Now a little background. His other gm, & her boyfriend, live 5 minutes away from ds & dil, the same distance as us. The reason they don't see Gramma as often is because she has a lot of problems. She drinks too much, dresses like a teenager, makes promises she never keeps, & pulls huge, attention seeking stunts. Gramma had a fire in her oven in her home, she blamed a poltergrist, there were knives sticking in her wall, she again blamed a poltergeist, even going so far as to have a priest come & bless their house. There is never anyone else around when these "poltergeist" activities happen. My dil doesn't believe for a minute there is a poltergeist, she told me that herself, she believes her Mom did it.
So...why does my dil reward this behaviour with the special little things from gc? My dh & I are the ones that are always there for them, & these little things our dil does really hurt. I am the full time caregiver of my gc so to know dil took something that was meant for us, & gave it to her Mom, well.....that's unbelievable, & I feel gs was confused by his Mom doing this, or he wouldn't have mentioned it to me.
Should I just let this go as I do a million other things, or should I talk to my ds about it? This one really hurt!!