???It's funny I turned to this site to get me through my son's marriage to a manipulative controlling princess, and you were a Godsend.I detached with love, gave them space, gave up holidays stepped back and was the perfect non intrusive mother and MIL. I gritted my teeth and bit my tongue and welcomed a grandbaby, and still never made a demand or complained or did anything worse. I made the adjustments, I moved on to live my life, and now not 5 years in, all the things I saw 5 years ago DS now sees, she has stopped caring enough about him one way or another to try and control him, and they are planning a DIVORCE. So Now what ? Arrrghhhh!!!!!
"Arrgh" indeed...a lot of heartache & hassle could be prevented if only our AC felt comfortable hearing our thoughts on stuff instead of having to learn on their own, the hard way.
I'm never happy when a marriage fails, but sometimes it's inevitable and for the best. (((hugs)))
DS has sure placed himself in a 'leaning' process. We did, too, at that age...or at least I did. All I know of to suggest is continuing to support him. You have done a marvelous job of that, so far. Sending hugs!
Continue exactly as you have been. It's his issue to go through and all you can do is be supportive but detached. You never know when all of a sudden, they decided to work it out. Be Switzerland.
Quote from: Pooh on April 27, 2015, 09:29:49 AM
Continue exactly as you have been. It's his issue to go through and all you can do is be supportive but detached. You never know when all of a sudden, they decided to work it out. Be Switzerland.
Pooh is exactly 1000% right. Make that 2000% right. I too would be Switzerland. However, I would also do a
very, very secret happy dance*.