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Problem Solving => Daughter in Laws and/or Son in Laws => Topic started by: tryingmybest on April 25, 2015, 12:10:06 PM

Title: Well guess what?
Post by: tryingmybest on April 25, 2015, 12:10:06 PM
 ???It's funny I turned to this site to get me through my son's marriage to a manipulative controlling princess, and you were a Godsend.I detached with love, gave them space, gave up holidays stepped back and was the perfect non intrusive mother and MIL.  I gritted my teeth and bit my tongue and welcomed a grandbaby, and still never made a demand or complained or did anything worse. I made the adjustments, I moved on to live my life, and now not 5 years in, all the things I saw 5 years ago DS now sees, she has stopped caring enough about him one way or another to try and control him, and they are planning a DIVORCE. So Now what ? Arrrghhhh!!!!!
Title: Re: Well guess what?
Post by: Pen on April 25, 2015, 01:52:57 PM
"Arrgh" indeed...a lot of heartache & hassle could be prevented if only our AC felt comfortable hearing our thoughts on stuff instead of having to learn on their own, the hard way.

I'm never happy when a marriage fails, but sometimes it's inevitable and for the best. (((hugs)))
Title: Re: Well guess what?
Post by: luise.volta on April 25, 2015, 02:25:45 PM
DS has sure placed himself in a 'leaning' process. We did, too, at that age...or at least I did. All I know of to suggest is continuing to support him. You have done a marvelous job of that, so far. Sending hugs!
Title: Re: Well guess what?
Post by: Pooh on April 27, 2015, 09:29:49 AM
Continue exactly as you have been.  It's his issue to go through and all you can do is be supportive but detached.  You never know when all of a sudden, they decided to work it out.  Be Switzerland.
Title: Re: Well guess what?
Post by: Monroe on June 09, 2015, 06:58:58 PM
Quote from: Pooh on April 27, 2015, 09:29:49 AM
Continue exactly as you have been.  It's his issue to go through and all you can do is be supportive but detached.  You never know when all of a sudden, they decided to work it out.  Be Switzerland.

Pooh is exactly 1000% right.  Make that 2000% right.  I too would be Switzerland.  However, I would also do a very, very secret happy dance*.