If they do come around eventually and treat you with courtesy and respect then I'm all for giving that back to them, but for a fairly short period of time in my marriage my ex tried to have me become "Mrs. Mouse".......it didn't work, I walked away from him with a 4 year old, no job, no money, no education, no family close by and after 26 years of clawing my way out of that pit with an incredible amount of hard work, determination, some wonderful friends who were loyal and supportive and a refusal to compromise my dignity and standards of integrity, I find myself here. The cupcake ain't no competition compared to where I've been.
I defy anyone, including my son, to try to bring me back to "Mrs. Mouse".........ain't gonna happen.........hell will freeze over before Mrs. Mouse reappears, but perhaps in time, DIL will come to understand this and my son will go back to respecting me and treating me with the dignity I deserve. Up until recently he couldn't do enough for me, and maybe the day will come when I will give him the opportunity to treat me well again. He will have to EARN that opportunity.
Keys Girl's Rules
1. Never, ever, ever reward bad behavior from ANYONE including CHILDREN......adult or otherwise.
2. Always be able to stand on your own two feet, financially (I live very happily on Salvation Army store clothing and a budget that most people have for cat food)
3. Never forget #1 & #2
It's your life, your happiness, if you don't find the strength to make it happen, nobody else will, but they will kick your butt while you sit around looking for strength because they can and will have a buncha fun while they do it. Give them another target. Let them know that if they mess with you there will be consequences, big ones, and that includes "BA-BYE".........it's not a threat, it's a standard of behaviour that you won't accept because you deserve better.
Here's a little tip........fake it till you make it if you aren't feeling strong.......and don't tell a soul. They will never know.