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Messages - nikncon

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Thanks everyone.You may close this topic now Luise.
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You are so right Luise.Had a good night's sleep in campground.DH gone to get me  a hot chocolate at Tim Horton's .Rain in  Niagara  Falls today.Maybe will have to go to casino.Spending DS 's inheritance. ;)
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You ladies brought up a lot of interesting points.First of all my DS never helps when he visits.I don't mean building a fence or even mowing the lawn.When DS had bought a house about seven years ago.DH and I went to visit.DH cut the grass and went to buy a coffee maker because DS didn't have one.I just wanted DS to do a few things.Change a battery in clock which is in foyer.Yo u do need a ladder.The whole carpet cleaner episode started when DS bought one and told me how great it was.I bought one .i had told him that next time he came to visit because we were gone all winter he could show me how to use it.It would not release or pick up water so DS said that it was defective .Anyways DH who is retired and never stops golf,fishing,hunting,camping etc put it in the car.We returned it and got a new one.The box is still intact.I think that DS is selfish since he is alone and does as he wants.DS is on a stress leave at the moment.Since he is always bored when I call I thought that having him do a few small things would make him feel useful.Eating,going to the gym and texting seem to be all he cares about.I wish that I could tell him how I feel about his visit but I hate to make matters worse.I also gave DS a nice amount of money to pay  off his new vehicle.So maybe now you might understand why I was so upset.I guess that DS will never change.He is in counselling butI don' think DSwill bring this up.I am inNiagara Fallsnow in our beautiful slightly used fifth wheel that we picked up on our way here.I am with nature.Life is good.I called DS and he spoke to me and he seemed fine and said Love you mom.What more can I say.Goodnight friends.xx

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Thanks for all the advice ladies.The weekend visit didn't go very well.My DS arrived and the first day was okay.The second morning DS just laid around .I made lunch.I asked DS to show me how to use a new rug cleaner that I bought a few months ago.He started the machine but it wasn't working properly.I asked DS to put it in my car and we could return it for another one.DS laid down on the bed for over an hour.So DH put the machine in car and DH and I returned it.When we got back DS was leaving for the gym.He had dinner then DS went to a movie because we were getting ready to leave tomorrow morning to pick up our camper.I had asked DS to do a few things like change battery in clock on wall.NO.I asked if he could try out the new rug cleaner,NO.Still  in box.Day three.DH is working outside and could use a hand but would never ask.So NO help.We did watch a movie on second night.DS had a box of almond chocolates and didn't even offer us one. :( Day three back to gym after laying around all morning.Oh.He did cut up a box for recycling after zi put the box cutter in his hand.So day three again I went out to dinner with DS .Made small talk.I felt like saying" Why are you so lazy when you visit??? Why is it just me myself and I?? But I didn't.So tonight we had told my DS that tomorrow morning we were leaving at 8:30 to pick up camper three hours away and camp there for a few days.I was not in a very good mood I must admit .I had a bit of a cold for the last four days to top it all.So at 9pm tonight DS who was sulking in his bedroom while we watched tv says that he's leaving tonight so that he won't have to leave early with all the traffic going back to city.DS said that I had said he was lazy .I may have mentioned something about helping out but I don't recall specially saying that DS was lazy.Now DS has gone home.I' m angry at him.Angry at myself and dad that the visit did not go well.Leaving for camping tomorrow.Any wise words? Sorry about my rambling but I am exhausted and don't know what to do or say next. :'(I hope that you can follow my story.Pretty mixed up like me.
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Is that what we are wearing??? The banners??.hehe...
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Grab Bag / Re: Greetings from California!
May 05, 2013, 01:52:29 PM
Thanks Kirk.What a great lady.Have fun.xx :D
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Hi Jane.Feel so bad for GC. Hope that they can be in your county but in a stable and loving home.They deserve it.Good luck.

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Hello friends.I need your advice.My DS is coming to visit for a few days.When he called DS asked if the two of us could go out for dinner one night and would DH mind.DH is not my son's father..I would love to go with DS but I don't want to hurt DH's feelings.I'm sure that DH would say sure no problem but I feel guilty about leaving him home alone.If his DS would want to do that with his DF I would be happy for them to have some time alone together.Helpxx
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I find that with my DS I prefer to wait until he calls.Then DS is not busy or not in the mood to talk.Boys are so hard to understand.If I haven't called for three or four days he'll call and asked why I haven't called.Can't win:)
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Going for a message for my sore neck and shoulder.
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Who cares what the "kids"s think?? We can have a lot of fun too right???    :)))
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Well MD  will be here soon so we need something really crazy on this cruise.Any more great  ideas?? I'm packing already.Don't forget the camera[move 8)
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Yes KG .I think that the terminology in the States is different.My GFR is 64 which is apparently normal here but an opinion from a nephrologist next Tues will  make me feel better.I hope that you get to see a neph. in Canada.A second opinion won't hurt but you'll have to pay out of your pocket if you start seeing someone in the south.Good luck.
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Hi KG.I had my lab tests redone and now my eg for is 64 which apparently in Ontario is good.I will still go see the nephrologist that I got by myself because I have blood in my urine.My NP has no idea why and didn't say to follow up.The care in Ontario is not great compared to States as far as I can see.Good luck with your appt.
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Luise,I love the idea of the glass table with the photos.You can look at them anytime.No albums to pull out.Must try that.Do you have a photo of the table? xx