D ;D ;D I did email him the question.  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: LaurieS on February 13, 2011, 06:52:03 AM
Quote from: Cotton Candy on January 30, 2011, 12:04:56 PM
:)
Luise.. not sure if you realize this but this 'cotton candy' is Anna.  Anna/toxic candy refuses to see that her abuse of the system, is the reason why our ability to delete postings was removed from this site.   I along with others thought this was a great feature right up until it was abused.

Anna now hiding as Cotton Candy... If this is how you choose to treat other members of these boards I for one hope that you  find other outlets for your  'games' then to waste our time. How incredibly immature.
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Faithlooksup on February 13, 2011, 07:27:59 AM
When you sign in next to your name~~hit the "Forever" tab and then your sessions will not be timed, nor hopefully deleted...Hope that helps... :-\
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: LaurieS on February 13, 2011, 07:54:13 AM
Faith.. not sure what you are referring to.. I was talking about how Anna intentionally deleted over 1000 of her postings.. many complete topics.. that's fine, the ability was there and it's been said many times that if there is a feature here, we are more then welcome to use it.  Now when that statement was made, Luise was not aware of the delete function.  But now Anna who is obviously embarrassed by her past comments has attempted to change her identity and has continued to modify her postings.. It's a childish game and because of her 'game' everyone lost the ability to delete a posting if they really wanted/needed to... she abused a gift and then tried to change names so we don't realize who she is?  really?
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Faithlooksup on February 13, 2011, 08:59:07 AM
Quote from: pam1 on January 31, 2011, 05:58:48 PM
Quote from: luise.volta on January 31, 2011, 02:52:05 PM
Huh?

It's happened a few times and I figured I'd ask Anna directly.  I put a lot of thought into my replies on a few of her threads and I was wondering why they keep disappearing.  I don't like not knowing where my posts go when they poof, very confusing lol.

I'm not the most internet savvy so perhaps I'm a little slow on the uptake.  But a poster can delete an entire thread, even others postings?  I don't frequent message boards very much so any enlightenment is much welcomed :)
This is what I am referring to.......as the the why posts are disappearing--it you are not logged in with the "forever" button--you will loose your postings for you are being timed.......However Creme, had NO trouble deleting her post today/yesterday for no one was reading it, nor helping her---Right???
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: LaurieS on February 13, 2011, 09:12:33 AM
Quote from: Faithlooksup on February 13, 2011, 08:59:07 AM
Quote from: pam1 on January 31, 2011, 05:58:48 PM
Quote from: luise.volta on January 31, 2011, 02:52:05 PM
Huh?

It's happened a few times and I figured I'd ask Anna directly.  I put a lot of thought into my replies on a few of her threads and I was wondering why they keep disappearing.  I don't like not knowing where my posts go when they poof, very confusing lol.

I'm not the most internet savvy so perhaps I'm a little slow on the uptake.  But a poster can delete an entire thread, even others postings?  I don't frequent message boards very much so any enlightenment is much welcomed :)
This is what I am referring to.......as the the why posts are disappearing--it you are not logged in with the "forever" button--you will loose your postings for you are being timed.......However Creme, had NO trouble deleting her post today/yesterday for no one was reading it, nor helping her---Right???
No this has nothing to do with timing out.. there use to be a delete option that each of us had to delete a post.. if you had started the thread/new topic you could delete the entire topic, thus deleting every reply or statement made under that topic. 

What Creme did yesterday was to 'overly' modify her topic.. she just simply modified it and removed all the contents and changed the topic line.. Had anyone responded and copied/quoted her statement she could not delete that.. to where at one time she could have.
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on February 13, 2011, 09:46:17 AM
When I realized that members could mess with each others postings as well as their own it seemed wrong to me. How can any one of us accept the idea that one member can veto another? Yes, I can do that and sometimes need to, but not often. I just can't leave an option active that can be used in an unkind way.

Please let me know if you want something removed. Sending love...
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: cremebrulee on February 13, 2011, 10:05:17 AM
Quote from: luise.volta on February 13, 2011, 09:46:17 AM
When I realized that members could mess with each others postings as well as their own it seemed wrong to me. How can any one of us accept the idea that one member can veto another? Yes, I can do that and sometimes need to, but not often. I just can't leave an option active that can be used in an unkind way.

Please let me know if you want something removed. Sending love...

