While she was in the hospital she was so appreciative of me and her father. Always apologizing for what she had put us through and expressing her love. I stayed with her the entire hospital stay. Now that she is back home she has turned on me in the worst way. She refuses to take care of herself. When I suggest something (like brush your teeth or shower) she screams at me to leave her alone. She tells me I am controlling and that I have a mental problem. Before Christmas I had given her some money to buy gifts. She went shopping with a girlfriend and bought gifts for her dad, her girlfriend, and a young man that has been coming around but nothing for mom. Christmas Eve when she opened her gifts she left the room and went into the bathroom and cried her eyes out because I wouldn't give her a phone back that had dope dealers numbers and all kinds of distasteful content on it (I had the service to the phone turned off). When she came back into the living room I made a comment about the crying over the phone. She went into a tirade and ended up spitting on me.
She continues to be hateful and demeaning towards me. I went to counselling and the dr. didn't really give me any suggestions on how to deal with her.
She is currently working on having a prosthetic fitted but most of the time uses a wheel chair. She is always late for appointments even though I try to get her up in plenty of time. If I try to hurry her along she just screams at me and throws something at me. I make her appointments late in the day because she sleeps a lot.
She tells her friends how horrible I am (not that I care about what her friends think). She uses and manipulates her so called friends so that she can get around and "get away from mother". I have done nothing but help her any way I can including providing health insurance for her.
It just makes me sad.