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Problem Solving => Daughter in Laws and/or Son in Laws => Topic started by: 2chickiebaby on March 12, 2010, 09:01:11 AM

Title: Observation from my husband
Post by: 2chickiebaby on March 12, 2010, 09:01:11 AM
He asked me..."have we ever been disliked by anyone that we know?"

I said, "no, not to my knowledge"

Him:  "that should tell you something"
         (he talks in what I call "Circle Talk"...takes you round and round....Drives me crazy.

Anyway, I bit and asked, "what should it tell me?"

He said, The 2 DILs are very controlling and very territorial and that we are real threatst to them.  All interested parties
had to go so they could gain control.

Luise, what did you say control was about?  I'm telling you, I've never met anyone like these 2.
Title: Re: Observation from my husband
Post by: cocobars on March 12, 2010, 09:46:15 AM
Chickie, your husband is very supportive of you! 

That's a good thing! 
Title: Re: Observation from my husband
Post by: Marilyn on March 12, 2010, 09:53:45 AM
Listen to your Hubby Chickie :)

The way i see it.......Your DIL's should feel so blessed to have YOU as a MIL.

Control,is not love.........your love is genuine.............is this why they feel threaten?

Hold your head high Chickie,focus on your good qualities......You really deserve to be happy.
Title: Re: Observation from my husband
Post by: renny97 on March 12, 2010, 09:56:22 AM
Gotta love the simple way men look at things. He is very profound, too. Makes absolute sense.
Title: Re: Observation from my husband
Post by: 2chickiebaby on March 12, 2010, 10:13:55 AM
Ren, yes he is profound but the Circle Talk is really dreadful.

It's like he's a lawyer and I'm on the witness stand. 
Title: Re: Observation from my husband
Post by: renny97 on March 12, 2010, 10:22:08 AM
It is just "brainstorming"! LOL You two, sound like such a sweet couple!!! I love his input!
Title: Re: Observation from my husband
Post by: 2chickiebaby on March 12, 2010, 10:27:01 AM
Thank you, Renny.....no one can believe this happened to us.  I can't either.
Title: Re: Observation from my husband
Post by: cocobars on March 12, 2010, 01:14:19 PM
I believe your husband was trying to get you to see that you let them get to you when you shouldn't.  He may want you to realize what a good person you have always been, but two people out of hundreds have made you feel bad.  Maybe I'm wrong, but that's what I get from it.  I believe he's right and is supporting you and your well being.  You are such a wonderful woman that no two people should be able to upset like that.

Hugging you, Chickie! :)
Title: Re: Observation from my husband
Post by: Orly on March 12, 2010, 01:21:22 PM
Chickie,
I much prefer the "circle" talkers.  I have a "repeater".  Asks me the same thing over and over after I answer him.  Sometimes I'd like to get his attention with a two by four and then answer him..."Got it now honey?".   Thank heaven,  I listen to the angel on my right shoulder instead of the devil on the left one.  LOL.
Title: Re: Observation from my husband
Post by: 2chickiebaby on March 12, 2010, 01:25:25 PM
Orly, I  :D laughing here.....
Title: Re: Observation from my husband
Post by: cocobars on March 12, 2010, 01:29:04 PM
ROFLOL!!! ;D ;D ;D ;D

Chickie!  You have to go see what Orly left me in "Why do you suppose??!"

Orly, you're on a roll!!!

I'm so happy you're here!!!! ;D ;D
Title: Re: Observation from my husband
Post by: Marilyn on March 12, 2010, 03:54:46 PM
Orly,you are just a hoot!!!
I have laughed so hard tonight!!!


I love it!!! :)
Title: Re: Observation from my husband
Post by: Hope on March 12, 2010, 07:11:09 PM
Quote from: 2chickiebaby on March 12, 2010, 09:01:11 AM
He asked me..."have we ever been disliked by anyone that we know?"

I said, "no, not to my knowledge"

Him:  "that should tell you something"
         (he talks in what I call "Circle Talk"...takes you round and round....Drives me crazy.

Anyway, I bit and asked, "what should it tell me?"

He said, The 2 DILs are very controlling and very territorial and that we are real threatst to them.  All interested parties
had to go so they could gain control.

Luise, what did you say control was about?  I'm telling you, I've never met anyone like these 2.

CB, I'm so happy you have your DH by your side through all of this.  I agree with everyone else - that he is supporting you which is a good thing.  You are always so uplifting to everyone on this site and I can't bear to think of your dil's not being nice to you.  It's just incomprehensible that everyone else in your life likes you, but your own dil's show unacceptance.  Believe in yourself - you are a wonderful person.
Title: Re: Observation from my husband
Post by: luise.volta on March 13, 2010, 01:24:07 PM
Orly, you are the 2 X 4 Queen!!  ;D

Chickie - I like circle talk...oh, dear, what does that say about me? :o It seems to me that what DH said is very clear; if everyone else likes you except those two, it's them...not you.

I don't know, of course, what I said about control. It seems to me that it is about supremacy. I think you are an awesome person and no matter how non-threatening you were...the DILs came away threatened (by their own fears.)

Sending love!