Luise, I started a thread yesterday called problem...asking for help, with a family matter, I was very angry when I found out something more that a family member did....adding insult to injury, no one had responded to it and it hurt...and I felt embarrasssed, so I went in and deleted it....I'm very sorry if I broke any rules...I thought it was ok to do that...????  I really did?


Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Faithlooksup on February 13, 2011, 10:26:29 AM
Let's ALL Play NICE and quit taking one anothers inventory.....
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on February 13, 2011, 10:38:41 AM
The way you did it didn't break any rules...but it left a hole that confused everyone and you ended up feeling like you had to explain. (Which you didn't.)

As WWU grows, (and we keep doing that)...posts may take longer to get responses. In such a case, I think I would re-post with a subject line like: "Is Anybody Out There?" or something like that. It takes moving past or at least through feeling rejected and some of us have deep trauma that shows up there....(I do...) but it usually is worth it because there are a lot of women here who really do care. I do!
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Hope on February 13, 2011, 10:42:00 AM
Creme,
Please don't take it personally that no one responded to your original "problem" thread.  Speaking for myself, I didn't see it until it was too late.  I only have limited time to visit WWU and can't read all the posts.....which may be the case for most people here.
You are loved.
Hugs, Hope
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: cremebrulee on February 13, 2011, 10:44:03 AM
Thanks Hope, just a lot of stuff going on right now...normally I wouldn't have taken it so personally....
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Hope on February 13, 2011, 10:49:08 AM
Sorry to hear you are going through a hard time, Creme.  Hope you are feeling better real soon.
Here's some {{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}} for you.  I hope you feel them.
~ Hope
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: cremebrulee on February 13, 2011, 10:52:42 AM
awwww, thanks Hope, we all are having hard times, that's why we're here...but yes, do feel the hugs, thank you... ;D
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: LaurieS on February 13, 2011, 11:09:01 AM
Quote from: Faithlooksup on February 13, 2011, 10:26:29 AM
Let's ALL Play NICE and quit taking one anothers inventory.....

It's not a matter of playing nice.. You asked and I explained how it was done.  As Luise said that is not a violation of any rule on these boards.  I never implied that Creme did anything wrong, just answering it was done. I was jacking around with a topic yesterday and then changed it to this topic and continued on.  It's like scrolling, the options are there you just have to know how to do it.

Yes Anna/Cotton Candy did rudely take it to extremes by almost eliminating her existence and then hiding from 'us' behind a different name. I see a difference.
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: RedRose on February 13, 2011, 12:26:05 PM
Just maybe Anna has a good reason to delete all of her posts. Maybe she needed to get rid of the old and start out new....for a good reason.

Anna was here a long time .. I don't think there is anything wrong with what she did
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on February 13, 2011, 12:37:22 PM
I have thought about doing that a couple of times.  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: cremebrulee on February 13, 2011, 01:30:14 PM
Quote from: RedRose on February 13, 2011, 12:26:05 PM
Just maybe Anna has a good reason to delete all of her posts. Maybe she needed to get rid of the old and start out new....for a good reason.

Anna was here a long time .. I don't think there is anything wrong with what she did

I agree with you...you never know what a person is going thru until you walk in they're shoes...and Anna has most definately been under a whole lot of stress lately....

Title: Re: Anna
Post by: cremebrulee on February 13, 2011, 01:42:12 PM
Quote from: luise.volta on February 13, 2011, 12:37:22 PM
I have thought about doing that a couple of times.  ;D ;D ;D

Luise, now there is no way to modify our posts?  Is that a mistake, or is it maybe my computer????? 

Title: Re: Anna
Post by: LaurieS on February 13, 2011, 04:30:03 PM
Quote from: RedRose on February 13, 2011, 12:26:05 PM
Just maybe Anna has a good reason to delete all of her posts. Maybe she needed to get rid of the old and start out new....for a good reason.

Anna was here a long time .. I don't think there is anything wrong with what she did
Glad you didn't see anything wrong with it.. looks like Luise did.

And yes Creme, now everyone has lost the ability to modify their own postings... I asked Luise to reconsider doing this as only one person had become abusive, but it's her board and her ruling.
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: RedRose on February 13, 2011, 05:49:59 PM
If I delete a post I start it's because I am having second thoughts about discussing my problems with everyone else.
I should have the option to delete the whole post since we are talking about me. Why delete just what I say...then the whole subject would not make sense...most of the time.

