I am also new to this site as I have recently been through this situation with my DS and DIL. They recently had their first child and my first grandchild. There is a long story behind the issues but it all comes down to my DIL doesn't want my family in their lives. I have recently just pulled myself out of what these ladies call "the abyss" deep depression and heartache over what I feel is my DS betrayal and also trying to figure out why someone who supposedly loves my son would keep him from his family. As well as keep her child from their loving grandparents. I too went to counseling to try to work through the pain. My therapist told me to continue inviting them to family functions, sending cards and gifts even though I am always turned down and never thanked. She tells that my son will be grateful and will know in his heart that his mother is will love him no matter what. So this is what I have continued to do although many times I ask myself if this is all worth it. But I pull myself back up and continue forward. The ladies here have advised me to focus on my husband and our life together. This is what I am trying to do. Some days are harder than others but I just have to keep my thoughts away from the situation otherwise I sink fast. I can only hope that one day my DS realizes that his family needs him. I will keep you in my thoughts. I truly know your pain.