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GM Wise Women,
I'm glad I found this group. It is interesting and enlightening reading the many posts. I am struggling this week with a text I got from my DIL. I am single and over 60. I have a modest income and my Christmas giving is reflective of my income. This year I gave my DIL a "canned food Safe". It looks like a regular can of soup, but is really a cool hiding place for money, jewels....anything you would want to stash. She sent a group text to my son -- her husband, and to me saying the following...
"it hurts my feelings that you thought this would be nice to send me for Christmas...please don't waste your money sending me things to hurt my feelings. If you feel this way towards me please don't bother...I have nothing else to say to you so please don't call me".
WOW -- I was shocked...but probably shouldn't have been, as our relationship has been strained for years. I did reply and told her that I meant no mal-intent, and that I actually thought this was a cool and clever gift...and that I was sorry.
I got no reply. I have been soooo sad and hurt......then angry......and hurt and sad some more. My son never replied to the text at all. I texted him separately and asked him to phone me when he is alone.....he texted and said he would not get in the middle of this.
I'm not sure what to do but to be still and quiet. And now....her birthday is next week.........
Any thoughts or advise?
I'm glad I found this group. It is interesting and enlightening reading the many posts. I am struggling this week with a text I got from my DIL. I am single and over 60. I have a modest income and my Christmas giving is reflective of my income. This year I gave my DIL a "canned food Safe". It looks like a regular can of soup, but is really a cool hiding place for money, jewels....anything you would want to stash. She sent a group text to my son -- her husband, and to me saying the following...
"it hurts my feelings that you thought this would be nice to send me for Christmas...please don't waste your money sending me things to hurt my feelings. If you feel this way towards me please don't bother...I have nothing else to say to you so please don't call me".
WOW -- I was shocked...but probably shouldn't have been, as our relationship has been strained for years. I did reply and told her that I meant no mal-intent, and that I actually thought this was a cool and clever gift...and that I was sorry.
I got no reply. I have been soooo sad and hurt......then angry......and hurt and sad some more. My son never replied to the text at all. I texted him separately and asked him to phone me when he is alone.....he texted and said he would not get in the middle of this.
I'm not sure what to do but to be still and quiet. And now....her birthday is next week.........
Any thoughts or advise?