Now, we will just go to Luise if we want to delete what we have posted.

I thought Luise was agreeing with my overall opinion on why Anna or Anyone would do this.

I said, "Just maybe Anna has a good reason to delete all of her posts. Maybe she needed to get rid of the old and start out new....for a good reason."

Luise said, "I have thought about doing that a couple of times."
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: LaurieS on February 13, 2011, 05:58:23 PM
And I was saying that apparently Luise didn't totally agree with what Anna did or the option to delete/modify your own postings would be there
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: pam1 on February 13, 2011, 06:02:38 PM
You can modify your own posts -- just not an entire thread.  Luise still has the option of deleting threads. 
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: LaurieS on February 13, 2011, 06:17:33 PM
Nope the option of modifying was removed today because it was abused. 
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: pam1 on February 13, 2011, 06:20:10 PM
oh...my bad, late to the party.
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: 1Glitterati on February 13, 2011, 06:59:56 PM
Quote from: MILLGS on February 13, 2011, 06:17:33 PM
Nope the option of modifying was removed today because it was abused.

Aw, maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan.  I always correct my grammar and punctuation because I always mess something up and it just bugs me so much.

:-\  I"m going to have to go whine and sulk somewhere, now.
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: 1Glitterati on February 13, 2011, 07:00:33 PM
Quote from: 1Glitterati on February 13, 2011, 06:59:56 PM
Quote from: MILLGS on February 13, 2011, 06:17:33 PM
Nope the option of modifying was removed today because it was abused.

Aw, maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan.  I always correct my grammar and punctuation because I always mess something up and it just bugs me so much.

:-\  I"m going to have to go whine and sulk somewhere, now.

SEE!  I used a quotation mark when I should have used an apostrophe!
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: holliberri on February 13, 2011, 07:06:19 PM
Glitter,

I'm the same! I apologize in advance for redundancy, stttuttering, fat fingers, and my occasional world flip (radio clock).
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: seasage on February 13, 2011, 07:47:36 PM
For the first year or so, the rules were that one could modify or delete one's own post, and one could even delete one's own thread. Those were the rules.

Then Anna deleted her own posts and threads.  And that was called abuse of the rules, so the option to delete had to be removed.

Then someone modified her own post.  And that was called abuse of the rules, so the option to modify had to be removed.

Then seasage posted: the old rules were good rules!  And that was called abuse of the rules, and the option to post ...

 
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: holliberri on February 13, 2011, 07:49:44 PM
Quote from: holliberri on February 13, 2011, 07:06:19 PM
Glitter,

I'm the same! I apologize in advance for redundancy, stttuttering, fat fingers, and my occasional world flip (radio clock).

See...right there...I meant "word."

Seasage, you make me laugh.  :)
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on February 13, 2011, 08:14:51 PM
Posted elsewhere, repeated here"

Reading posts before I go back to bed and feeling inadequate at the moment because I obviously am.

My attempts to catch up have brought eye strain and headache. That's not anyone's fault, it's mine. My attempts to keep or restore the peace have likewise failed. Probably poor judgment on my part. My attempts to find ways to keep people from messing with each others work and continuity have also been unsuccessful. My fault again. I need to step away but that didn't work, either. It's my job and I am at present having trouble doing it well.

This is just a time of overwhelm and it is about me.
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: seasage on February 13, 2011, 09:01:25 PM
At WWU we pour out our stories from our bleeding hearts, often revealing facts that our families could use to identify us, and sometimes saying hurtful things about our family members.  We find sympathetic assistance, we learn to deal, and we heal.  This is true value.

But sometimes, as our hearts are healing, we realize that it would not be a good thing for our family members to find our writings here.  In that case, the ability to delete posts and threads is a good thing.  And sometimes one of our members simply becomes disgusted, and wants to pick up her notebook and go home!  I think that's what Anna wanted.

Some of us have complained about these deletions, either because posts have disappeared or because an existing post seemed to have no antecedent. 

Which purpose has the greater value: protecting the innocent so they can renew their lives with their families, or protecting our postings so they make sense?

