Quote from: Pooh on August 16, 2013, 08:25:17 AMat some point, you realize there is nothing to get. It is what it is and looking for the why's will drive you bonkers.
Thanks, Pooh, I needed to hear this today. I have better and worse weeks dealing with the situation with my son. His aunt is taking him to visit colleges today, and I'm struggling, because, in an ideal world, I would love to be the one going with him. But we don't currently have that kind of relationship, and while I absolutely own my part in that (including the fact that I've distanced myself from him out of a sense of self-preservation, for good or ill) it does hurt that his father and his aunt get to be involved in his life in ways I'm not. I have to keep reminding myself that, it is what it is, and it's not really my job to understand, necessarily. Just to accept the reality and make my own decisions about how to proceed in my own life.