Also, there is the matter of the othe GM. She is the picture perfect grandma (and I personally like her), she is over the moon for our GD, always popping in to see her, buying her gifts, making plans that my DD really doesn't want to do like lunch or other little get togethers. I am not that type of gooshy gooshy type person and feel very conflicted about how I should act.
Also, and this is really weird and makes me feel terrible, but GD is the spitting image of SILs side of the family. She looks nothing like my side. It's terrible of me to admit this, but when I hold her, she doesn't feel like she's "mine".
I don't know. This whole grandmother thing just doesn't come naturally to me. Today when I tried to apologize to my DD for not being the GM her MIL is, she told me she honestly didn't think about either one of us (her MIL or myself) all that much and to get over it. I have to laugh at that, at least she is honest and certainly I am lucky not to be shut out of her life.
Maybe I'm just too sensitive and subconsciously don't want to get too close so that I don't get hurt...I do have issues with this. It makes me sad. I do love her, but it's just not what my friends seem to feel about their grandkids. Ah well. It helps to write about it. More than I realized. I hope this wasn't too rambling. I haven't posted on here much, but it is one of the most useful forums on the web...thanks for listening everyone.