I favor the former. 

seasage

P.S.  I think we should stop saying that Anna abused the rules.  She didn't.  She merely used them. 
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: LaurieS on February 13, 2011, 09:22:20 PM
Abuse of the system as it was set up is what caused the removal of the option to delete one's own postings.  It was viewed as continued abuse of the system when individual postings were modified from words to smiley faces. 

I could very well be wrong in my thinking but why would anyone post information about their private lives here on this type of forum if they had any reservations about their true identity being discovered?  We talk about facebook and how it comes back to bite people over and over again, yet we vent here quite openly without care.

If my dil happened on here, she'd know in a heartbeat who I am.. I knew that ahead of time.. never did I think that I would simply delete my on-line existence once I felt better about a situation.

I'd like to clarify.. I never said that Anna abused any rules.. we had no rules applying to deletions because honestly Luise didn't know that anyone could do this.  I said that Anna abused the system.
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: cremebrulee on February 14, 2011, 04:54:00 AM
Quote from: MILLS on February 13, 2011, 04:30:03 PM
Quote from: RedRose on February 13, 2011, 12:26:05 PM
Just maybe Anna has a good reason to delete all of her posts. Maybe she needed to get rid of the old and start out new....for a good reason.

Anna was here a long time .. I don't think there is anything wrong with what she did
Glad you didn't see anything wrong with it.. looks like Luise did.

And yes Creme, now everyone has lost the ability to modify their own postings... I asked Luise to reconsider doing this as only one person had become abusive, but it's her board and her ruling.

maybe, and I'm assuming, but perhaps Anna, didn't realize what she was doing and that she was deliberate with her actions, maybe she was, I don't know, but I do know that a lot of times, I don't know what I'm doing when I'm in here or how to do things within the forum?  I'm just saying, that's all?

and yes, it is her board and her ruling....however, I didn't understand, why all of a sudden you couldn't modify, thought it maybe was my computer, b/c a lot of times, not always, but a lot of times, when I'm posting, it jumps around and does crazy things...so...my bad, I didn't really know that the modify part was taken out.

sorry
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: cremebrulee on February 14, 2011, 06:09:22 AM
Quote from: luise.volta on February 13, 2011, 08:14:51 PM
Posted elsewhere, repeated here"

Reading posts before I go back to bed and feeling inadequate at the moment because I obviously am.

My attempts to catch up have brought eye strain and headache. That's not anyone's fault, it's mine. My attempts to keep or restore the peace have likewise failed. Probably poor judgment on my part. My attempts to find ways to keep people from messing with each others work and continuity have also been unsuccessful. My fault again. I need to step away but that didn't work, either. It's my job and I am at present having trouble doing it well.

This is just a time of overwhelm and it is about me.

Luise, how long now, has this forum been ongoing?  It started when? 

So, this was the first time this happened in all this time...big deal? 

I think there is way to much drama going on here about this, period, it's silly, and you are by far not to blame for any of this....period....

You have given us a place to come and pour our hearts out if need be, I cannot imagine, for a moment, how much effort and time you put into this site every single day of your life, to give us this priviledge....

Luise....sometimes poop happens, and it isn't through any fault of your own....it's just like when ever a new rule or system is developed, someone always finds they're way around it....it's unavoidable....and so, ok, something happened regarding Anna...big deal, there are a whole lot of other wonderful posts on here which matter....

As far as someone else loosing they're posts due to someone modifying they're threads, I can't tell you how many times I've lost work, poems, writing, etc...it happens....so, it's done, lets all move forward and forgetabout it, for Luise's sake....

whataya say....

We love you Luise and this is a very minute thing in the bigger picture of life....

Happy Valentines Day, Lady Leader and developer of WWU!!!!!

and happpy Valentines day to all you beautiful ladies out there, b/c without each other, we wouldn't be, we are sistas!!!!!!



Creme
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: lancaster lady on February 14, 2011, 06:47:22 AM
Hey Creme
I agree , why let someone who for some reason has ruined the trust in this forum ,consciously or not ,spoil the fun and the friendship the ladies have created .
This site helped me enormously ,and will help others too .
Please carry on with banners blazing .....
Luise:
Let's call it a gremlin in the works .....you do an amazing job ...and I salute you ..x
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: jill on February 14, 2011, 07:36:07 AM
I know when I joined this forum, I was a little worried that if my dd read my posts she would recognize herself.  Of course my name is changed, but I have freely expressed what has been happening.   Maybe Anna felt the same.  I don't know how to delete or modify, so that would not help.  Anyway, thank you Luise for this wonderful place to come, and to all you great ladies for your caring and advice.......Jill   
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 07:47:06 AM
Thank you for your kind and generous responses. Better days are ahead. Sending love...
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: pam1 on February 14, 2011, 07:54:49 AM
Quote from: jill on February 14, 2011, 07:36:07 AM
I know when I joined this forum, I was a little worried that if my dd read my posts she would recognize herself.  Of course my name is changed, but I have freely expressed what has been happening.   Maybe Anna felt the same.  I don't know how to delete or modify, so that would not help.  Anyway, thank you Luise for this wonderful place to come, and to all you great ladies for your caring and advice.......Jill

Oh I know, I'm worried all the time about someone finding my postings.  And I don't even use a different name!  I need to change it but I can't think anything cool.  Everyone else has cool names.  Hmph

I did modify one of my posts b/c I felt it gave too much info and I'd like that option again.  But it's not my board and since we all know up front what the rules are, I think it should be respected and kept in mind.  And it's not like we don't have the option of asking Luise to remove it either. 
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 08:06:51 AM
I sometimes think it would be fun to come here under another name, myself...believe it or not. I just don't think I could keep track of a parallel identity.  ???  All of my family and extended family know about M/R and WWU and some night take exception to my various posts and presentations over the years. I just rely heavily on their overall disinterest.  ;D
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Pooh on February 14, 2011, 08:11:37 AM
I have said several times that it would be easy for my DS or DIL to figure out who I am.  But here's the stance I take.  I have told nothing but the truth, it is how I feel (right or wrong) and if they see my posts, well maybe they will take something from them and want to mend the relationship......if not....what are they going to do?  Cut me off?  Not see me?  Not talk to me?  Ummm....they are already doing those things.  ;D
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Pen on February 14, 2011, 08:12:36 AM
There are days I'm not able to spend time here, so when the whole "modify madness" thing was happening I was out of the proverbial loop. Anna was one of the gals from my early days here, so I know her WWU BG and am really sorry she's not around. If indeed her sitch has improved, prompting deletion of her previous posts, I'm glad for her although I understand how annoying it was to have her delete other people's posts in the process, mine included I'm assuming. I do hope we can move on, and I will always wish Anna the best in her journey.

If my DIL/DS ever discovered I was here it would be the end. I try to be vague about details, but they're pretty smart. Luise, I think I'm relying on their "overall disinterest" as well - great phrase, BTW! There are times I wish I could erase all evidence, but once it's out in the cloud it's no longer under our control.

Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Anna on February 14, 2011, 08:17:38 AM
Hi Ladies.  I'm sorry for my behaviour.  I need a new start, & I've posted some things, that while true, I don't want people to see now.  Things have changed drastically in my life.  Some good, some bad.  Louise & Kirk, thank-you so much.  I didn't mean to be disrespectful to anyone, but expecially not to the two of you.  I.m sorry I've caused so much turmoil here, I didn't think that would happen. I guess I just didn't think.  I'm so sorry.  :'(
Sincerely Anna.
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Pooh on February 14, 2011, 08:21:25 AM
Hi Anna and welcome back sunshine!  You were doing what you thought was right for yourself.  I can not fault anyone for that.  It's a new day!
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 08:27:24 AM
Thanks, Anna. Sending love...
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: pam1 on February 14, 2011, 08:36:49 AM
Quote from: Pooh on February 14, 2011, 08:11:37 AM
I have said several times that it would be easy for my DS or DIL to figure out who I am.  But here's the stance I take.  I have told nothing but the truth, it is how I feel (right or wrong) and if they see my posts, well maybe they will take something from them and want to mend the relationship......if not....what are they going to do?  Cut me off?  Not see me?  Not talk to me?  Ummm....they are already doing those things.  ;D

I wish I could take that stance, it would just make it worse.  I feel like I'm dealing with people that will punch you in the face and then get mad at you when you cry about it.  Any weakness is exploited. 
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 09:34:50 AM
Done! Sending love...
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Pooh on February 14, 2011, 10:13:15 AM
Quote from: pam1 on February 14, 2011, 08:36:49 AM
Quote from: Pooh on February 14, 2011, 08:11:37 AM
I have said several times that it would be easy for my DS or DIL to figure out who I am.  But here's the stance I take.  I have told nothing but the truth, it is how I feel (right or wrong) and if they see my posts, well maybe they will take something from them and want to mend the relationship......if not....what are they going to do?  Cut me off?  Not see me?  Not talk to me?  Ummm....they are already doing those things.  ;D

I wish I could take that stance, it would just make it worse.  I feel like I'm dealing with people that will punch you in the face and then get mad at you when you cry about it.  Any weakness is exploited.

I guess that's pretty much why I have taken this stance.  With my DIL, it's not going to matter what I do right, she will find fault.  So it's not about her any longer, it's about me and what I need to do to heal.
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: pam1 on February 14, 2011, 10:27:56 AM
Quote from: Pooh on February 14, 2011, 10:13:15 AM
Quote from: pam1 on February 14, 2011, 08:36:49 AM
Quote from: Pooh on February 14, 2011, 08:11:37 AM
I have said several times that it would be easy for my DS or DIL to figure out who I am.  But here's the stance I take.  I have told nothing but the truth, it is how I feel (right or wrong) and if they see my posts, well maybe they will take something from them and want to mend the relationship......if not....what are they going to do?  Cut me off?  Not see me?  Not talk to me?  Ummm....they are already doing those things.  ;D

I wish I could take that stance, it would just make it worse.  I feel like I'm dealing with people that will punch you in the face and then get mad at you when you cry about it.  Any weakness is exploited.

I guess that's pretty much why I have taken this stance.  With my DIL, it's not going to matter what I do right, she will find fault.  So it's not about her any longer, it's about me and what I need to do to heal.

Hmm...didn't think of it that way.  Although the reason I do post here is about me and healing.  I need to shift some perspectives.
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Pooh on February 14, 2011, 10:42:48 AM
You have to choose what's right for you.  I chose this path after beating my head against the wall.  I got tired of replacing dry wall, so I now choose to live my life without them.  Does that mean that if they decided they want to have a relationship again that I will turn them away?  Nope.  Does it mean that I will not always wish it could have been different?  No.  Does it mean I miss my Son any less?  No.  It just means that I will not live my life to please them any longer and live my life to please people that appreciate it and appreciate me.  Life is too short and I was missing out on all it had to offer by concentrating on that.
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Rose799 on February 14, 2011, 10:47:19 AM
It's good to have you back, Anna!  How's your family?  I hope your dad is better... 
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 11:17:23 AM
(Now I'm feeling guilty because I passed on Curves because it's raining so hard.)
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: seasage on February 14, 2011, 11:39:20 AM
And it's good to have you back Laurie.  I was preparing to not like that old man Mills who usurped your good name.
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 11:44:43 AM
Are we doing identity crisis?

I tried that once. I gave myself another name and said all the stuff that a moderator can't. Then I couldn't stand myself because it wasn't who I am. I'm just a very old and rather worn out mama-bear. (Feeling a little better today, though.)
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: LaurieS on February 14, 2011, 11:54:03 AM
Actually I went no where, and I need to admit that my apology to Anna was far from sincere.  I have a really hard time here as in real life when people are so willing to shift blame at the drop of a hat, or plead ignorance.... I'm perfectly aware that this is how some people need to function, in order to function.. I guess I went to a different school of life and that school said that if you didn't have a clue who you are, succeeding in life will be much harder.

I asked Luise to delete my apology because it felt as nasty coming off my fingers as it would coming from my mouth.  It's simply not who I am... you can take me or leave me, or ask me to leave... I can live with any of the three.  oh and happy valentine's day :) as I have a feeling this posting will also be deleted.
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: LaurieS on February 14, 2011, 11:59:47 AM
Luise.. that was a term of endearment you deleted :)
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 12:01:14 PM
No way. Go eat some sugar. I did but I ate too much and now my insides aren't happy.

This is the first Valentine's Day since I was in the 7th grade that I have two Valentines...Val and Jim. One is very close but because of dementia...far away. And the other is very far away (2,500) miles but very close. Strange...
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: LaurieS on February 14, 2011, 12:07:04 PM
Hmm I'm going to feed my Valentines something red for dinner then tell him to go to his own rock hard bed and leave me alone.... Curves was fun today, I think I may have accidentally signed up for some all night walk-a-thon
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 12:19:00 PM
There's the Laurie we know and love!  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Pooh on February 14, 2011, 01:03:41 PM
Want me to tell you what I am doing???  Huh huh??? Lol!
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: LaurieS on February 14, 2011, 01:12:23 PM
Tonight as I stand looking at the man of my dreams, beginning to disrobe, I will think to take some oil and spread it over his chest and strong arms.  I can hear his loving words and see the warmth in his eyes.  Then we'll turn off the tv and head for bed, oh but not before taking a bite of my chocolate heart and one last sniff of the rose that he better be bringing me.
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Pooh on February 14, 2011, 01:16:45 PM
Now THAT's more like it!  :-*
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 01:20:17 PM
OK, new career in the making. A Great Romance Writer was birthed here! Paperbacks and the New York Times Best Seller List here we come....Nora Roberts...move over!!!

Lets see: Tonight I will...ah, tonight I will...well, maybe tomorrow night I will..what? I can't remember...
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: LaurieS on February 14, 2011, 02:01:59 PM
Yeah ok I made that up too, but it beats the heck out of the truth.. unless its Ashton Kutcher that I'm watching on tv.. now he's a cutie.. lol... and likes them a little older.. whoo haww my kinda guy
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: pam1 on February 14, 2011, 02:07:28 PM
I've got tears streaming down my eyes....take one last bite of chocolate LOL!

Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Pen on February 14, 2011, 07:05:34 PM
An older guy flirted with me today - he called me "little missy." I must be at that age where I look hot to widowers.

DIL is late getting home. Either he stopped at the hardware store to get supplies for an emergency home repair, or he stopped for flowers and chocolate. I don't care which, really...I've got a romantic dinner in the works, and if he wants to play handyman that's fine with me, LOL  ;)
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 07:12:19 PM
 ;D ;D ;D
Title: Valentines Day
Post by: LaurieS on February 14, 2011, 07:31:08 PM
My dh wanted to surprise me with dinner out.. would have been nice if he surprised me  a tad earlier before I cooked... so now I don't have to cook tomorrow night.

My favorite dish has been taken off the menu at the Mexican restaurant.. anyone know a recipe for this dish that I don't know the name of.. but it was grilled shrimp with pineapple, onion, and green peppers.. oh my goodness it was to die for.
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: luise.volta on February 14, 2011, 07:37:36 PM
Sounds scrumptious! And it sounds like you had fun! :D
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Nana on February 15, 2011, 02:59:29 PM
Anna:  I was out of circulation for some time due to technical problems (lol).....and when I came back I noticed you were not posting. 
I missed you because you are warm and you where one of the first people who I met when I joined this forum.  Welcome back.
Laurie
I love the way your are.....funny and straightforward.  We all have the right to our opinion.

Yum Yum.   These Mexican shrimp dish  sounds great.  I like sour-sweet dishes.  Chinese Food has something similar.  You can also try shrimp with coconut....delicious.

Love you

Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Anna on February 15, 2011, 06:26:53 PM
Thank-you Louise, Pooh, Pen, Redrose, Nana, Hope, Faith, & all the other ladies here that have helped me through some pretty rough times.  You'll never know how much I appreciate all of you.  (((((hugs)))))  Anna.
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Pen on February 15, 2011, 07:19:10 PM
That's what we're here for, Anna, as you are for us.

Laurie, I'll ask a friend who is the best Mexican cook there is. It shouldn't be too hard to duplicate the shrimp dish.

BTW, I got flowers and chocolate - no handyman :(  Well, sort of a handyman  ;)
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: Hope on February 15, 2011, 08:27:30 PM
Anna,
It's just good to have you back.  How is your Dad doing?
Hugs, Hope
Title: Re: Anna
Post by: LaurieS on February 15, 2011, 08:55:07 PM
Quote from: Pen on February 15, 2011, 07:19:10 PM


Laurie, I'll ask a friend who is the best Mexican cook there is. It shouldn't be too hard to duplicate the shrimp dish.

BTW, I got flowers and chocolate - no handyman :(  Well, sort of a handyman  ;)

Thanks Pen.. they use to make it for me but now they claim that the price of pineapples has gone up and it makes the dish to expensive... I think it's more like, not many people ordered it.. but ask her because I never would have thought pineapple,onion, and green bell peppers would be such a wonderful combination.